Today’s my birthday

101

Usually when this day rolls around, I bitch about getting older on GOACA  and ask you guys to cheer me up. But this year I’m feeling fine—and really grateful—about getting one year older. Sure, this is the year AARP tracked me down, and the state of my neck is beginning to trouble me, but I’m feeling optimistic in general: about everything I’ve learned over the course of this strange past year, and how much more I know I can rely on myself than I did before the pandemic hit. What has the past year taught you, ladies? Please gift me with your responses in the comments.

Share this post:

Comments

101 Thoughts on Today’s my birthday
    Peach
    10 Mar 2021
    12:34pm

    happy birthday!

    0

    0
    Mae
    3 Mar 2021
    4:40pm

    I rather smugly thought I had my life all figured out a year ago.  I’d found the right yoga class (for retired ladies) and was going most days of the week, and everything else was falling into place as a result.  When the pandemic hit, my gym closed for a few months and then reopened with limited hours.  My practice fell by the wayside for several months, and I started getting cranky again.  So, despite their disappointing class schedule, I rejoined the gym in October and started doing 2 classes per week (in person on Mondays and via Zoom on Tuesdays) and it has worked its magic once again.  So, I guess what I learned over the past year is that “all or nothing” thinking is rigid and to adjust to whatever’s available.  That concept applies to a lot of things besides yoga.  Happy Birthday, Kim. We’re total strangers, but your blog is a bright light in my daily life.

    37

    0
    Kris
    3 Mar 2021
    4:44pm

    Happy Birthday Kim! I, too, am coming to terms with my neck. I’ve heard AARP has good discounts but haven’t joined. I loved your Mom’s advice on growing older so much it’s in my phone notes so I can refer back as needed.

    8

    0
      Edith
      3 Mar 2021
      9:32pm

      Happy Birthday! I don’t know you but I do enjoy reading your blog. Thanks!

      5

      0
        MeezStephanie
        4 Mar 2021
        2:04pm

        Ha, same here! Andn i like the podcast too. Happy Birthday Kim, my fellow Pisces.

        About the neck: I never understood what people were going on about until I noticed it happening to me. Like the “crows’ feet,” it’s one of those definite marker of age that don’t allow one to possibly pass for much younger. Alas! But hey— we earned it.

        1

        0
    Jeanne
    3 Mar 2021
    4:53pm

    Happy Birthday Kim! This year has shown me that in spite of the capacity for human cruelty, people will come together to fight for good. That we, as a society, are making a progressive jump, especially for women and those who are disenfranchised. The pandemic has both shown and allowed me to focus on that which I value and let go of ideas and people who don’t contribute positively to my life. I think as we get older we find our truest selves and that is a liberating thing. Enjoy your marvelous day!!

    9

    0
    Laura
    5 Mar 2021
    1:41pm

    Happy birthday! I also have an early March birthday and this year feels different to me. I’m trying to embrace the optimism of spring coming and I’m allowing myself the mood booster of telling people my age (52) so that they say NO WAY, you look 42. Lie to me. I’ll take it! Stay healthy and stay optimistic. And thank you again for the blog, I’ve been enjoying it for many years

    0

    0
    Dawn
    3 Mar 2021
    3:46pm

    Happy, happy day, Kim! Ditto on a lot of what’s already been said. AND I’ve learned to love my make-up-free face–my daughter tells me all the time how beautiful I am without it–and have been Zooming with my colleagues fresh-faced (not with my donors however ;). I fear I have another year of learning ahead as my daughter is ready to launch April 1st and I will soon be living solo in pandemic times. This wonderful blog has given me some great advice for my new situation so I feel ready!..? hehe

    10

    0
    JenM
    4 Mar 2021
    1:50pm

    Happy Birthday, Kim! Your podcast has been such a bright spot for me this year–especially the Sarah Crichton interview. Loved that. As for what I’ve learned. Well. I learned that in non-pandemic times I must be like a totally crazed hamster on 6 cups of coffee every single day! I never sat still. Didn’t even notice that though–it was just my normal. The pandemic made me realize this because just a few short weeks in, without changing my diet–my pants didn’t fit. YIKES. I looked at the history on my fitness tracker (which I generally ignore as can’t really be bothered with it) and wow–eeek–horror show. So, it’s amazing what we DON’T pay attention to in normal times. I’m trying to pay attention more now. It isn’t always easy but it has led to positive changes. I wish you a wonderful year ahead full of good health, happy times, sunshine and prosperity.

    4

    0
    Elle
    4 Mar 2021
    10:54am

    Kim – I have nothing wise or clever to say, except that I am very grateful for you – this blog and of late the podcast. Wishing you all the best.

    7

    0
    Jennyg
    4 Mar 2021
    11:19am

    Happy Birthday Kim! Thank you for all that you do, this site has become a destination of information, fun, escapism and education.
    I have learned this year that I can roll with the punches, however they may come. xoxo

    5

    0
    Alexa
    4 Mar 2021
    11:48am

    Happy belated birthday, Kim. Funnily enough, I received an AARP card in the mail just yesterday, it felt like a slap when I saw it.
    As for lessons from the past year? I can say I’m far more easily entertained than I ever knew! In my Before Life, I was constantly moving. In my forties, a lot of my energy and any spare resources went towards travel, either the trip I was on, or planning the next one. Maybe it’s fitting justice that I spent my fiftieth year almost entirely within my own zip code.
    My fractious little family of three has been forced back together, under one roof. That has been a blessing in disguise, as we’ve learnt not to “ sweat the small stuff”, out of necessity.
    Now that the journal entry is finished, Kim, thank you again for everything you do!

    2

    0
    Hodgko
    4 Mar 2021
    12:39pm

    Happy birthday Kim! I’m a little bit younger than most folks here (so it seems) but I’ve always been an old soul, and continue to embrace it. Hope you had a wonderful, joyous birthday.

    The word “grace” has dominated my thoughts since this pandemic started. Grace toward myself, and grace in dealing with others. I’m a bit of an overachiever and have given myself permission to let that barrier down over the past year. To allow me be more vulnerable and honest with what I am feeling and how it affects what I am accomplishing. I am also extending more grace to others, by realizing that everyone is processing this unusual state of existence differently and that anything I perceive as negative towards me likely has nothing to do with me whatsoever.

    I have always liked the name Grace, and it’s actually my daughter’s middle name. This year has taught me why this is. Grace is a reminder for the present and a hope for the future.

    2

    0
    Lori
    5 Mar 2021
    5:31am

    Happy birthday, Kim! Love your blog and podcast! And as someone a speck behind you (about to turn fifty), with serious life / health struggles at the moment, I find you a major inspiration for what may possible just around the corner. Wishing you a happy, healthy, and successful year! (-:

    0

    0
    Mimi
    4 Mar 2021
    8:22pm

    Happy Birthday, Kim, from another Pisces. I was so pleased to read that you’re feeling optimistic. By choosing this topic, you generously gave the loyal GOACA members you regularly inspire an opportunity to look for the good in the annus horribilis we all survived. Brava!

    2

    0
    Liz
    4 Mar 2021
    7:29pm

    Happy birthday Kim! Love your blog and podcast. I think I feel I’m still figuring out this past year – grateful for many things, but also feel so shook and want to do more things that matter and make a difference once this all over. Lots of who am I? and what am I doing? thoughts in the middle of the night. And I also ponder the smaller things like what is happening to my neck? Cheers!

    2

    0
    LisaC
    4 Mar 2021
    7:41pm

    Happy birthday Kim! We find gifts in strange places. I always check your blog first thing and am now starting my week with your podcast. You have a talent for creating community and I appreciate that most of all.

    1

    0
    nadine
    4 Mar 2021
    6:32pm

    Happy belated birthday Kim!! Thank you for writing and for creating this great community. It is one of my favourite places of the internet.
    One of my silver linings of the year was reflecting more about my personal struggles. I’ve been learning how to deal better with my anxiety and to strengthen my confidence. I must thank your podcast for giving me many tips, recommendations of books and introducing wonderful inspiring women.
    Wish you a relaxing and celebratory weekend!

    2

    0
    Jenny
    3 Mar 2021
    10:22am

    Happy birthday, Kim! AARP found me when I turned 50, so you evaded them for longer than most. I’ve learned a lot this year about how boundaries support openness and trust in a relationship and about how to recognize myself in the absence of work achievements. But the most important thing: my tolerance for risk –not COVID risk, but regular life risks around job, relationships, money — is much higher than I thought because my capacity for resilience and my belief that I deserve amazing things is higher than I thought. (This thought came to me about 3 minutes after I listened to this week’s podcast, by the way.)

    24

    0
    3 Mar 2021
    10:23am

    Wow happy birthday! This year has taught me that I’m way stronger than I thought. Two months left of law school @54 years old and hanging by a thread, but hanging nonetheless. Thanks for this -my favorite- blog. Enjoy your day!

    62

    0
      Liz
      3 Mar 2021
      2:18pm

      Congratulations!!!!

      5

      0
      kimbersam
      4 Mar 2021
      10:04am

      A friend of mine graduated law school at age 80 and passed the California bar on the first try. Keep hanging in!

      5

      0
        4 Mar 2021
        8:48pm

        @kimbersam that is amazing! Wow thanks for the inspiration! 😀

        3

        0
    kimbersam
    3 Mar 2021
    10:24am

    Happy Birthday, Kim! AARP starting mailing me when I turned 40 🙂 May the universe bring you a wonderful year and lots of happiness! Last year I learned to keep my mouth shut and my ears open and to expect less of others (the unsaid part….so I won’t always be disappointed.)

    16

    0
      Leah Ackerman
      4 Mar 2021
      1:34pm

      Happy Birthday to you (one day late)!
      My beautiful daughter in law would have turned 39 on February 28th if she hadn’t died of breast cancer almost 3 years ago. And now her youngest child is fighting cancer – an inoperable tumour on her spine. I’m praying she sees her 5th birthday next year. Don’t complain about the aches and pains and wrinkles that come with advancing age; every year you celebrate a birthday is a blessing that you cannot take for granted.

      8

      0
        Sarah C.
        4 Mar 2021
        2:16pm

        I am so sorry for what you have gone through and are currently going through, Leigh. My younger son is five, and my heart goes out to you.

        1

        0
    Ang
    5 Mar 2021
    4:39pm

    Happy birthday, Kim. Thank you for all that you provide this community 🙂

    0

    0
    Susan Blakey
    3 Mar 2021
    6:14pm

    Happy Birthday, Kim!

    3

    0
    Elyse
    3 Mar 2021
    10:50pm

    Happy Birthday Kim! I’m about 10 years older than you, so I am finally getting used to this getting older thing (it took me awhile…) Unfortunately, I have no great wisdom to impart. However, this year I finally found a retinol product (LANCER – very strong stuff) that actually worked for me! This has been quite the big deal because my neck is really firming back up – which I had not believed was possible without tres expensive dermatological procedures.

    5

    0
    Jax
    3 Mar 2021
    10:25pm

    Happy Birthday, Kim!! Thank you for being a bright spot in my weekdays! I always look forward to checking the GOACA site when I wrap up work, or if I can’t wait, during my work lunch.
    The last year has taught me to try to be as prepared and safe as possible, but at the same time, also taught me that there’s only so much I can do. So much is out of our control — political mayhem, pandemic, climate change, systemic racism. We can do what we can to chip away at it, but it’s all really overwhelming. It’s been overwhelming since 2016 or even further back, depending on what we’re talking about.
    I was already appreciating my family relationships and friendships, and nothing there has change…. One thing I’ve learned is that if I don’t write it down (journal, planner, etc.), it almost hasn’t happen.

    3

    0
    Carrie P
    3 Mar 2021
    9:20pm

    Happy Birthday Kim from another Pisces! I hope you have a wonderful celebration and as others have already mentioned, thank you for your fantastic blog and podcast.
    This past year has taught me that I am more of a loner than I ever thought I was. I am quite content staying home and not being around people (sans family and friends who are miles away) in public and at work. I also learned that I have way too much stuff and therefore I have saved a shitload of money. And like many others have mentioned, I learned that make-up isn’t necessary after not wearing any for almost a full year now.
    Happy Birthday!!

    6

    0
    Sue
    3 Mar 2021
    9:43pm

    Happy birthday Kim! Thank you for your blog and your podcast.

    4

    0
    Tricia
    3 Mar 2021
    10:04pm

    Happy Birthday Kim! Thanks for providing a lovely reprieve for us all. I guess if I’ve learned anything this year, it’s patience and letting go of things that really don’t matter (my husbands love of tchotchkes in our Manhattan apartment)…because it doesn’t really matter. Also, my birthday is coming up in early April. I’ll be 54. Once I turned 50, along with all of my girlfriends I decided I was French. Not old, just a fabulous older woman. Happy French birthday and many more

    6

    0
    Rachel in Portland
    3 Mar 2021
    7:40pm

    Happy birthday, Kim! I’ve learned a lot this year, but I guess the most important thing is that life is short, so drink it all in. Love your blog and podcast–you make me feel seen!

    2

    0
    Gablesgirl
    3 Mar 2021
    7:25pm

    HBD Kim! And thank you for getting us all past the last last four years. I’m a chic 55 year old who just decided to go gray. Loving it! Embrace life and don’t join AARP …yet:)

    3

    0
    Mamavalveeta03
    3 Mar 2021
    11:30am

    Happy Birthday, dear Kim! Even tho it’s been a hell of a year spent in relative isolation, I got to have 2 adult daughters live with me for 7+ months – something I never anticipated happening – and we are closer for it. This is the year that I learned that I am a hell of a lot stronger than I thought I was. I’ve eliminated several medications, lost 10 lbs, started exercising, and I’m continuing to work on myself through talk therapy. I also feel really grateful to have had the opportunity to check-off a “bucket list” item and represent a company whose mission I really believe in!

    23

    0
      Stephanie
      3 Mar 2021
      8:16pm

      I’m a long time reader and a newish podcast listener, but only just now realized we share a birthday! Happy birthday to us! 🙂 I’m 46 today, have been busy raising 3 kids for the last 18 years, and have recently found a new passion, community and purpose in competitive dory racing (as crazy as it sounds!). Never considered myself an athlete before now, but I did a deep dive and it’s changed my life. These’s no time like the present to try something new. On 3/3, here’s to women making pivots, not underestimating themselves, and bravely saying yes! Wishing you (and me!) another joyous, challenging, fulfilling trip around the sun. ❤️ Keep on keeping on….

      9

      0
    Alex
    3 Mar 2021
    11:37am

    HBD!!! I also am 50 now and here’s a tip: If your doctor says you have to have a colonoscopy, do the soft foods diet three days before the liquid fast! And don’t forget the Smeckler’s Powder! JK you are ageless and timeless, like a denim jacket. And wonderful, like a CBD gummy. Keep on doing everything that you do.

    12

    0
      Elizabeth Catlin
      4 Mar 2021
      11:19am

      Ask for the Poop on the Stick option!!!!! This is a much less awful way to test for colon cancer (unless you really cannot abide your own poop). You get a kit from your doc, smear some poop on a stick, and mail/drop it off to be tested. No fasting, no hospital — I think it doesn’t get offered because it isn’t as lucrative to hospitals — so ask your doc if it is an option for you.

      1

      0
      MARGARET
      4 Mar 2021
      6:43am

      My doc actually recommended the soft foods three days prior. It just helps. Also, and this is HUGE: 1.refrigerate the gross liquid overnight to kill the taste. 2. mix it with lemonade, not water, to further kill the taste; 3. drink it with a straw to bypass your tastebuds. Everybody who is putting this test off because of COVID, please don’t! These gastro offices are being very safe!

      2

      0
      gillian
      3 Mar 2021
      3:19pm

      What is the rationale for the soft diet pre liquid fast?

      1

      0
      Sara
      4 Mar 2021
      8:29am

      Alex, oh my gosh….yes to doing the soft foods prep a few days before the actual PREP before a colonoscopy. What I have always heard is a horrible night spent sitting on the toilet was pretty much a non-event for me doing it that way!!

      1

      0
    MaryAlice
    3 Mar 2021
    11:39am

    Happy Birthday Kim! I’m a March baby, too! This year…well, what can I say that hasn’t been said? As somebody who’s always been perfectly healthy, I have had a couple of weird health issues pop up, and it’s humbled me. But I am determined that they will NOT get me down, and I will live my life on my terms. Still waiting patiently for my turn at the vaccine, but happy that people I love are getting it!
    Have a happy day!

    7

    0
    dkl
    3 Mar 2021
    11:41am

    Happy birthday! I hope you do something that makes you smile.

    5

    0
    Meg
    3 Mar 2021
    11:47am

    Happy Birthday Kim!! Am so thankful that my healthcare worker husband has been vaccinated and we have all remained healthy thus far. With two twenty-something children
    home once again, I’ve been secretly happy to have this time with them before they bust out once the coast is clear.:)

    7

    0
    Tahe Z
    3 Mar 2021
    11:50am

    Happy Birthday to you, Kim! Thanks for helping me get through this past year with your wonderful posts and most excellent podcast. I hope you realize how much goodness you bring to people’s lives almost every day. As for me, I have found that I am more patient than I thought I was. I also have let go of things I can’t control. And right after restaurants had shut down and we weren’t able to go out to dinner regularly, I found that I could cook something other than pasta and jar sauce (it was GOOD sauce, mind you). In fact, I could be wrong, but I think someone had posted a turkey ricotta meatball recipe on here and it’s been a staple in my house ever since. Again, HBD to you AND to your mom, as well!! I hope you get to celebrate as much as one can during a pandemic!

    11

    0
    Karen
    3 Mar 2021
    12:16pm

    Happy Birthday!

    4

    0
    elise
    3 Mar 2021
    12:27pm

    Happy bday Kim! I hear ya re: the neck – if you find that magical cream to fix it, let us know ;). I’ve learned that I am without a doubt someone that must always have something to look forward to – whether it’s a big trip half way around the world, or just a happy hour on Wed. I’ve had to find it in smaller things this past year but know that the bigger things will happen again. I hope this coming year brings you many things to look forward to and much joy!

    15

    0
      Claire
      4 Mar 2021
      10:09pm

      Happy happy birthday! Thanks for the recommendations that seem to land at the right time. I think you should write a Sassy and Lucky memoir …. I’d love to read it. I’m 43 and this is the year my neck is changing. That Nora ephron book title suddenly makes sense to me.

      3

      0
    Susan
    3 Mar 2021
    12:29pm

    Enjoy your new AARP 10% discount! I do at Michaels/JoAnns because I will not go to Hobby Lobby. I am 2 1/2 years up on you, and I tell you what: your 50s are about giving Zero F*cks. I remember posting on your b-day last year about my spicy Octogenarian friend (MaryJo – may she rest in peace) who thought she was sexiest in her 50’s. Enjoy!

    14

    0
    Shel
    3 Mar 2021
    12:30pm

    Happy Birthday, Kim!
    As many have already mentioned, you flew under the AARP’s radar for longer than most. I’m 55 (for a few more months) and have been getting stuff from them for probably a decade.
    And, ah yes, the neck. It is just starting to be an issue for me and I’m finding it much more troubling than the fine lines and slightly sagging facial skin.

    3

    0
    Andrea G.
    3 Mar 2021
    12:31pm

    Happy Birthday Kim! Hope it’s a great day, filled with love and good food! At least a cake or a yummy dessert to celebrate.

    4

    0
    HickfromStyx
    3 Mar 2021
    12:32pm

    Happy birthday, Pisces!

    I had to look up AARP because I’d never heard of it.

    The past few months have taught me lots of things. My grandparents lived through the post-WWI flu pandemic. My grandfather was my son’s age when the flu took his father, catapulting him into head of the household, running a farm and caring for his younger siblings and mother. My grandparents survived two world wars and the Great Depression in between. To say that their lives were full of hardship is the understatement of the 20th century. From horses and buggies to space shuttles and the invention of television, they saw it all.

    My father was born into the adverse times between world wars. As he fades away at the end of his days, he does not give up or give in. He takes in every moment of every day, wanting one more morning and one more night, and one more day of life that is so precious. He was granted his wish to see one grandchild, and another is in the process of seeking permission. This is his ray of hope in the fading of the light. Life always was about family for him. Love for his family sustains him and gives him the strength that he needs to carry on for another day. The dying are the most truly alive. Isn’t that the greatest lesson for all of us?

    17

    0
      Karen
      3 Mar 2021
      5:21pm

      Thank you for this update. So glad he got to see 1 grandchild, hoping he can see the rest of the family soon.

      4

      0
    Pia
    3 Mar 2021
    12:40pm

    I have learned that I am much more mentally flexible than I thought. I can see the silver lining in things. I despise Texas and Florida and want them to seceed.

    Happy Birthday!

    6

    0
      jo
      3 Mar 2021
      2:49pm

      please dont hate on all Texans, we are not all a–holes…

      9

      0
        Gablesgirl
        3 Mar 2021
        7:22pm

        Same goes for Florida. Believe me:)

        8

        0
    D.Morgendorffer
    3 Mar 2021
    12:43pm

    A most happy birthday to the presiding Kim of the Kims here! As a former academic brat, I can say you’re the coolest RA of the coolest dorm for growing ladies on the internet campus. When I used to grocery shop in person, I would dither on what to get as my treat, often second-guessing myself and ending up with a treat I didn’t like. On the last in-person grocery trip (almost a year ago), I had this sudden clarity about the treat I truly liked, Theo 85% dark chocolate bars. I think in the past I would be getting treats for the person I thought I should be. With the lockdown, I found myself pragmatically thinking I should get treats for the person I am. With all the logistical challenges of the lockdown, I’ve realized what a waste of resources it is to against my own personal grain. It saves a lot of time and is way more interesting to just be myself. Happy birthday!

    16

    0
      Viajera
      3 Mar 2021
      1:36pm

      Oooh. Thanks for the tip. I haven’t tried those. I usually chew on the Valrhona 85% from TJs, but, no TJs in a while because they don’t have pickup. (boo) I will have to look for these Theo bars. Medicinal.

      4

      0
        D.Morgendorffer
        3 Mar 2021
        5:42pm

        I just realized I left out a word, “go”. Oops! Meanwhile, Viajera, I feel a whole subsection of “What I learned in the pandemic…” could be learning what can and cannot be substituted from TJ’s. I have figured out herbal tea substitution for TJ’s Well-Rested Tea, but have to shell out for price-gouged by resellers TJ Tea Tree shampoo because my fussy skin can get irritated by other shampoos. When it’s safe to move freely in the world again, the first thing I’m going to do is make a appointment with my hair stylist and then do a serious supply run to TJ’s.

        2

        0
          Viajera
          4 Mar 2021
          12:47pm

          Totally! I kind of miss the Nourish spa shampoo and conditioner, but I’ve used the tea tree too. My hair likes both equally. I’ll find some other shampoo though (I am almost out of the stash). The only irreplaceable thing so far has been their chocolate ice cream. It is just the best on those hot days. … …. …. Now I go to Vons bc they have pickup. There are always those weird things you can’t get. For some reason, other places (including Aldi’s?…) don’t always sell pepitas. I sometimes use Instacart but the markup seems large and I don’t know that it’s right to just have someone else take the risk. I think all stores should have been pickup only, if we really cared about workers. Apparently, it turns out, we don’t. Yet. And then the delivery options could be for people who for some reason cannot get to stores. (And I think that’s a pretty big group.) We could have made delivery work safer too, by eliminating most of the random foot traffic inside the stores. … … …. We should help each other more. It bothers me to think of people stuck at home, going hungry. It’s just not right. It has been a very interesting weird experiment, but I don’t know that we’ve earned a very good grade.

          2

          0
            liz
            4 Mar 2021
            4:29pm

            I just bought some Tea Tree Tingle last weekend. I couldn’t even remember the last time I bought it.
            And a happy, happy belated birthday to you Kim.

            1

            0
    Holly
    3 Mar 2021
    12:51pm

    Happy Birthday! I love your post — it has made my day! I have been struggling a bit lately (like millions of others!) and thinking about what I have learned in the past year is a fantastic way to look at the past year. I learned that I really, really need to be around the people I love, even if is at a distance or virtually; that I am good at (mostly) making the best of things and that looking on the bright side is key to my mental health. And that music and good food are essential to my survival!!!

    9

    0
    Lisa
    3 Mar 2021
    10:30am

    I’ve learned nothing except that people are precious, on and offline, so happy birthday to you from a dedicated reader.

    31

    0
    Anna Gregory
    3 Mar 2021
    10:34am

    Oh yes, Happy Birthday! And to many more. This year taught me to continue to be open in the face of “things” not going as expected. And to be grateful, for which I need constant reminders but am getting better. Out of those two lessons, I swear I am feeling more at peace. This site is a constant daily joy – thank you for that – and the podcast, my favorite dog walking past-time.

    9

    0
    Lara
    3 Mar 2021
    10:39am

    Happy Birthday Kim! The pandemic has taught me that even the most powerful important people are just not always very competent, nor smart, and by those metrics, no one should intimidate me. Also the miraculous speed of the vaccine development process has given me hope for the future. May you find some celebratory joy today!

    15

    0
    Mary
    3 Mar 2021
    10:41am

    Happy Birthday Kim!!
    You aren’t getting older- you are just maturing 🙂 And with every year comes much more wisdom, strength and inner self reliance. This year taught me to appreciate the small things- and soak up more beauty on dog walks in the woods with my Golden Retriever. Thank goodness for dogs!!- they also teach us so much.

    8

    0
      Helene
      4 Mar 2021
      2:56pm

      Cheers to that! Happy Birthday, Kim!

      0

      0
      mary
      3 Mar 2021
      10:43am

      oops- can you edit and just leave my first name only

      1

      0
    Adrien
    3 Mar 2021
    11:03am

    Happy birthday, Kim! I hope you have a good day planned. The pandemic has taught me that I can let go of things I thought I couldn’t live without. After living in my hometown for my entire life, I’m about to uproot and move across the country and I’m (mostly) okay with letting go because I feel like I’ve been doing that already for the past year.

    8

    0
    cw
    3 Mar 2021
    11:06am

    Happiest of Birthdays!!!!! There were a lot of “big” things for me this year: the pandemic, a major life-altering break-up, the Texas Ice Age, getting vaccines plus other smaller no-need-to-mention things. Yet, I’m still here. I’ve stood up through all of it. I gave myself permission to live a solitary life and have found I’m happy being just me and my dog in my day to day life while still having friends that I will someday hang out with again in person rather on Zoom. I have learned that even on the bottommost days, I still have hope.

    16

    0
    Linda V
    3 Mar 2021
    11:15am

    Happy Birthday! Please don’t look at your neck too much! When you are my age (72) you will remember your 50ish neck with fondness! lol. The pandemic has taught me I really need my friends! And Family! It has also taught me that sitting still and not running around all the time can be so relaxing.

    29

    0
    Betsy Palmer
    3 Mar 2021
    11:16am

    Happy Birthday! I’m both stronger AND more reliant on friends than I thought. I could be stranded on an island with my pod (because I have been for a year) and be okay but I miss my extended family every bit as much as I thought I would. In short, it’s all about the peeps for me.

    8

    0
    Elizabeth
    3 Mar 2021
    11:19am

    Happy Birthday! I do enjoy your podcast.

    4

    0
    Candy
    3 Mar 2021
    11:24am

    A very happy birthday, Kim. Congrats to you, and everyone, for making it through the past awful, terrible, no good year that still managed to provide us moments of gratitude, if not joy. For me, the one thing all these months really taught me is how much exercise — even a walk outside — can help your mood and re-set your perspective.

    7

    0
    Meryl Holland
    3 Mar 2021
    11:25am

    Today is my birthday, too❣️ Same on the neck❣️ Fully vaccinated and now ready for anything Life throws my way.
    Pisces have some wonderful traits, so happy We comply❣️
    Have a really Happy Day! Mine is just beginning out here in L.A.

    20

    0
      Kim France
      3 Mar 2021
      11:28am

      Happy day, Meryl!

      6

      0
    Cola
    5 Mar 2021
    7:33am

    Happy (belated) birthday, Kim! Birthdays used to depress me but no longer. Assess, take stock, and move forward. It’s true – we are getting better! Thank you so much for your blog, your podcast, and this community.

    0

    0
    Milou
    3 Mar 2021
    2:45pm

    Happy Birthday!
    Fellow Pisces here – yesterday was my birthday – and I have learned that my partner is a friggin’ saint and I feel so grateful to have him. We’ve been cooped up together in an 850 sq foot apartment and how he manages to be sweet and funny and kind even when I am a complete nutty anxiety case, I have no idea.

    9

    0
    y.k.
    3 Mar 2021
    2:57pm

    Happy Birthday Kimfrance! the first thing that comes to mind : that it’s not so terrible to sometimes skip a fully made-up face – for days even. of course, i do still love the full regalia but 30+ years of every day makeup made me think that it was an absolute necessity.
    Thanks for the blog & podcast- i really love this place.

    8

    0
    Stephanie
    3 Mar 2021
    3:16pm

    Happy birthday, Kim! My big lesson this year: After a very itinerant life, I thought I wanted nothing more than to live in one place forever and really put down roots. I love, love my small town in CO and the community here, and at 10.5 years it’s by far my longest stint anywhere. But my husband’s been offered his dream job in DC so, when the pandemic ends, off we go. I thought I would be devastated by this, but after this long year of social isolation and feeling very stagnant, it turns out I’m ready for something new. I dare say I’m… excited? A new place, new experiences: yes, please!

    7

    0
    LMM
    3 Mar 2021
    2:26pm

    Happy birthday Kim!

    This year has taught me that I can learn new things and create a new career for myself. I’d been feeling very stuck and very, very miserable the last few years. I’m not there yet, but it’s coming.

    This year has also taught me that having a 3-year-old is not for the fainthearted.

    10

    0
    Amy R.
    3 Mar 2021
    2:38pm

    Happy birthday Kim! Your posts/emails always brighten my day and I love your podcast too. So glad you’re feeling glad about your day this year – I can honestly say being in my sixties is an improvement over the fifties, even after this shittiest of years. I would not have believed it but in so many ways it’s true. There is plenty to look forward to, my dear!

    8

    0
    CMA
    3 Mar 2021
    2:45pm

    Happy Birthday!! This blog has helped me get through this crazy year. Thank you. Have a wonderful day and year.

    3

    0
    Francine
    3 Mar 2021
    2:18pm

    Happy Birthday Kim! You are fabulous inside and out. I wish you a wonderful day and a most excellent 2021!

    3

    0
    Rebecca
    3 Mar 2021
    2:22pm

    Happy Birthday Kim! Learned that I am far more resilient than I thought, after a solid year of working frankly excessive hours in local public health, I am still standing. Well mostly sitting. Also how important my closest friends and family (what a cliche, I know), and that despite being an introvert, I need to be around people more than I realised. I hope that you have a wonderful day!!!

    4

    0
      Viajera
      4 Mar 2021
      12:57pm

      Thank you!!!! People may not always show it, but most of us do appreciate our brave public health workers. And now that we all know what ppe is, we also know, someone has to make sure there *is* some… among other things. It has to be designed, ordered, manufactured, distributed … probably other parts I forgot, too. Vaccines that need to be kept cold! … all things considered, considering our nutty healthy system, things could have been a lot worse. Although we lost way too many people. Well, anyhow, thank you for hanging in there!

      1

      0
    LuAnn
    3 Mar 2021
    2:22pm

    Happy Birthday. Your reference to fruit strip gum was spot on and I cannot remember the last time I thought of that. Thanks for making me laugh. That’s a wonderful gift and its ageless. A great sense of humor will always beat a younger-looking neck.

    7

    0
      Heather
      3 Mar 2021
      2:33pm

      My mom conflated all the various urban myths of the 70s and believed that Fruit Stripe gum was LSD, and would not let us have it.

      Happy Birthday Kim!

      This year I’ve learned to dye my eyebrows. That’s the only positive I can come up with.

      8

      0
    tamara
    3 Mar 2021
    1:16pm

    Happy Birthday to one of the great ones! as for my best and biggest lesson of the year: i learned that I am worthy of self-investment and, together with a most brilliant business partner and massage therapist, faced my fears, dealt with my serious self confidence issues, and finally started our own business and established a wellness studio up here in englewood cliffs. And this blog has been part of what has inspired me. Here’s to the next trip around the sun for all of us!

    13

    0
    Patty
    3 Mar 2021
    1:25pm

    Happy Happy Birthday, Kim! Thank you for this blog. It’s one of my faves.
    I learned how to make a to die for pulled pork this year.
    After several false starts I finally have an empty nest and I appreciate it. (house is cleaner, groceries are cheaper.)
    I got my neck ‘done’ at age 53 and I recommend it highly!

    7

    0
    Viajera
    3 Mar 2021
    1:34pm

    Happy Birthday!!! And what a lovely photo.

    6

    0
    EW
    3 Mar 2021
    1:51pm

    Congratulations on another successful trip around sun!

    3

    0
    Shara Witkin
    3 Mar 2021
    2:05pm

    Happy Birthday! The last year has taught me to appreciate and be grateful for all that I have in my life. Life is so fragile and things can change so quickly. A close friend unexpectedly lost her husband this year (not to COVID) and her entire world changed overnight to that of a widow and single mother of 3 kids. It made me realize how precious our time is with our loved ones and not to take anything for granted. I also learned to let more little things go. I care even less about appearances or what other people think these days. Who cares – focus on what really matters.

    13

    0
    Caroline Connell
    4 Mar 2021
    9:29am

    Happy Birthday Kim!!
    I’ve definitely had a re set on who and what really matters to me.
    My family and forever friends are where it’s at.
    I definitely look older. Definitely the neck:-)
    I blame Trump. I really do!
    But on the plus side I can now poach an egg, make flatbread and give my dog the best walks she’s ever had.
    Your blog and podcast is fabulous.
    Xoxo!!!

    3

    0
    Elisa
    4 Mar 2021
    9:57am

    Happy, happy birthday, Kim. Thanks for all you do. You bring so much into our lives.

    1

    0
    SlyBK
    4 Mar 2021
    8:39am

    Happy birthday, Kim! I love your blog and your podcast. Thank you for being here especially during this last (almost) year! XX

    2

    0
    Amy G
    4 Mar 2021
    8:53am

    Kim, a current picture, well done! HB!!!
    The gift of the pandemic – My life is BEAUTIFUL, period.
    Awareness – the beauty of my life has been given to me, and I need to “pull up” and help others.

    4

    0
    Tricia
    4 Mar 2021
    9:03am

    Happy Birthday Kim! If I’ve learned anything this year, it is perhaps patience and to let the little things go. I can definitely get caught up in small stuff (i.e. my husband’s love for too many tchotchkes in our smallish Manhattan apartment) which REALLY DOESN’T MATTER. Honestly, I think this year has been awful in so many ways and I am chomping at the bit for some normalcy, but at the same time I know I am so very blessed and am thankful for it. On another note, once I turned 50 I decided to follow the advice of Sharon Stone of all people, and decided I wasn’t old, just French. A glamorous, mature, sexy French woman. So, as someone turning 54 in a few weeks, Happy French Birthday. Thank you for providing a fun respite that I look forward to reading every day!

    3

    0
    Jennifer
    4 Mar 2021
    7:41am

    Happy belated birthday! I hope you had a great day – your blog is a great addition to mine!

    2

    0
    MARGARET
    4 Mar 2021
    6:46am

    Happy Birthday, Kim. You do a lot to make people happy just by being you. I’m thankful that you exist in the world.

    5

    0

Leave A Comment

Archives

About

Kim France

I was born in Houston, Texas in 1964 and have lived in New York City since 1988. I had a long career in magazines, working at Sassy, Elle, New York, and Spin, and in 2000, I founded Lucky magazine, which I edited for ten years.

Find Out More

Instagram

[wdi_feed id=”1″]

Join my newsletter! The latest fashion, beauty and inspiration for all the girls of a certain age.