I used to think a bra had to have wiring to be the least bit alluring, but I have come to see the error of my ways: wireless bras can be plenty hot, as evidenced by this double-strap number.
I own this triangle bra from Negative Underwear and wear it even as I type: it’s just as supportive as any bra I’ve ever tried, and it has a nice, deep plunge.
I like the daisy pattern on this cute one.
And I think the color combination here is just stupendous.
I never think that bras the color of my flesh are sexy, but this one just about clears the bar.
The zigzaggy pattern here is just so good. It’s idling in my shopping cart at the moment.
A lace plunge bra from a newish brand called Lively that offers pretty and deeply affordable lingerie.
This lace triangle bra is so pretty that I’d wear it with something low-cut so that a little bit of it peeked out.
This looks pretty luxe, but it’s dirt cheap.
I dig the mix of patterns here.
And the zebra pattern here is just stupendous.
How cute is this floral specimen from Madewell?
Every lingerie drawer deserves a little leopard print, am I right?
Such a pretty, feminine bra, and it doesn’t cost a fortune.
And finally: the sheerness here is just so good.
These are all gorgeous and look pain free.. thanks for sharing.
As a small-chested broad who can barely bother with bras at all, I appreciate these! I know I look better with a little something but I don’t need, nor do I want, underwires.
Not about underwear, just wanting to thank the folks who pointed me towards Haptic Labs quilt coats, and to thank Kim for mentioning Haptic Labs in a previous post. I got an absolutely lovely coat today in their sample sale. And another thanks to Kim for providing a forum for so many opinions and recommendations. About underwear: I have that Wacoal bra in black and I absolutely love it (I’m a 34A, maybe A+ with pandemic weight gain that I believe will be a permanent reminder of this time)
I wonder if boob size is another grass-is-greener area of life, in which we all sort of wonder if the other side is better. It would not surprise me. … … I barely remember the time before they were there, and I will say I miss the freedom. (I once dreamed about it.) Otoh I don’t really deploy mine.
See, I have a feeling I might not get on with the sort of bloke who likes big chests. Yet the kind of men who prefer a smaller chest probably want someone thinner overall. Ohhhhhh welllllll … … It could also be totally random and have nothing to do with anything. I wonder if someone has done a survey.
None of the links are working for me (“rstyle.me refused to connect”). This happens quite often, but not always, so it would be nice if you maybe mentioned the shop or designer name so I could look for things I fancy?
That sounds really annoying, Laurel. I’ll look into it. Anyone else having this problem?
It might be because I’m in Europe.
These are all adorable and, unfortunately, not going to work for me or any other DD sized person. Any other GOACA’s have any good resources for bras for larger cup sizes? Especially wireless.
I like wires, but I bet the site I use – herroom.com – has tons of wireless options.
Try Bravissimo.com. They carry cute bras from several brands in cup sizes DD to H, and more in some styles.
I like and wear almost daily these: https://www.soma.com/store/product/enbliss+bralette/570222599?color=719&catId=cat11489275 and https://www.soma.com/store/product/enbliss+racerback+bralette/570253098?color=3920&catId=cat11489275
I’m a 34DD and wear the Soma Enbliss Bralettes. Very supportive.
Nothing you haven’t heard of already. Playtex’s 4693 is supportive enough for low-impact exercise. It is a bit difficult to get the size right, ime. … … … I think for high-impact it would have to have underwire – but, it has been a long time since I shopped for such a bra, so it could be that there is elastic out there that is up to the challenge. … … … Anyhow I gather this post is for cute bras to wear around the house, not for exercise. I noticed that the leopard one did come in larger sizes. I guess I could wear a bra under it? ; ) It is awfully cute.
Yes! These might be for A-B folks. I fortunately tried on the all-lace B Tempt’d before buying, and boy , was it not up to the job. The SA steered me to Wacoal’s 852191 Embrace Lace Soft Cup Bra and am wearing it right now…
I just got one from Curvy Kate that I’m trying out. It’s pretty comfy and it’s cute. I know I should care about the style as much as I do but here we are 🙂 I’m not in the US but have used herroom.com before when I did live there. I can also recommend shock absorber for sports bras. For underwire bras nothing beats Panache in my opinion and their customer service is amazing. Fwiw I’m a 30E/65E bra size.
Hard pass for old boobs. For context, I’m an A, so I can’t imagine any of these working under clothes. I suppose if I’m hot and just want to wander around the house in my underwear.
I’ve got a couple of bras from Lively, and while the price is right and they’re pretty cute, they are not my favorites. I just didn’t find them to be as comfortable as I hoped for. The Negative Underwear ones sound fab, tho. Going to try one!
I got a bra from Lively that I really liked – I think it was their tshirt bra — but it fell apart in under a year.
I’ve actually had good luck with the Lively bralette that Kim linked here! I own it in black and red, and wish I’d bought the almond before it sold out in my size. I think it’s both incredibly comfortable and sexy. I’ve been pretty happy with the quality, but I’m also one of those people who always hand washes their bras. I also had the t-shirt bra and did like it, but I don’t think I’d re-purchase an actual bra from them again. Both the ThirdLove and Gap t-shirt bras are better quality.
I’m not sure that “sexy” bras exist for big boobs! I suppose it depends on what you find sexy … that said, all of the above are mighty cute.
I love Beija (https://beija.london/collections/all-bras), they are wired BUT super comfy and pretty and who knows! maybe even sexy. Since I’ve discovered them, I haven’t worn anything else. They also make great bikinis for big boobs, just in case we ever go swimming again.
Agreed. I’m a 34DD and have no luck with wireless bras. I’ve ordered a few and the band doesn’t stay put. I’m also not enamored of wearing a glorified sports bra. My old boobs would love another option! These sure are pretty though.
Bravissimo (bravissimo.com) has always been great for DD+ sizes. I used to shop there exclusively before I had a breast reduction as they actually had cute styles in my size. Here’s the non-wired selection: https://www.bravissimo.com/us/collections/non-wired-bras/
Oh, Rita! I have been dreaming of a reduction for years. I have tried to do research but it is so overwhelming and the expense is pretty breathtaking (I am an artist and SAHM so very often even the price of jeans on GOACA is breathtaking!) Anything you wish you had known or tips on researching best doctors? Sorry to Kim for hijacking.
Katy, I apologize for not checking this post out sooner! I did not mean to ignore you. FYI, there’s a website (www.abplsurg.org) where you can check to see if your surgeon is board certified. It’s on the right side of the page. You can also enter in your location and a list of all the certified plastic surgeons in your area will pop up.
Honestly, my only regret was not having it done sooner. It’s been three years, the scars are minimal and have faded nicely, and I’ve got perky boobs for the first time in my life. I had eight pounds removed going from a JJ to a D cup. What a relief. My surgeon was a woman and thankfully listened to me. Though it was impossible to get me to the A cup I wanted to be, lol, the D fits my frame and is not anywhere near as big as I thought. Like Hannah mentioned, I checked RealSelf too, and it’s all those things you mentioned. But in the end, I have no regrets and would do it again in a heartbeat.
I hope you were able to see this comment.
Ooh, I’ve always wondered how much my breasts weigh!
I had a reduction in 2009, definitely very happy I did it and totally worth it. However I do wish I had been more aggressive about really exploring my options for getting as small as I wanted. I don’t think the male surgeon understood why I would want to have very tiny breasts if possible 🙄
It is possible to get it covered by insurance in some cases if that is an option for you. I can recommend going on realself.com and reading what people have to say there. Don’t go with a surgeon just because you paid the consultation fee of it doesn’t feel right or you don’t think the surgeon understands what you want. Hope that helps!
Thanks, Hannah! I have heard of cases where the surgeon agreed to a small size but when the patient wakes up, they are still a much larger size than agreed on, which would make me livid. It feels very paternalistic and very much aimed towards becoming/remaining desirable to the male gaze when I just want to be comfortable in my skin. I went for a consultation several years ago and they told me that they wouldn’t reduce me below a D cup (from current size 32G), which kind of took the wind out of my sails. I don’t want to pay $12,000 to $20,000 for something that isn’t exactly what I want. I have gone on realself and find it interesting, creepy, fascinating, scary, gross, ALL the feelings! Appreciate the info!
I wholeheartedly agree – I really dislike the uni-boob that compression sports bras give me.
Cleo by Panache do nice wireless bras for big girls. I’m wearing one (Lyzy) as we speak. You might have to look on ebay in the US.
Love Panache and Cleo by Panache!
Am torn between hating wires and wanting the support so I’m likely to give a Negative Underwear a try but the triangle one pictured here looks like it might pucker in spots if you don’t fill it all out.
Bra brands with pretty bras for bigger cup sizes: Fantasie, Freya, Panache, Charnos, Curvy Kate, Chantelle, Ewa Michalak, Conexim.
The subreddit ABraThatFits and bratabase. com are great resources for sizing and fit questions for these and other brands.
Kim, maybe you could get a guest poster for this one? There are tons of resources and tons of availability.
Immediately ordered two of the Negative Underwear bras. I’m tempted by the Les Girls Les Boys red and pink number because I’m so desperate for something colorful which is, I believe, part of my Post Traumatic Trump Presidency where I feel like I’ve spent the last four years in a monochromatic grey dystopian world.
All these bras look like they’re for a,b, maybe c cups. Where are the sexy bras for girls with bigger girls?
OK busty ladies, I hear that this British brand is good: https://www.bravissimo.com/us/
Also, the Strategist just did a pretty good post on just this topic: https://nymag.com/strategist/article/best-wireless-bras-for-large-breasts.html
Thank you Kim, from a DDD gal!
Yes! Bigger sizes please!
My personal favourites for the busty among us:
Parfait in Adriana, Mia, or Dalis styles
Montelle Wirefree
Aerie Eyelash lace in the DDD sizes (that’s as big as they go, but they’re stretchy).
Oh no, my line breaks didn’t show up! OK, I’ll try this again: Parfait in Adriana, Mia, or Dalis styles. Montelle Wirefree. Aerie Eyelash lace in the DDD sizes (that’s as big as they go, but they’re stretchy).
https://www.barenecessities.com/ is a great site that carries ALOT of brands listed above(Panache, Wacoal, Freya, etc) and you can shop by brand or bra size. They even separate out DD+ and plus size. Lots of small band size/large bust size options. OH! And their online chat fit consultants are actually helpful! Often sales and free shipping and returns. Essential for finding the right bra. I wear wired bras – but have a few Cosabella bralettes for lounging. https://www.barenecessities.com/product.aspx?pf_id=CosabellaNEVER1310
Bustier 34 DDD here. Dong them does anyone else feel their chest/shoulders have expanded as you age? No one told me about this lovely post-menopause effect. Thanks to Kim, I’m trying my first wireless. Fruit of the Loom three pack. Like it…so I’ll keep trying them out.
Just purchased a few different wireless/wirefree bras that I’m not hating. I’m a 38D for reference:
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/calvin-klein-lounge-bralette?ID=3728816 (think I’ll get a 2nd one of these)
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/b.temptd-by-wacoal-future-foundation-metallic-wirefree-bra?ID=3792688
https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/hanro-touch-feeling-bralette?ID=3896196 (strictly for at-home lounging, but pretty comfy — wearing it right now. I do love Hanro products, even if they’re spendy.)
This is very comfortable for winter time (but not the sexiest) when straps are not showing under layers:
https://www.soma.com/store/product/enbliss+bralette/570222599
I’m also wearing an Old Navy sports bra that I got several years ago for yoga, but I have been wearing it a LOT in the past year. I wish I could get another one at ON, but it was discontinued probably same year. It’s also great for my daily walk. I’m wondering, if the strappy ON one listed in the Strategist recommendations is similar. May have to check it out for $15!
I have tried Wacoal wireless bras, but to compensate for the no-wire, they have really strong whale-bone sides — pretty much moved the wire to the sides and they become excruciating as the day wears on.
I’ve been very tempted to get the Lively bras (esp the busty bralette), as I like the look of them quite a bit. I did order one through Madewell last spring, but they ended up canceling the order. I heard that Lively was bought by Wacoal and were having some issues last spring with order fulfillments. But the reviews are too mixed.
Figleaves and HerRoom are great sites that carry options for narrow torso (28 and 30 bands) and larger cup sizes well beyond DD. Prima Donna bras and Empriente bras are very well made with a great range of sizes. They aren’t cheap but the comfortable support and shaping are worth it IMO.