We talk to television writer and producer Lesley Arfin—of the shows Love and Girls—about getting fired from big jobs, being a “scary girl,” leadership styles, mentors, collaboration, earning respect, and how women in their 40s haven’t peaked yet. Plus: Hobbies! Also, I make a rather exciting announcement. So do tune in, on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, or wherever you get your podcasts. And join our Patreon for all sorts of exciting exclusive content, from blog posts to playlists to special episodes.
Keep swiping!!!! It is absolutely a numbers game. So happy for you!
I was wondering too – I am glad it turned out to be something good!
i’m happy for you kimfrance! what a great reason for insomnia!
Lesley Arfin seemed like a difficult interview, but loved the podcast and fingers crossed
So happy for you Kim! Thanks for sharing and for your words of encouragement. I had been getting ready to take a break, but thanks to you I will keep swiping! Sending good vibes for much deserved sleep 🙂
Yay Kim–happy for you on your spring news! Enjoy, enjoy. Leslie Arfin was such an interesting interview, especially when she started getting real about ambition, not feeling done (me neither!), a big NY personality in a softer, more woo-woo LA. Thanks for having her on. At first I thought she’d be just another boring showbiz person like “aw shucks, can’t believe how #blessed I am to be making a show…” (now that’s Tylenol PM right there) but then she got real about how HBO doesn’t pay, you can actually get fired from your own show about your own life, she wants to do MORE, she doesn’t love the book she wrote in her 20’s…all so good, honest, and REAL. So thanks, Leslie!
Just read this and HAD to share: https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2021/04/26/romance-retirement-home-covid/?utm_campaign=wp_main&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook&fbclid=IwAR1rMaN2tEkNB9iEicQk9zfNDqztY4CoHTWng3HKfJU1zQPRVLA1MtAeZJc
That is the best story I’ve read in FOREVER.
Oh phew! I’m a classic worrier by nature, so I’m delighted you have a happy reason for being “away”, although I hope you can work out the insomnia soon. I take a CBD gummy by Charlotte’s Web at night, and I do think it’s helped me with my sleep in a pretty meaningful way.
So happy for you Kim!! Allow yourself to be happy – you deserve it! ❤️
I’m still laughing about Kim’s response to the hobby of yarn dyeing – “yeah …”.
I was so happy to hear you are in love! Yay for you! Enjoy all the feelings:)
Kim,
Yeah, yeah, yeah, thanks for sharing your secret and all that but MUCH BIGGER thanks for admitting you don’t have any hobbies (I do have dogs, though….).
I also remember the sheer torture of forcing myself (as a younger than I am now GoaCA but still a GoaCA) to do things with other people so that my – now husband – would not think I was too clingy. I am thinking I need to offer the friends who put up w/me during those outings an apology!
I loved hearing your happy news, Kim. Thrilled for you. But of course I crave more details, which I won’t be specific about here cause I don’t want to spoil the surprise announcement for those who haven’t listened to the podcast yet.
Insomnia….what has helped me recently is: Solid Eight by Herbalogic (over the counter––you can get it on Amazon–– does NOT have melatonin) It was recommended to me by my acupuncture lady. I used it only a couple of times to get myself back on a “normal” sleep pattern so I can fall asleep around 10:30 and wake up between 6 and 7 a.m. AND, if you wake up at the grieving time––2:30 to 3:30 a.m. you can dose yourself at that time in order to fall back to sleep. Also, no computer or looking at my cell phone after 6-7 p.m. really helps––drag that it is. Otherwise, what GREAT news, Kim! So happy for you!
Thank you CW – looking up that herbalogic now!
Big life shifts, even in a great and longed-for direction, take a ton of energy and in mid-life we have so little to spare! When the same thing happened to me at age 49, I was exhausted and muddle-headed for weeks. I’m so glad you’re talking about that part of the miracle, too, Kim.
Loved this podcast – another gem. Kim – so happy for you! What a feeling this love thing, eh? Also – a huge fan of all the projects Leslie Arfin worked on that she mentioned. I could relate to her citing her personality being a very direct New York one – I’ve had to reign it in many a time. That said, she is a strong, resilient powerhouse. Very inspiring. Us +40’s are just getting started!!!
YAY! Love and the accompanying delirium and frustrating-but because excited all the time insomnia 🙂 I’m grateful for the couple of recommendations here! Congratulations 🙂
I just love this podcast and thank you for it Kim. You have a special knack for good interviews with “difficult” women (my interpretation of Arfin’s declaration of being scary). This is an important niche, so glad you are filling it!