- A selection of Queen Victoria’s mourning jewelry is set to go up for auction at Sotheby’s on March 24, and some of the pieces are just remarkable. (Town & Country)
- I’m loving the work by these female street photographers. (Colossal)
- Check out this free bystander intervention training to help stop anti-Asian hate crimes. (Hollaback!)
- Oh, this is just great: watch Yo-Yo Ma give an impromptu concert at the Covid vaccine clinic where he had just gotten his second dose. (The Guardian)
- The 13 best movies over four hours long. (Vulture)
- The best, worst, and loudest looks from the Grammies. (The Cut)
- Have you listened yet to this week’s episode of Everything is Fine yet? It’s all about weed, and really quite educational. Also, we’ve got a Patreon now—subscribe for all sorts of exclusive content, EIF swag, and more. (Apple Podcasts)
- These tattoos of flora and fauna by artist Joanna Swirsca are really quite something. (Colossal)
- I adore Daveed Diggs, and really enjoyed this look at his SoCal home. (Architectural Digest via Go Fug Yourself)
- Fascinating: the ruins of the first Western Black monarchy, in Haiti. (Messy Nessy Chic)
- Such a lovely, affectionate piece about the beloved and recently deceased fragrance vlogger/shoe salesman Carlos Powell. (Ny Times)
- I’m intrigued by the fact that Broad City‘s Ilana Glaser is taking a break from comedy to star in a new film about IVF called False Positive. (The Cut)
Queen Vickie’s mourning jewelry is fascinating! And Daveed Diggs’ home is gorgeous! And so full of colorful, vibrant personality. It makes me think I’ve got to be more daring in my decor choices.
I love this site. I’ve found so many cute things on it. I think you might have mentioned the violence against Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders in past Friday links (but not last week’s either), but it makes me sad that none of the amazing thought pieces were mentioned on the links today. You do a great job of highlighting Black women and history (even today’s piece on Haiti), and I love those stories and history. But, part of our problem as an AAPI community is our invisibility. It has contributed to the stereotyping around us and allowed others to make light of our experiences and own racist history with this country. This week especially, that omission hurts.
So, I’m linking to this highly relevant piece featured in Time, “We Are Always Waiting Our Turn to Be Important.”
https://time.com/5947724/a-love-letter-to-asian-americans/
Elizabeth, I’m sorry I let you down. I thought the article I did link to contained really useful information, and—after last week’s events—I felt strongly that I wanted to learn what I could do to make a difference—rather than read yet another think piece that enrages but doesn’t necessarily inspire one to action. Maybe that was wrong.
@Kim France – Apologies. I was having a particularly bad day and had commented on a few other posts that vaguely condemned hatred, but did not mention against who or why. I missed the link in this post.
@kimbersam – Allies are important. But if allyship is only given if a POC or community says truths or comments in a way that does not offend or hurt feelings, I question whether it is even allyship. Allies leave space to listen and let POC process because we never have space to process, and we are rarely heard. We are always exhausted because having these conversations is hard and, most of the time, is more emotionally fraught and taxing for us than the white person with whom we are having them. Because those conversations force us to relive our experience of being not the supremacy while white people get to live their lives not even thinking about race. We force ourselves into your whiteness and your definitions, and then anytime anyone challenges why those definitions and that supremacy of culture exist, you say we’re not doing it in the right way so of course you don’t have to act. Thanks for listening.
I’m about as liberal as you can be but the shaming of allies has.got.to.stop.
Sincere question here–if someone feels hurt by the actions of another, is there a way to express it that wouldn’t be potentially viewed as shaming the person whose actions had that impact of hurt? Would it be less shaming to your perspective if that was a private message rather than on the comment board? Or is it the expression of hurt and disappointment itself that is shaming? This is something I have been wrestling with in myself and am curious as to how others approach this.
Thanks, kimbersam, and well put.
I truly appreciated the link to sign up for bystander intervention training and signed up immediately. It is a relief to find that there is a (very small) thing I can do after reading the think pieces. The essay Elizabeth linked to in comments was powerful in showing the personal horror of racism and its many echoes, iterations and effects through the life and history of the writer. I feel a weight in my chest made of anger, fear, exhaustion, helplessness, and sadness. Thanks to both Elizabeth and Kim for your contributions. One showed me the way to a greater empathy and the other showed me the way to try to help make change.
I agree with you, Elizabeth. A mass murder happened this week where six AAPI women were targeted for their race and killed. Why is there a lack of comments or discussion about this? I’m a longtime follower of this blog and I’ve read more comments about people’s dislike for jumpsuits or fanny packs. smh
Do you think that’s an entirely fair criticism of what is primarily a shopping blog, Helen? I’d say that commenters here have more than exhibited an interest and concern regarding any number of social ills. Also, why presume that readers of this blog are sharing their thoughts about the mass murder here?
One of the (many) things I like about Friday links is the reprieve my eyes/wallet get from temptation. Not today – but at least I don’t have to worry about a Patreon membership not fitting – EIF and I have proven to be a great fit!
Sigh. Can’t read those weekly articles behind a paywall.
That mourning jewelry – wow!!
Usually I save the links for Saturday and Sunday perusal, but I jumped right on the Daveed Diggs & Emmy Raver-Lampman house tour. So worth it. So glad I did. What a great upbeat happy couple and what a beautiful and NOT ostentatious house. Thank you, Kim! Hope everyone has a positive weekend.
The old Sisters of Mercy fan in me really wants that Alice pin!
I hate to sound like one of the thoooose people … and I’m kind of just trying to keep up, or at least, not be too far behind … anyhow, isn’t Africa part of the West? I thought there were at least a few monarchies there too. (They maybe don’t end up in Match as often?) But, I could be wrong. My impression was that everything not East must be West. Hmm. I don’t know, though. Now I have confused myself. Never mind…
Okay, I hope this is the appropriate time to say these things, on a Friday with a multi-topic post. These are off-topic. First, I have made the amazing discovery that jasmine polyanthum is a great cut flower (the spray kind with the small pink buds). All this time, I’d been assuming it wasn’t bc professional florists never use it. Not so. Same with honeysuckle, btw. (At least, the kind we have. It’s light yellow/cream-color flowered.) And second, I watched the Nanook movie. (Sorry, i meant to remind people it was coming on, but I forgot.) I found it really very moving. Oh, I should say, this version was re-something-or-othered in 1998, so maybe they took a bunch of offensive things out? One would need to be some kind of an idiot not to feel tremendous admiration for this family. And, they seemed happy together and very healthy, too, which is saying something given the environment. It looks like a very hard life. I guess probably no one lives it anymore. I thought it was an amazing film and I’m glad I watched it. Sorry I went on so long about it!