What indulgence are you not likely to give up any time soon ?

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Once or twice a month, I send flowers from Urbanstems to myself—they cost about as much as dinner at some fabulous restaurant (if you provide the vase, even less), but last so much longer. The most recent arrangement I sent myself was this happy yellow one,  which I put in a silver vase. It has brightened my days immeasurably. How about you? What are you not about to skimp on?

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    D.Morgendorffer
    26 Oct 2020
    2:06pm

    Mayorga coffee, European drugstore bath products, and books (read this weekend a lovely translation of Marina Tsvetaeva called, Dark Elderberry Branch). Reading everyone’s lists is fun in the same way as when Rat recites his picnic packing list to Mole in Wind in the Willows. Rat notes that other animals tell him of his picnic list that he’s “a mean beast and cut it very fine!” Yes, yes! To be a mean beast who cuts it very fine for the picnic!

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      Hannah
      27 Oct 2020
      6:04am

      One of my favorites! I found a free audiobook a while back, unabridged with a fantastic narrator. I put it on sometimes at bedtime and it’s just so soothing:
      https://librivox.org/the-wind-in-the-willows-by-kenneth-grahame-solo/

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      Viajera
      26 Oct 2020
      3:42pm

      Oooh. Wind in the Willows. Time to re-read. I lovvvve those guys. That is the one with the speeding Toad driver, right? (Not to worry, will google.) … … Hey, speaking of beloved stories. Does anyone remember an animated cartoon from the early 70s that featured a lady with a garden, and she got some mail? I know this is rando even for me, but, I know I saw it, and no one ever knows what it was. Even film type people. Though, perhaps they know and don’t want to admit it. (I’ll google this too.)

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    Another Rebecca
    26 Oct 2020
    9:05pm

    Those are lovely! I wish I could have fresh flowers in my house. Every time I try, my cat thinks I’ve brought back the salad bar.

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      Mamavalveeta03
      27 Oct 2020
      12:55am

      Same!

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    Gablesgirl
    26 Oct 2020
    6:56pm

    Peloton classes, monthly pedicure, fresh orchid plants, good quality butter, expensive pet food for my Basset Hound, wine, bourbon, Prozac. I have added to my monthly community contributions more houseware and clothes donations, moderating Zoom calls for free (I’m pretty good at doing panels and workshops) and volunteer time with the Girl Scouts.

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    jo
    26 Oct 2020
    11:54am

    a friend sent me the most beautiful and long lasting parrot tulips from Farmgirl Flowers –no reason, just a surprise, so i have been periodically ordering flowers from them to pass along the joy and hopefully help them sustain their business during these trying times. Next time–i order for me!

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      Jeanne
      26 Oct 2020
      12:21pm

      We also just received a bouquet from Farmgirl Flowers and it was absolutely stunning. Our bouquet was prearranged and came with more flowers than on the website. Additionally it had a theme! It was wrapped in a peach, canvas flag that said GRIT as encouragement for when times are tough. And that’s not all! A portion of proceeds went to support basic needs for undocumented farm workers in financial trouble because they can’t access gov’t assistance. I had never heard of them before but count me super impressed.

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        Tay
        26 Oct 2020
        3:52pm

        dry cleaning our linen duvet cover and sheets. i started doing it as a way to be sure my fave green dry cleaner has enough business since we aren’t sending as many clothes as we did before COVID. Never going back. it truly is the little things.

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          Glitsy Gus
          27 Oct 2020
          1:03pm

          I don’t do it every time, but I’ve been treating myself to wash and fold delivery about every third laundry day. Since I have to go to a laundromat it is really a luxury to every once and a while be able to just go out, pick up the bag with all the clothes already clean and folded rather than spending 3+ hours at the ‘mat.

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    Morgan
    26 Oct 2020
    12:09pm

    I also have been indulging in fresh flowers (I’ve been studying floral arrangement for about a year now through old books and it’s so meditative); my husband geeked out over pour-over coffee and milk steamers, so he makes me a latte every morning, and now that my 3-year-old is back at school, I take time to enjoy it hot all by myself. Also, on that note, buying my kid whatever $15 toy that I wished I had had as a kid when I want to and giving it to him when he’s done something brave or really kind.
    Also, on the note of magazines being better in the before days, I’m a magazine editor (nonprofit coverage for a small city) for over 10 years now and I truly wish I could do long-form articles again about things that matter. The Bitter Southerner is doing a great job at that!

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    Viajera
    26 Oct 2020
    3:38pm

    These are some good ideas. When possible, we should all get out there and spend and/or donate. People are going hungry. People need work and business. It is hard not to want to sit on cash in this kind of uncertainty. No judgment however – I am not in position to do that. We all just have to try to show solidarity when we can. This will pass.

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    HickfromStyx
    26 Oct 2020
    3:40pm

    I’m lighting nice candles for comfort, but they don’t solve the demanding elder care/exponential virus growth/storm-damaged house situations. But hey, candles!

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    Stephanie
    26 Oct 2020
    3:40pm

    I’ve gotten really interested in wine in the last few years, and my average price-per-bottle has been going up accordingly. That means around $20 for a bottle with dinner, and once a month a splurge on one bottle up to $60. Just out of curiosity. There’s so much nuance and variety out there, and all this fascinating culture and history behind them. I’ll never understand all the intricacies of wine-world but it is so fun to discover different flavors and textures and regional personalities. My husband and I try to keep it to half a bottle between us a night, but accidents sometimes happen. Wine-centric travel books are part of the hobby, too, and lately a stand in for actual travel.

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    Tahe Z
    26 Oct 2020
    11:26am

    Paying for unlimited Pure Barre classes every month. I try to take at least five classes a week. They have reduced classes by 70% so I feel well distanced from other folks and some of the classes are outside, weather permitting. It’s an hour to myself to not think of anything other than OH-MY-GOD-I’M-GOING-TO-COLLAPSE! It’s expensive but my core strength has never been better and the chronic back pain is gone.

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      Tahe Z
      26 Oct 2020
      11:41am

      *reduced class size!

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      Shanti
      26 Oct 2020
      5:57pm

      Love barre classes!

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        Tahe Z
        27 Oct 2020
        11:05am

        Shanti, nice to meet another convert! It’s the one thing that keeps me sane.

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    Patrice
    26 Oct 2020
    11:35am

    I love the lilies available year ’round here on California’s Central Coast. Tiger lilies now, Gala lilies at the holidays, pink in the spring. My other “can’t live without,” is bubble bath. Dr. Teals Cannabis Sativa is great and available at Target!

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    MaryAlice
    26 Oct 2020
    11:40am

    I have spent the past few months freshening up my home, since we’re spending so much time here we are spending our vacation money on new rugs, bedding, towels (the good ones!) artwork, and new paint. (and yes, fresh flowers). It gives me pleasure every time I walk into a room. Also, I buy the good wine now!

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    Michele
    26 Oct 2020
    10:49am

    Really good chocolate from Bar & Cocoa, and really good oolong tea from Aroma Tea out of SF and Verdant Tea. I’ve stocked up on all, bracing for impact on any coming waves of Covid. But reading the posts here, maybe I want to start buying flowers weekly. There’s a flower stand a few blocks over & I’m sure they’d appreciate the business.

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    Mimi A.
    26 Oct 2020
    11:02am

    Having beautiful fresh flowers around is a wonderful idea, Kim. I’ll never give up having a housekeeper clean my home once a week. I consider anything that avoids, in Nora Ephron’s words, “looking like someone who no longer cares,” a necessity. So, hair color every three weeks, haircuts every six, manicures and pedicures, skincare and makeup. And incredible loaves of freshly baked bread from a local bakery.

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    Mae
    26 Oct 2020
    1:01pm

    I’m not giving up any indulgences that promote good mental and physical health — yoga classes, Tata Harper products, a ski pass, workout apparel, expensive farmstand vegetables, a cabin to escape to, books, and sex.  Accordingly, I’ve recently given up indulgences that do not promote good health:  Marijuana, alcohol and watching excessive news coverage.  Mood is everything with me, and I’m going to come out of this pandemic with better strategies for keeping my shit together.

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    Jennifer
    26 Oct 2020
    1:24pm

    Fresh flowers and getting my nails done once a month. When my hands look a mess, I feel a mess.

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    Joannawnyc
    26 Oct 2020
    1:26pm

    Wow. You’re all so good at the self-care thing! I bought myself a nice set of pjs from soma.com (in a leopard print). As for on-going indulgences–I acquired all the ingredients to make myself pad thai once a week, (including tamarind paste) which feels indulgent in terms of both time and calories!

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    kimbersam
    26 Oct 2020
    1:33pm

    A mind-numbing strain of MJ for sleep and middle-of-the-night-anxiety. The best-aged basmati rice and Mariage Freres Wedding Imperial Tea.

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    Bonnie R
    26 Oct 2020
    1:35pm

    Hmmm, would have to be the weekly housecleaning. I’d give up a lot of other self and other care first! In the height of lockdown it was meditative, but the ongoing need to do it would feel like a lot of pressure. That, and my Biologique Recherche. I’ve stopped Botox, so this is a must-have! (Oh, and good cheese 🙂

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    LisaC
    26 Oct 2020
    7:28am

    I have prepared food delivered from a company called Kitchfix in Chicago. Pre-pandemic I was reducing the amount I spent with them. Post pandemic? I decided to buy as much as I want and order for my husband, too. I also buy flowers but from the grocery store.

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    Mouse
    26 Oct 2020
    7:41am

    Olive oil. Vanilla beans. Saffron. Decent wine. Reposada tequila.

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    Debbie
    26 Oct 2020
    7:42am

    A trip to the farm stand is my indulgence in that I return with plants, gourds, pumpkins, apples and other edible delights. I bought lots of mums to replace my summer annuals. The variety of pumpkins enticed me to purchase several for the property and luckily the squirrels and deer haven’t eaten them yet. And I love preparing meals with the locally sourced produce.

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    Jill
    26 Oct 2020
    8:08am

    My husband and I started taking private tennis lessons over the summer. We had intended it to just take 4 or so lessons to get us started, but we ended up having such a great time that we’ve been going every Sunday morning since June. The club where we go is a 30 minute drive outside of our city in the burbs, so not only are the lessons a real treat, but the drive to and from has become such a happy little ritual for us.

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    cw
    26 Oct 2020
    8:58am

    When in Austin I have flowers delivered by The Little Posey (a local company I found out about from another follower on this site!). Most of their flowers are grown locally and they, too, will deliver sans vase. I re-perused your sweatpant/jogger postings this morning because I’m going to indulge in one or two new pair to get me through the upcoming long, dark Covid-Winter.

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    Liz
    26 Oct 2020
    9:01am

    Books. I have more books than places to put them, which drives my husband nuts, and I refuse to throw any away. Growing up, my family had tons of books and bookshelves but we also had a much bigger house. They just make me happy to have around, and I love looking back at things I read 20 years ago. So I could technically borrow many of them on Libby but it’s not the same to me.

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      Liz
      26 Oct 2020
      9:07am

      Oh, and also 60s and early 70s fashion magazines that I buy on Etsy. At $25-40 per issue, they’re pretty expensive but they’re such great time capsules. I love all the dinner party recipe articles and book excerpts back when some real high quality authors had their work published in them. And some articles actually went on for ten pages, which you’d never find now.

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        Linda Kerr
        26 Oct 2020
        9:37am

        Those magazines were so much better back in the day. Am I romanticizing the past? Maybe so. But romance and decorum are so lacking now….

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          Kim France
          26 Oct 2020
          9:44am

          No, they were better.

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        Lindsey
        27 Oct 2020
        8:24am

        I’m so glad I’m not the only person who buys old fashion magazines. (I’ve always felt like I was weird to do so). I tend to get them from ebay and mine are more 80s/90s. And you are exactly right about being great time capsules.

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      Ashley
      27 Oct 2020
      9:12am

      Books for me, too! Even though I have way too many, reading has brought me so much joy (and escape) over the past 6 months. Buy at independent bookstores when possible!

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    Betsy
    26 Oct 2020
    9:09am

    Flowers from the Freckled Flower Farm where the owners grow and arrange them, every 6 week hair appointment, any damn book I want on my kindle.

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    Candy
    26 Oct 2020
    9:19am

    Earrings and eyeliner. Not to look better on the very few Zoom calls I’m on, but to look better for me. Putting on some nice jewelry and some makeup just changes my whole attitude. It’s uplifting. Plus it doesn’t bust my budget.

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    Emily M.
    26 Oct 2020
    9:23am

    Weekly piano lessons. I was an adult beginner, and I have been playing for about six years. It’s expensive, but practicing piano is a great way to clear my head. Everything else disappears when I am focusing on Debussy.

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    Kim
    26 Oct 2020
    9:37am

    Still getting fresh flowers when we make the weekly grocery run. Also – La Tur cheese, jams from welovejam, and decaf Earl Grey from the tea shop down the road from my house (for making mid-afternoon London Fogs).

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      Elle
      26 Oct 2020
      10:52am

      I just had to look up London Fogs – yum!

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        Mae
        27 Oct 2020
        1:31pm

        I looked up London Fogs, too, and made one. Delicious! I made it with a drop of vanilla extract, but I just found a couple of whole vanilla beans in my pantry and I’m going to try making vanilla syrup. Thanks for turning me on to this, Kim.

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    Susanna
    26 Oct 2020
    9:41am

    For me, it’s definitely been about buying more expensive seafood (and occasionally meat). Because I’m not going to restaurants at all, I treat myself to lobster, scallops, swordfish regularly instead of as an occasional splurge.

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    Jenny
    26 Oct 2020
    9:47am

    Really nice tea, dark chocolate, and wine, and full price live-streamed yoga classes from my favorite local studio (as opposed to the zillion recorded classes I could find on the Peloton app or you tube). I’m only partially employed, so most things are indulgences. But these will be the last to go.

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    Erica
    27 Oct 2020
    7:58am

    Yarn. I love knitting, and I have cast on an inordinate number of projects since March. Mostly really blankety sweaters for me. I’ve finished quite a few, but the optimism of a new projects seems just as important as finishing to me right now.

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    Mamavalveeta03
    27 Oct 2020
    12:53am

    I read this post in the morning and couldn’t think of anything that I indulge in so I thought I’d put off commenting until I could think of something. Nothing! Damn – that’s so Midwestern of me. Girls, I think it’s time that I did some indulging.

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      Viajera
      27 Oct 2020
      11:57am

      It sounds like you should, and there are some great ideas here. Let us know what you decide to start with – I am quite curious and nosy. It’s fun to think of my online friends enjoying themselves, all over the country. Those London Fogs sound totally yummy and I’d never heard of them. Lately I am craving … a pumpkin spice coffee drink. I’m so boring!!! And, I care not at all. [insert cackle…] That is just for starters. Oh also I need to figure out when the farmers markets happen.

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        Viajera
        27 Oct 2020
        11:58am

        Foo, me. All over the country indeed. All over the *world.* We at least have Canadians here. I heart Canada. Please pardon my provincialism, you-all.

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      Karin
      27 Oct 2020
      2:52pm

      Fellow Midwesterner here….I can relate! I just bought some LL Bean Wicked Good Slippers (after weeks of agonizing that they were too expensive) and love them. I am debating getting a new pair of flannel PJs, but my inner Scrooge is fighting it.
      My other indulgences are for the family: 1) buying better quality groceries and 2) getting takeout once a week to hopefully keep our fave local indie restaurants alive.
      Would love to get a pedicure, but our salons just reopened a few weeks ago and I’m still too scared of a maskless person coming in and breathing on me while I have my feet trapped in suds and can’t escape without making a scene.

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    Cara
    26 Oct 2020
    10:13am

    Tea from Fortnum and Mason “Fortmason”, books, and dog food for my cranky rescue semi-Dachshund from The Farmer’s Dog, my shrink appointments ( I am of a certain age hence Medicare pays, though not for the dog food). And anti-depressants ( again, Medicare).

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