What are you feeling thankful for?

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In tough times like these, it’s not always easy to conjure what we’re grateful for, but it is precisely in times like these that we must focus on just that in order to have a fighting chance at happiness. At the end of every day lately, I’ve forced myself to write down three things that went well that day, and it really helps. This year, that includes my wonderful family, who I rely on hugely and who never let me down. Especially my mother Eve, who every day shows me how to age with grace, humor, and irreverence. I’m grateful for my good friends—especially those who I’d lost touch with but who re-entered my life this year via Zoom during quarantine—and for a Biden victory, and for my peerless dog Mister.  I’m grateful for being single again, interestingly enough, and for having myself to myself again. I’m grateful for the vaccine. I’m grateful for my podcast, and to my partner and friend Tally for reaching out to me to do it with her. And I’m endlessly grateful to all of you, and the tremendously giving and supportive community you’ve made yourselves a part of here. Tomorrow is going to be a strange day for a lot of us, with the holiday not going down like it typically does (I’ll be seeing my brothers—with whom I’ve been podding for a while—but my mom is sitting this one out) but we will get through this weirdness. I’ll be back here tomorrow with a rundown of the best of Black Friday, so see you then.

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    Liz
    25 Nov 2020
    11:37am

    I’m thankful I have a relatively ideal pandemic situation, living with two adorable young cats and an extremely easy to be around 24/7 husband, and that we both have jobs that allow us to work from home until this is all over. I’m also thankful for books, of which there are just so many amazing ones that came out this year alone! It’s been really nice to just have the extra time to read. Also, thank you, You Tube crafting videos. I’ve always wanted to be a crafty person but have never been able to learn crafts from craft books. Thanks to some really good You Tubers, I’ve learned macrame and am now learning knitting. Knitting’s much harder, but luckily, scarves look great in garter stitch. It’s a great way to pass the time while watching tv. And I’m thankful to have a great family that is taking the pandemic seriously and not guilting us into traveling to see them at this time.

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    Mamavalveeta03
    25 Nov 2020
    5:07pm

    Family is a constant, or should be, at least. Unfortunately, you can’t choose your family’s politics and I’m finding it really tough to forgive my little brother for the 180 degrees he turned when he remarried. (This thankfulness stuff is hard!) On the plus side, my other brother, although an alcoholic, is firmly blue and we’ve really bonded over our political views, in spite of a rocky past. So I’m thankful for him. And my parents are my inspiration – married for almost 62 years, I still catch them still smooching in the kitchen and I thank them for raising me in a liberal household where education was highly valued. It’s very hard not to be with them through the holidays, and we haven’t seen each other since January. I pray for their health and well-being. Most of all, I’m thankful for my dear husband, my wonderful daughters, and clichéd, perhaps, my health. The cherry on top? Biden/Harris!

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    janine
    2 Dec 2020
    9:39am

    I’m grateful for so many things: books, music, my family, my dog. I have my health; I have a job. I, too, had a big project come to fruition this year and I’m grateful for that as well.

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    Beth Knight
    25 Nov 2020
    5:32pm

    You are awesome and I’m thankful for you along with so many other things in my life. This too shall pass and how great will that be when life gets somewhat back to normal. Change is not a bad thing! Stay strong!

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    Holly
    25 Nov 2020
    10:07am

    Kim, thank you for asking us what we are grateful for. Agree that gratitude is one of the keys to happiness and contentment (I’ll add mindfulness/staying in the present, which is something I struggle with!). Anyway, I’m incredibly grateful for beloved friends and family, my dogs, my job, good books, my house and for SiriusXM (mostly Alt Nation, which is my faithful friend and companion during the work-from-home day) and all the amazing content we can stream right onto our TVs and laptops. Zoom calls and texting too.

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    Papersitter
    25 Nov 2020
    10:42am

    I’m thankful that both my husband and myself have been able to continue working at our jobsites throughout the last 9 months and that we and our loved ones have remained healthy. I’m thankful that last December I traveled back home to spend my mom’s 80th birthday with her instead of pushing it until “next year”. I’m thankful that after 6 years of estrangement my sister and I are maybe closer than ever. I’m thankful for the Biden-Harris victory, and finally, but not least of all, I’m thankful for this space, and for Everything Is Fine – I feel like I found a place where I fit.

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      Mamavalveeta03
      25 Nov 2020
      11:17pm

      Tears over this. Maybe my brother and I can mend things. <3

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    Joannawnyc
    25 Nov 2020
    11:20am

    A lot of not-great-bob things have happened this year. I am grateful for my family and extended family and how we’ve been able to work together to manage and overcome the bumps in the road. I’m thankful for my kind employers and co-workers who have been very understanding through it all. I’m thankful for my friends who instituted the Zoom happy hours that have helped keep me sane. I’m thankful for my cat, who loves me unconditionally and is willing to snuggle whenever. I’m really feeling very fortunate these days, despite everything.

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    Dawn
    25 Nov 2020
    11:21am

    I just got word that my 20% pay cut which began July 1 will be restored Jan 1. So thankful for my post-grad daughter and quarantine mate and the beautiful new relationship we have forged as adults! Thankful for my family and friends, the only thing that really matters in this crazy world. And thank you, Kim, for your light during these dark times.

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    Laura M
    25 Nov 2020
    11:24am

    You. Thank you for your informative, inspiring and fun posts and podcast. It helps make all this a little better.

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      Julie
      25 Nov 2020
      1:43pm

      Hear, hear! THANK YOU!

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    Jenny
    25 Nov 2020
    11:10am

    I’m grateful I have the first hearing for my divorce case in early January; I’m grateful my relationship with my son is stronger than ever and that he is flourishing; I am grateful for my incomparably kind, strange, silly, devoted boyfriend and the rock solid crew of friends who have seen me through this year; and I am grateful that finally, at age 50, I know my worth, I set boundaries, and I treat myself with appropriate and abundant care.

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    Hannah
    25 Nov 2020
    10:49am

    A lot of things to be grateful for, but I will just say that I really appreciate the comments section here. I rarely commented until right before the election, and everything just got to be too much. I needed a place to escape and reach out to others in a small way, and this place was it. Thanks Kim, both for Sassy when I was young and for this blog that I’ve been following for a while, and thanks other commenters for being all-around lovely and thoughtful here.

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    LMM
    25 Nov 2020
    11:28am

    Grateful for:
    1. Weirdly enough, my layoff. It helped me really try to figure out where to steer my career next, and this week, I took a big scary step to what I hope will be that next step.

    Layoff also revealed that my former company was horribly mismanaged and systematically discriminating against a lot of us, and I’m happy to be rid of it, even though I really loved my coworkers and my work.

    2. My kid. He’s 3 and he’s amazing. He’s become a little *person* this year and I love to see it.

    3. The weird and wonderful things about this pandemic life. Virtual races. Outdoor dining. Not frantically rushing through cooking Thanksgiving dinner. Seeing my family for dinner every night. People dancing in the street after the election.

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    Steph Bruno
    25 Nov 2020
    12:00pm

    Lovely post Kim. Yes, so much to be grateful for this year, including you! It means a lot knowing there is a community of people who get us 50+ peeps who are still cool and doing amazing things.

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    kimbersam
    25 Nov 2020
    12:15pm

    Thanks for starting this Kim. I used to do the “write down three things you are grateful for” but I stopped a while ago. I am grateful for my 12 YO grumpy chihuahua, she is my heart. I am grateful for streaming and the internet. I am grateful, Biden-Harris won and we FINALLY have a woman in the almost top government role. I am grateful that the courts/states aren’t taking Trump, Rudy, and the RICO Krew’s legal challenges seriously. I am grateful for the County Clerks, other election officials, and their teams who run the elections with such efficiency. Finally, I am grateful to my clients for being great to work with.

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    rita
    25 Nov 2020
    12:20pm

    I’m grateful that my husband and I have both remained employed and that our income has been relatively stable throughout this year, and I’m also thankful that we’re on the same page in how we deal with life in a pandemic-world. I’m thankful that we can both do most of our work from home. I’m thankful that my kids are old enough (and focused enough) to self-direct with their online-only schooling, but not so old that they are resentful about being with us 24-7. I’m thankful that wildfire season seems to be over for this year (fingers crossed). I’m thankful that my family has all remained relatively healthy and that my relatives who have contracted COVID came through without any long-term repercussions. I’m thankful my health allows me to walk every day. I’m thankful for a Biden-Harris victory and the first deep breath I’ve taken in four years.

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    D.Morgendorffer
    25 Nov 2020
    12:33pm

    I am grateful for many people and things, but I am going to use this space to express gratitude for something self(ish?). For the past few years, I’ve been happily immersed in some personal projects. As y’all can probably tell, I’m comfortable doing my own thing. However, I’ve reached a point when I’m coming up briefly for air before diving back in and readying the projects to be brought up to the surface for outside scrutiny, assessment, and potential rejection/acceptance. I’ve found myself worrying, “What if I bet wrong, to bet on myself?” What if the beautiful oddingtons who comprise my family and friends are the only ones capable of enjoying things imbued with my personality and sense of humor? So, the fact that the readers, commenters, and the presiding Kim of all the Kims here have responded with such kindness and appreciation to my off the cuff remarks and perspective has been so encouraging to me. You can’t ALL be secretly friends with my mother conspiring in a good will campaign. (Actually, you really could all be friends with my mother…she has the good manners that make strangers future friends, but social media is a continued bafflement to her.) So, I am grateful for GOACA’s kindness and good will.

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      Viajera
      25 Nov 2020
      1:07pm

      Ooooooh … intriguing, D. !!! [cue soundtrack from ketchup commercial … yes yes I know ….]

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    patricia blaettler
    25 Nov 2020
    12:40pm

    My youngest relocated to a new city and is very happy, so I’m grateful for that. And all 3 of my young adult children are gainfully employed and enjoy good health.
    And of course I’m grateful that our government will soon be taken over by grown-ups.
    I’m hopeful that their policies will benefit the majority of its citizens.

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    Jeanne
    25 Nov 2020
    12:54pm

    Honestly probably the biggest non-family/health thing I’m thankful for is the Biden win. I started commenting here after the 2016 election. So thank you Kim for being an influencer who did not cave to those who threaten “I just come here for the clothes. Stfu about the politics.” And thank you to all you supportive commenters here. Everyone helps more than you know.
    Selfishly, I am thankful to have found the internal strength to overpower my phobia of needles in order to self administer a bi-monthly injection to my stomach. (sorry for the tmi). It’s a long needle and a large 2ml dose and it’s taken me 3 years to get to this point.

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      D.Morgendorffer
      25 Nov 2020
      1:16pm

      My chronically ill husband (who used to work in health care) and I have discussed on multiple occasions how people have to overcome serious primal instincts to self-inject. You should be so proud of yourself, Jeanne.

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        Jeanne
        25 Nov 2020
        1:33pm

        Thank you D. Your comment made me tear up.

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    Carrie P
    25 Nov 2020
    2:26pm

    I am thankful for this special space: thank you Kim and the GOACA gang 🙂 Also, thank you Tally and Kim; love listening to you two on the podcast.
    I am very grateful for all the amazing people endlessly fighting this evil virus and for helping those who are sick. Very grateful for my fabulous husband who continues to be my ROCK as we live through this strange and uncertain time. I am incredibly grateful that my elderly parents are relatively healthy and safe; so so grateful to my loving brother and sister who are able to care for them as I live in another country. Also grateful that I have a wonderful home to hibernate in with loads of food, books, technology and many other comforts. Happy Thanksgiving to all!

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    Tamara
    25 Nov 2020
    3:30pm

    So, aside from my limitless gratitude and recognition that this has all been only an “inconvenience” to my family as we have suffered neither loss nor tragedy as have so many, and my incredibly good fortune to have the love of family and friends…I have actually just faced pretty much ALL of my fears and insecurities head on and opened a Wellness Studio as of Last week! And so I am grateful for the insanity and chutzpah that I have found within myself to accomplish this. Wishing you all a meaningful holiday ❤️🧡❤️🧡❤️🧡

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    Debra G.
    25 Nov 2020
    3:44pm

    I am grateful for an uneventful recovery from shingles (on my FACE) that started at the beginning of this month in time for my 60th birthday coming up at the end of this month! What a November, people!

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    SlyBK
    25 Nov 2020
    9:13am

    That was a great list, Kim. Love your blog and your podcast. This year especially, I’m grateful for so much, it’s hard to fit in here so instead, I’ll sum it up with an experience that I’ve always loved, but has become somehow profoundly moving during this pandemic. Whenever I bike from Brooklyn to the upper east side to visit my parents, I’m always struck by the runners along the East River. They are of all ages, shapes, sizes, cultural backgrounds, and running abilities…There are so many of them out there. Just out there, in the sunshine, in cold weather, when it rains. Some of them run so slowly it looks like walking. Others have that bunny hop lightness that makes them look like they can fly. One after another…It becomes a proclamation: I’m alive! I’m alive! I’m alive! Happy Thanksgiving!

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    Mae
    26 Nov 2020
    12:45pm

    It’s the little things for me.  I heard Kelly Clarkson sing Bonnie Raitt’s “Love Me Like A Man” the other day at the opening of her daytime talk show, and I’m thankful I have ears.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6oeWU6Wp-jQ Happy Thanksgiving, all.

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    mlinky
    27 Nov 2020
    8:16pm

    I am thankful for the impending departure of the orange menace.
    I am thankful for clients who still pay me to provide them service from home.
    I am thankful, most of all, to my dear friends who inhabit my small bubble.

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    melsybelsy
    25 Nov 2020
    9:09pm

    I’m thankful for my nuclear unit – who keep me sane – my husband, 11 year old and 14 year old. They are in great spirits despite our circumstances, and I feel fortunate that all of us have remained in good health along with our extended family throughout all of this mishegas. I’m grateful for my students as they keep me sane and interested in my work despite all the crazy obstacles of making education sane. Lastly, I’m grateful for community – communities that come together to celebrate (my neighborhood when Biden won!!!), commiserate (my girlfriends over wine), and virtual ones like this where we form sisterhoods and our common grounds. Thanks GOCA!

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    The Prof
    25 Nov 2020
    10:33pm

    Like others, thankful for a family that enjoys spending time together, and seems to effortlessly know when we each need time alone; for a job that could be done remotely; and that a pandemic home makeover project has turned out lovely!

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    HickfromStyx
    26 Nov 2020
    12:24am

    Happy Thanksgiving, everyone. Enjoy!

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    Teresa
    25 Nov 2020
    9:30pm

    I’m grateful that you posted this picture. I would caption it: “Thank you, Corn.” A quote from Trump’s pardoning of the turkey. A ridiculous man doing a ridiculous thing. I got such a charge out of that. I usually do nothing but loathe the man, but yesterday I got a big yuk out of him. Watch the clip if you haven’t. Thank you, Corn!!!!

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    Suju
    26 Nov 2020
    1:48pm

    I am grateful for my family’s health and – especially considering this year – happiness. I am grateful that my 13-year old son has been such an incredibly good sport about the complete disruption of his life and schooling. I am grateful that despite the setbacks in our industry caused by COVID, my family is financially sound. And I am very very happy that Biden/Harris won. I worked hard as an activist to try to make that happen and I am proud of the very small part I played in that victory. Working for change has helped to keep me sane during this difficult time and I plan to keep on doing it.

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    cw
    25 Nov 2020
    7:28am

    Like you, Kim, I am grateful to once again be single (now and forever!) even though the separation continues––we are in our ninth month of negotiations. I also write down three things every night before bed that have gone well or that I’m grateful for and I too find this helpful. I’m extremely grateful that no one I’m close to has gotten Covid. Biden-Harris, of course. And I’m super grateful I have the means to donate to causes such as Central Texas Food Bank. My kids keep me grounded and entertained. The friends I Zoom with every Sunday keep me laughing. And this blog and the community of women you’ve created, Kim, is something I look forward to every day and am so grateful for and appreciate so much the effort you put in to keep us all mostly sane.

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    Mouse
    25 Nov 2020
    7:47am

    I am grateful that so far everyone I know is healthy, especially my elderly parents and my handicapped sister. I am grateful that our civil servants and state-level officials have largely been ethical and have upheld our laws. I am grateful for my beautiful, comfortable house in the woods which my husband, a timber-framer, built for us and because of which he has the last word in every argument: “I built you a house!!”. I am grateful for–and afraid for–our natural world in all its endless variety and beauty. I am grateful for my students, who are making the choice to follow an art that is also endlessly various and beautiful, but is challenging to master and isn’t really a part of the larger popular culture. I am grateful for truth and beauty, which despite everything, I believe still exists.

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    Sarah
    25 Nov 2020
    7:56am

    I am thankful for your podcast episode with Kristi Coulter about her book Nothing Good Can Come From This. It helped me get sober. I would go for a walk and listen and listen again to that podcast and then I eventually bought the audiobook and I listened and re-listened to that. I would walk and cry and want a drink, but I have been sober since you posted that podcast back in May …. literally May 26th was my first day without a drink.

    It touched me in the right spot at the right time, and I cannot thank you enough for being the spark/push/voice I needed that day. Thank you.

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      Tally
      25 Nov 2020
      9:42am

      Thanks so much for telling us this, Sarah, and good luck keeping on!

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      Viajera
      25 Nov 2020
      1:10pm

      #TeamSarah !!!!

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      Kim France
      25 Nov 2020
      9:16am

      Oh Sarah, I love to hear that.

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    Amy Chen
    25 Nov 2020
    7:57am

    I’m thankful for my daycare that stayed open, for my employer who turned a profit even in all this, for my husband who finally found a job, for the election results, and for my family’s continued good health. And thankful for people like you! Blogs may be just fun but I need this daily dose of fun.

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    Jill
    25 Nov 2020
    8:20am

    I’m so grateful to still be employed and that my partner is too. I’m also grateful that we’ve stayed healthy so far despite the increasing danger. My kitty has to be tops on my list too because she’s always there with me through the good and the bad, being her little cute self. I’m grateful to you and Tally, Kim. Your podcast has been a light throughout these past months. Thank you.

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    Karen
    25 Nov 2020
    8:42am

    I am thankful that i have a job, that the team who works for me and with me is so willing and able to work hard, and to embrace the uncertainty with grace and openness. I’m thankful that my family has remained healthy. I am thankful my wifi has continued to work each and everyday. Yes, i had to dig to come up with 3.

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    Heather
    25 Nov 2020
    9:02am

    It feels awful to say that it’s hard for me to come up with three things I’m grateful for. The first thing that comes to mind is that I’m grateful that 2020 is almost over! I’m grateful for friends, especially the friends with whom I’ve shared the trail this year, and I’m grateful that I am healthy enough and have the means (leisure time, financial ability) to spend so much time hiking. On a related note, I encourage folks to spend time outside — in whatever way is accessible — on Friday. #Optoutside is an initiative started by REI that encourages folks to head outdoors on Black Friday; they give their employees the day off to do so.

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