Time to talk gratitude

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OK guys, I’m taking off for the holiday, which I will be enjoying at my brother’s place in Brooklyn. And because it has been proven that the more we focus on gratitude the happier we are, I thought I might—as I always do—ask you to tell me what you’re feeling grateful for (and what you’re doing for the holiday) and share what I am too. This year I’m feeling especially grateful for females who have kicked ass: Greta Thunberg, Fiona Hill, the American women’s soccer team, and the mighty RBG, who just keeps rolling along. And while we’re on the topic of righteous ladies, I’m also feeling grateful for for my mom, who, at 82, gets more done in a day than people half her age, and inspires me constantly. And the boyfriend, Seth, who makes me feel loved and safe and amuses the hell out of me on the regular. And my brothers, who are always there for me, and my friends, who are too, and the dogs, who just never quit. And all of you, of course, and the lively, funny, smart and supportive community you’ve built here. OK, now it’s your turn. See you back here bright and early Monday.

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    Mary
    27 Nov 2019
    10:22pm

    Wow! I’m blown away by the depth and thoughtfulness of all these wonderful posts – thank you so much!

    As for me, all I need is good health. I really fret about my kids’ health and my own health, for that matter (card-carrying hypochondriac here) so I’m very good at putting pretty much everything in perspective. Nothing else matters!

    Having said this, my mother was diagnosed with cancer two years ago and did not survive. I was miraculously strong throughout the situation. We are stronger than we give ourselves credit for and this gives me great comfort.

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    D.Morgendorffer
    27 Nov 2019
    1:18pm

    I’m especially grateful for my gratitude journal. For the past two years, I’ve started my day with a cup of coffee, writing five items in my gratitude journal, and then checking out GOACA. The gratitude journal has taught me that gratitude’s greatest power is during bad times. I am grateful for the surgery for my husband’s herniated disc. I am grateful for the people who cut me a break when I make my many mistakes. Gratitude also makes you aware of the importance of the small: I am grateful for the beautiful bakery that opened up near the VA hospital. Every time my husband visits the VA, we get wonderful bread afterwards. Gratitude means that all the grief makers running amok in the world right now don’t get to set the bar for all the resulting attitudes and outcomes of their grief making. Gratitude is both the lifeboat for our better selves and the insight of who else we will place on the lifeboat because who we’re grateful for is who we will fight to save. So, thanks to all on this site whose wit, style, and kindness remind me that there are people from all around the world on my cheerfully crowded mental lifeboat.

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      Mamavalveeta03
      27 Nov 2019
      2:42pm

      Tears…that was beautiful, D-Morg. ❤️

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      Chloe425
      29 Nov 2019
      10:49am

      I work at a VA, and I am grateful for your husband’s service and that he was able to have surgery to alleviate his herniated disc. Your comment made my day. Thank you.

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      y.k.
      27 Nov 2019
      9:39pm

      thank you for writing this D – really needed it. i just got a gratitude journal, reluctantly (awful right?) –
      i’ll be thinking of you when i write in it tomorrow morning.

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    Carrie
    27 Nov 2019
    2:16pm

    Happy Thanksgiving to Kim and to all of you! I am so very grateful for my precious parents who have given me such an amazing life and who are both, to this day, two of my three BFF’s. I am incredibly grateful for my third BFF, my brilliant and fabulous husband who is unbelievably supportive and loving to me and my precious parents. And aside from being grateful for my sister, brother, niece, nephew and friends, I am grateful that I am content with myself and am proud of myself.

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    Meg
    28 Nov 2019
    5:36pm

    I’m thankful for my health, my comfortable home, clean water, and the knowledge that I can buy nearly any food I like at a local store. Too many on this planet lack what we take for granted every day.

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    Nelson Bartley
    27 Nov 2019
    4:08pm

    I am immensely grateful for friends. I intended to get up Sunday and drive to Denver to have lunch with a friend, spend the night, then fly to Portland with my man friend of 10 months to meet his entire family. Instead I woke up with intestinal bleeding and had to call my neighbor to take me to the ER and the dog to the kennel. My intended lunch date drove 3 hours to the hospital and stayed with me the whole time, listening to the doctors, questioning the nurses and fetching me iced tea. Today she drove me to the airport , dropped me off and now is fighting traffic to get home. Two ½ days late, I am about to get on the plane with the help of those two awesome friends. Life takes a village.
    Happy Thanksgiving everyone.

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    Kirstjen
    27 Nov 2019
    3:54pm

    I am grateful for my partner, for my pup, actively journaling and learning to meditate in the past year, travel to foreign countries, a great boss and an interesting job, Thanksgiving stuffing, whole house humidifiers, down comforters, good books, goals, getting older, and eliminating a whole lot of unimportant stuff in my life.

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    Gablesgirl
    27 Nov 2019
    10:40pm

    I am grateful for our shared America and, whether new or old, our homeland. I am thankful for democracy in the eye of an ongoing storm. This blog helps keep me centered when my life is challenged. Thank you, Kim. Oh and I’m shopping at the new Billy Reid store in Birmingham, AL on Black Friday. XO

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    Mamavalveeta03
    27 Nov 2019
    2:40pm

    I’m so grateful for this safe space you’ve created, Kim, for strong, smart, funny and caring women – When the stuff gets tough, it helps to know that I’ve found my “tribe.” And I’m SO thankful for my husband, who is the best life partner I ever could’ve conjured up – patient, loving, kind, funny and smart. Plus, knowing that all of my girls are doing well is something I’m really grateful for – when your kids are doing well, you’re doing well.

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    Liz
    27 Nov 2019
    4:58pm

    I am so grateful for my sister the artist who has been my biggest champion when it comes to encouraging my own creative interests. I’ve always been a hobbyist who chose a secure but dull career path, while she chose to be the struggling artist doing what she loves. If it weren’t for her, I’d never do anything more than fiddle around with my hobbies at home. Because of her, I’ve joined three bands, spend several years as a club DJ, and am now about to sell my crafts in local stores and at craft fairs. She has basically been responsible for all of my favorite parts of my adult life, and I just love her for that. I really wouldn’t have done any of it without her seeking out these opportunities for me.

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    c.w.
    27 Nov 2019
    9:26am

    Continued good health. Always my female friends. Women who inspire every single day (you named many and I’d like to include Heather Cox Richardson for her Facebook postings––highly recommend). My kids. The best dog in the whole wide world, Betty. And much, much more including this fabulous blog. Thank you, Kim!

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    Sarah
    27 Nov 2019
    9:34am

    I was not thrilled to turn 50 this past September. My own vanity makes it a difficult number to swallow; however, when I think about the alternative, I am grateful to have reached 50 relatively unscathed. I think about the sweet, funny, talented friends I’ve been lucky enough to know and love that never had the chance to make it to 50 and I am grateful to be here and to have known them.

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      Jenny
      28 Nov 2019
      5:42am

      I am grateful for my boyfriend. I left my marriage in January, and for most of the year I wondered if anyone would ever kiss me or hold me again. I wondered who would be next to me to celebrate and mourn. Now I have the answer. The world makes more sense to me now that I am moving through it with a loving partner. I am thankful for my teenager, who is about to launch and who impressed and delights me; for running & meditation; black tea & wool socks; all the friends who have gotten me through the last 2 years; and for the irrepressible Viajera who I know only through her comments here.

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    Tammy Madsen
    27 Nov 2019
    9:50am

    We found out this week that my mom’s scan was clear of cancer. She is the strongest, kindest person I know, so I’m thankful she’s healthy.

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    Suju
    27 Nov 2019
    10:13am

    Grateful as always for my wonderful family -husband, son, sister, nephew, cousins and more – fantastic friends, good health, relative prosperity which has given me the ability to quit a job I didn’t like and follow my dream (whatever comes of it, just grateful for that opportunity). And finally I’m grateful for a great community of activists and organizers that I’ve become a part of. They give me hope. I feel very fortunate and should definitely complain less (I’m looking at you, New Year’s resolutions 😀).

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    MaryAlice
    27 Nov 2019
    1:09pm

    I’m so grateful that everyone I love is healthy. That is all I need!

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    Tanya Hahni
    27 Nov 2019
    12:44pm

    Happy Thanksgiving Kim! I am grateful for my family, that while challenging in some ways, are the people in the world I’m closest to; my husband who I admire daily; our cat who chooses to sit by me first; my circumstances, which have allowed me to return to school full time at 47 and continue working toward a fulfilling career; my good physical health that I have in spite of myself sometimes; our lovely house that keeps us warm and dry and inspired. I am also immensely grateful for my good mental health that allows me to keep striving and dreaming. Yours is literally one of only three blogs I follow. Your taste and thoughtfulness have me checking in daily and you are a bright spot on the vast internet.

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    AnneMarie
    27 Nov 2019
    12:07pm

    I am grateful for my kids. I am 50 and have a 13 year old and 9 year old – so clearly I got into this parenting thing late. With the way current events have been going, these two have kept me from becoming too cynical. And more importantly, from being apathetic. They inspire me to fight the good fight and to show, not just tell, how kindness and light and love needs to win over hate, indifference and darkness.

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    Stacey
    27 Nov 2019
    12:27pm

    I’m grateful for my older sister, the only person in the world who has known me my entire life and who is likely facing a difficult year, having been diagnosed with a rare tumor that damaged her heart. She came through open-heart surgery two weeks ago like a champ and once she’s healed from that ordeal she faces more as her doctors figure out how to treat the tumor. I’ve always imagined us growing old together, the two old ladies with season tickets to the New York City Ballet, clinging to each other as we find our seats for a matinee performance. Afterward, we would have light dinner with a glass of something before heading home to our dogs in our modest two bedroom apartment. She’s always had my back and it will be a privilege to help her as she faces whatever is to come.

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    LisaC
    27 Nov 2019
    12:31pm

    Thank you, Kim, for this blog. It’s the first thing I check in the morning and I enjoy it immensely.

    I’m grateful that my dad was of clear mind to make the choice to move to hospice care, and that he’s still himself despite what cancer has done to his body. I’m thankful that I can be with him for days at a time when there isn’t much time left. I very much appreciate my family, my friends, and my husband who supports whatever I want to do.

    Happy Thanksgiving, all!

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    HickfromStyx
    27 Nov 2019
    12:38pm

    Wishing all the American Girls of a Certain Age a Happy Thanksgiving. Even in the darkest part of the year, there always something to be thankful for. Much happiness as you celebrate.

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    Leah
    27 Nov 2019
    10:36am

    My dad got a life saving liver transplant in September. Earlier this year, after multiple hospital stays, we came to terms with the fact that he might not be around much longer (he’s only 64). Every single day I think about the donor family whose decision changed our family’s life. My brother and I get to have more time with our dad, my nieces get their grandpa and my mom gets her husband for longer that we thought we would, all because of a decision made by people who don’t even know us. It’s humbling and the thing I will always be the most thankful for.

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    Tamara
    27 Nov 2019
    10:51am

    Grateful to have found a fantastic group of people with whom to share all of the “certain ages.” Grateful for every sunrise and sunset. Beyond grateful in ways that gratitude can not express for the 3 men in my life: the original whom I married and the 2 we created. Grateful my body parts still work mostly the way they are supposed to most of the time. Grateful for all of the geniuses who make us laugh (Chuck Lorre I’m talking to you. The Kominsky Method is brilliant.) Grateful for my brilliant dermatologist who keeps me looking too young to read this column hehehe. Happy Thanksgiving!

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    Sylvia S
    27 Nov 2019
    11:02am

    That’s a really good list, Kim. <3
    I'm grateful for all the people I love and grateful to have work that I love and that keeps me up at night (in a good way:).
    Happy Thanksgiving!

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    Lisa Birnbach
    27 Nov 2019
    11:10am

    This is right up my alley, Kim. Many thanks for your newsletter and happy Thanksgiving to you.

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    kbb
    27 Nov 2019
    11:40am

    Grateful that a romantic relationship ended with kindness, for the inspiration of an increasing number of powerful and unique female voices in the public sphere, for growing physical and emotional strength, for James Salter’s writing. And, as always, for the family, friends, lovers and dogs who got me through another year.

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    Jennyg
    27 Nov 2019
    7:14pm

    Happy Thanksgiving. I’m so grateful for my friends, my loving husband of 18 years and gasp my 2 teenage children that keep me grounded and steeped in reality! Thanks for your awesome site Kim. Have a great holiday.

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    y.k.
    27 Nov 2019
    9:51pm

    I have so much I am grateful for, I am thinking especially of my parents who are healthy – no small accomplishment in the 80’s ! -my husband who is kind to me even when it’s hard to be and my children who are , just amazing despite all the mistakes I’ve made. Thank you universe.
    And I’m grateful to the next generation. I don’t know many people in their 20’s, but after getting to know a few of these young people, I’m happy to say I’m truly optimistic.

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