A note from the GOACA sickbed

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natalie wood

Excuses in advance if things are a little slow this week: I had a bunch of posts conveniently prepared in advance before I got sick, but am now working to bring myself up to speed while still not feeling 100%. Meanwhile, this picture of Natalie Wood pretty much sums up the last week at GOACA HQ: just nonstop glamour with me and the dogs, fine china, and very strong antibiotics. Tell me, because I’m craving entertainment: what the most exciting thing that has happened to you so far this year?

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    Geri
    26 Feb 2018
    7:22am

    A whirlwind 48-hour visit to NYC (I live in metro Detroit area). Got to see “Come From Away,” the Downton Abbey exhibit near Carnegie Hall and Michelangelo and David Hockney exhibits at the MET. Plus drinks at Joe Allen’s with one old work pal, and a ferry ride to Weehawken for dinner with another pal. The weather was very cold and rainy — not unexpected in January — but who cared, it was New York!

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      Paige
      26 Feb 2018
      8:20pm

      Didn’t you love Come From Away? So great.

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    rockfox
    26 Feb 2018
    8:23am

    I started dating again, after being married for 15 years. More fun than I thought it would be.

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    Caroline
    26 Feb 2018
    8:30am

    Ugh! Sorry your sick!
    I recommended lots and lots of pho.
    Kind of a quiet year, but most exciting was probably going the women’s march in D.C.
    It was heartening that something so powerful was a reaction too something so f—d up.
    On a more nostalgic note ,my 13 year old daughter had her first slow dance with a boy plus getting asked on a date this past sat.
    Suddenly memories of middle school came flooding back!
    Luckily she wasn’t wearing Candies like her mom was😂.
    Try doing the hustle in those!

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    Tammy
    26 Feb 2018
    8:44am

    I second the pho suggestion. There must be SO many great places for pho in NYC. Hope you’re feeling better soon!

    We’re planning a three-week summer trip to Italy. It’s our second trek to the country. We’ll go to Cinque Terre, Rome, Venice and Florence.

    That’s the most exciting thing that will happen. For the most part, the start of 2018 has been pretty tame (or lame).

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      Caroline
      26 Feb 2018
      8:47am

      So jealous!!

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      Nicole
      26 Feb 2018
      8:48am

      My husband and I go to Italy every summer – and the year we did Florence and Cinque Terre was one of my favorites. Last year we did the Amalfi Coast, and when I am stressed, there is one day I go back to…and I’m pretty sure I’ll do that forever. It was just MAGIC.

      Have the best time!!

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        Tammy
        26 Feb 2018
        8:54am

        Second jaunt to Cinque Terre. I LOVE it there. So beautiful, and the hiking is amazing.

        We stay in Monterosso in a B&B. The proprietor of the B&B also co-owns a bar in town. So I’ve got that going for me. Which is nice. 🙂

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          KimFrance
          26 Feb 2018
          9:04am

          I loved Cinque Terre!

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          Nicole
          26 Feb 2018
          9:44am

          Oh Tammy – I love this! We stay in the same place in Rome often and it makes me so happy to see all my favorite things again. Enjoy it! CT round 2 sounds epic. <3

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      Mimi
      26 Feb 2018
      9:46am

      I hope you’re planning to hike the Cinque Terra. A magical experience. I recommend staying in Monterrosa al Mare. You can take a short train ride from there to Santa Margherita and take a bus or 5k walk along the ocean to Portofino, a charming fishing village. https://quintessenceblog.com/walk-santa-margherita-portofino/
      Have a wonderful trip.

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    Laura Jean
    26 Feb 2018
    8:47am

    Pho cures everything!

    We went down to New Orleans last weekend to see St. Vincent. Amazing. Check her out while she’s still on tour.

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      LOC
      27 Feb 2018
      9:52pm

      True although I heard her next tour is full-band. Could be interesting.

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    MissusB
    26 Feb 2018
    8:59am

    In the last week, we have purchased tickets to see Robert Cray, Jackson Browne and Pearl Jam. Yep, pretty excited about that.

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      Tammy
      26 Feb 2018
      9:38am

      Jackson Browne is fabulous in a live setting.

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        Sammy
        27 Feb 2018
        9:56am

        My mom took me to see him when I was a wee lass. My father refused to ever do anything social, so I was her date. He set the bar extremely high for all live music events. In my experience only Joe Jackson topped him.

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          Viajera
          28 Feb 2018
          10:43am

          Joe Jackson!

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    joannawnyc
    26 Feb 2018
    9:23am

    After a year in which I broke both wrists, had three surgeries, sold my house in Brooklyn, moved to the Hudson Valley, bought my first car, spent a year unemployed … I now have a job! And it’s one I wanted, too.

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    Tammy
    26 Feb 2018
    9:24am

    Oh, man! That’s an enviable concert list.

    We caught Steve Winwood this past weekend. His daughter, Lily Winwood, and her band, were openers. Really terrific concerts.

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    Dana D
    26 Feb 2018
    9:26am

    I do hope you are feeling better soon…

    I just had a piece published on the Washington Post’s ed blog, the Answer Sheet. It’s about teaching empathy in the age of the little king…

    https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/answer-sheet/wp/2018/02/21/teacher-how-trump-helps-us-teach-respect-and-empathy-by-modeling-what-those-things-are-not/?utm_term=.0c7bb32736f0

    It’s my third piece in the Post and it always gives me a thrill.

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      KimFrance
      26 Feb 2018
      1:08pm

      Great piece, Dana!

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        Dana D
        27 Feb 2018
        8:39am

        Kim…

        thank you so much. I admire your writing so it means a lot to me.

        Dana

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    Heather
    26 Feb 2018
    9:34am

    A friend and I officially crossed over to the other side and started dating towards the end of 2017, but since spending New Years together it has really taken off, and we’ll go to our first concert together (Flaming Lips!) next week.

    Some exciting stuff coming this year: I just got paid to write a catalog essay on one of my favorite photographers for an exhibition that will open later this year (I’ll present at the opening symposium); I started a new research project on another woman photographer, Doris Ulmann; and I’m planning to do the Tour du Mont Blanc in July. I also might buy the house I’ve been renting, which I love.

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    Knitter
    26 Feb 2018
    9:37am

    My husband and I just got back from 6 days in Cuba, mostly Havana. Cuba is a 3rd world country with the kindest, sweetest people, and a fantastic tropical climate.

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    Nicole
    26 Feb 2018
    9:42am

    I am so sorry you are under the weather. Sending all the healing thoughts your way.

    Oh boy. So. This year has been a lot of everything. I’m doing 2 certification programs concurrently (graduation dates are May and September). That’s to say nothing of getting ready to drop my full time job as my business grows.

    But training for the Boston Marathon has been the highlight so far. I always wanted to be qualified, and I worked my a$$ off to get here. 49 days to go. I cannot WAIT.

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      Jen
      26 Feb 2018
      10:16pm

      Whoa, DEEP respect for the Boston Marathon. That’s hardcore!

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      LOC
      27 Feb 2018
      9:53pm

      Go you, Nicole!

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    Bex
    26 Feb 2018
    9:46am

    Booked a trip to Lima, Peru, and Machu Picchu for May. I can’t really afford it, but I have friends who are living and working in Peru temporarily and I figured I’ll never have another opportunity like this.

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    y.k.
    26 Feb 2018
    9:52am

    I’m kind of chuckling as I write this but the most exciting thing for me in 2018 is that I will join a bookclub &start a painting class, both in March. I’m really looking forward to both.

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      Nicole
      26 Feb 2018
      10:04am

      Creativity is so important for your overall health. I love this!

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    Linda Boardman Kerr
    26 Feb 2018
    9:52am

    Sadly, it’s been a crappy year so far. My husband (19 years my senior) is ill with respiratory problems. After 10 days in hospital he is home now, but can’t take the stairs, so (we got him upstairs) he lives on the second floor. I take meals up on a tray and have had to stop my part-time job. I go from sad to resentful several times a day.

    I’ll get through this (with a little help from my friends–esp. those of Bill W.) but this really challenges me. I am a person who thrives on getting out and going places.

    A day at a time. Today is sunny, which helps a lot. So does reading my favorite blogs, this being one!

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      Nicole
      26 Feb 2018
      10:01am

      Thinking of you.

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        Linda Boardman Kerr
        26 Feb 2018
        1:48pm

        Thank you!

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      KimFrance
      26 Feb 2018
      1:09pm

      So sorry this is going on, Linda. I send my best to you.

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      c.w.
      26 Feb 2018
      1:25pm

      A caretakers job is the most difficult. Sending good vibes and wishing you and your husband better days.

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      rita
      26 Feb 2018
      4:58pm

      Ugh, I’m so sorry to hear that, Linda. I too have had to play caretaker to my husband (for a shorter time than you have), and I completely identify with the resentment. Which then leads to guilt, because it’s not like he wanted to need to be taken care of, but…it’s hard to put your own life on hold and be the nurse.

      I hope he recovers soon.

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      joannawnyc
      28 Feb 2018
      9:51am

      Ugh. I was the one who needed the help and was the focus of the resentment and guilt, but I totally understand where you’re coming from. Home health aids were a big help for us (not that they don’t come with their own issues).

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    c.w.
    26 Feb 2018
    9:52am

    Glad you’re getting bed rest. Still, so sorry you need to do so.

    Nothing exciting (or interesting or challenging or intriguing) to report which, most days, is a good thing.

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    kristie
    26 Feb 2018
    9:56am

    Last year my husband and I sold our house, quit our jobs, bought a sailboat, and moved aboard. We are currently studying Coastal Navigation. It is so much harder and so much more treat than I anticipated! I’ve spent my life as a healer, writer, teacher, and now I am learning to do all of this math in service of living in nature. It’s really amazing! We aim so sail from here (San Francisco Bay) to Mexico later in the year, and meander indefinitely from there. I’m really proud of myself for persevering in these studies.

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    Dakota
    26 Feb 2018
    10:01am

    Some things I put into place in 2017 have started taking shape in 2018 and it feels quiet and amazing. Mostly getting real with myself about professional goals, finances, and general adulting.

    I’ve also started dating again and am being stunned in all the right ways by a new gentleman, who is in fact a gentleman!

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    Meg
    26 Feb 2018
    10:02am

    I’m writing this from a bus in Riyadh, where I just delivered a talk on sexual violence at the first Saudi international humanitarian forum. Outfit: floor-length abaya and head scarf, a change from my preferred leather pants and boots…lol

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    Julie Tynion
    26 Feb 2018
    10:45am

    Feel better soon, Kim!
    Exciting things I’ve done so far this year:
    1. Broke my elbow and had surgery.
    2. Saw “Black Panther” — do it NOW!
    3. Found out that Tony Kushner takes his dog to the same vet that I take mine!
    4. Went to Jamaica.
    5. Continued giving tours at the Met.

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    Lynne
    26 Feb 2018
    11:25am

    I went to San Miguel de Allende with a dear friend who suffered a very serious health issue last spring to celebrate her birthday and the fact she is doing great. A wonderful magical place with amazing architecture, delicious food, great shopping and lovely and friendly people. We had a wonderful time and plan to go back.

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    mlinky
    26 Feb 2018
    11:39am

    I finally managed to get Windows 10 updated without having to work around the blue screen of death!

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    Mary Alice
    26 Feb 2018
    11:56am

    Wow, 2018 is only 9 weeks old and you’ve all done so much! I feel like such a slacker!

    I took a great trip to Denver with my daughters and had a wonderful time hanging with my siblings; started up my spring semester studying textiles and draping; and continue to apply and interview. looking for that elusive perfect job.

    Maybe I’m not such a slacker after all…Get well, Kim!

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    Mary Alice
    26 Feb 2018
    11:58am

    Oh, I forgot: adopted our sweet pit bull mix Gus, who comes to us from a very rough first few years.

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    Eloise
    26 Feb 2018
    12:25pm

    I just, just, just got back from three days in California (I live in New Jersey) where I got to spend time with a good friend and her great family AND participated in a “singing circle” with Glen Phillips (by far my favorite singer/songwriter). I’m EXHAUSTED but will be smiling for days. It was an event for the memory books.

    Get well soon!

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    Emily H.
    26 Feb 2018
    12:41pm

    Great idea – I love reading all of these comments!

    The most exciting thing to happen to me so far this year is getting a new job – and not just any job, one that is perfect for me and allows me to work from home (yay!). It jolted me out of a huge rut (I had previously been in a comfortable job at a small company for over a decade – I should have left yearsssss ago), and reminded me to advocate for what I want, stand up for myself, and to go after bigger and better things because I’m worth it. I had pretty much forgotten all of those things 🙂

    I really hope you feel better soon and you’re getting lots of puppy snuggles in the meantime!

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      Mamavalveeta03
      28 Feb 2018
      1:52am

      That’s my dream! Now, to make it happen.

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    Hick from Styx
    26 Feb 2018
    12:42pm

    Just stress! A “care” worker in my mother’s nursing home has been charged with her assault. The stress of it resulted in my father having a mini-stroke and a fall, which is how I find myself shopping for a walker today, and learning that even in a city of more than a million, no one has these things in stock (just display models), and they must be special ordered, WTF? Soon I will add courthouse trips to my schedule, as the trial proceeds. Livin’ the life in 2018!

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      Michelle
      26 Feb 2018
      1:01pm

      My heart breaks to hear this. I wish your parents peace in their recovery, and strength to you in handling this going forward. There is a special place in hell for people who exploit the vulnerable, at any age.

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      KimFrance
      26 Feb 2018
      1:07pm

      Wow, that is just awful. Your parents are lucky to have you in their corner.

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      c.w.
      26 Feb 2018
      1:29pm

      heartbreaking. So sorry for all of you. So glad the culprit was caught!

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      mlinky
      26 Feb 2018
      10:50pm

      Hugs to you. Been there. Just a suggestion, Goodwill (or your local equivalent) often has walkers, wheelchairs, etc.

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    vishy
    26 Feb 2018
    1:15pm

    I got my passport for the first time! I’m 47. LOL

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      Angela from East Bay
      26 Feb 2018
      2:27pm

      I did that when I was 46 going on 47 – better late than never, right? Happy travels to you! Adventure awaits…

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        vishy
        27 Feb 2018
        9:23am

        🙂 You said it sister!

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          Angela from East Bay
          27 Feb 2018
          2:21pm

          Can I get an “Amen” up in here? 😀

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    Francine
    26 Feb 2018
    2:02pm

    Gosh, I’m beyond envious of everyone’s adventures!

    Got my braces off (late December) and really like my smile now. And finally pulled the trigger on expanding my company. Though frankly, I have no idea how to do it!

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    Michelle
    26 Feb 2018
    2:15pm

    I’m going to Egypt and Jordan for a few weeks in March – something I’ve wanted to do my whole life. I can’t wait!

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    Ann Marie
    26 Feb 2018
    2:21pm

    My whole immediate family—both teenage daughters, very depressed husband and me—is in therapy and working hard on improving our mental health and having a better life. My oldest daughter has been away in treatment for 18 months, with no end in sight just yet. Husband has struggled with and refused effective treatment for depression for at least 30 years. Younger teenage daughter is/was the family perfectionist and rule-follower. Everyone needed support and we all finally got it and are seeing the positive effects. We even unloaded our giant house and moved this weekend into a townhouse. No exterior maintenance for us ever again. Cul de sac living is overrated. The last two years have been so transformative that when I realized I may have misplaced or thrown away an expensive bracelet with the packing materials, I didn’t flip out. It’s just a thing.

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      mary l schaefer
      26 Feb 2018
      4:22pm

      what a brave and hard thing to do.

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      Lorange
      26 Feb 2018
      6:38pm

      Good for you all! I wish you all the best in your work and healing going forward. You are brave.

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      Emily
      27 Feb 2018
      2:41pm

      so grateful for this story – I’m in the middle of mess with husband who has also struggled with and refused effective treatment for depression for 30 years…until he broke last year in ugly ways. I’m doing my own serious work in therapy that I know is not wasted, no matter what the outcome is marriage-wise. I’d like to say he’s in therapy and working hard on treating his depression…but really it’s not yet clear to him that this is THE thing and it’s a thing that has driven most of the stuff in his life and that it CAN be worked on. I want to ask you how it came about?

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        Viajera
        28 Feb 2018
        10:55am

        I don’t know if it will help at all … but I think sometimes if you call them a “life coach” instead of a therapist, there might be less resistance? Many of us are afraid, and afraid to admit it, and so it goes.

        I hope for the best for you.

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      Mamavalveeta03
      28 Feb 2018
      1:55am

      You’re all very brave. And doing this together as a family means that you really did something good in raising your girls!

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      LOC
      28 Feb 2018
      9:46am

      Wow and congrats to you and your family. Hope the healing continues.

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    Nancy Baten
    26 Feb 2018
    2:26pm

    I hope you feel better soon dear!

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    JSL
    26 Feb 2018
    3:36pm

    I applied for my US citizenship last week. Which is bittersweet. I never planned on becoming a dual citizen, but I don’t feel that it’s safe to be a just a Greencard holder in the current political climate. I feel like the laws could change on me at any minute at the moment 🙁

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      Caroline
      27 Feb 2018
      8:38am

      Good idea. Immediately after the election I had my husband do the same thing. You’ll rest a little easier after its done :).

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      elaine Martin
      27 Feb 2018
      11:48am

      I’m an immigration lawyer (and an immigrant). Lots of people are deciding to “improve” their US immigration status since the inauguration. It’s good for business, but in a sad, sad, way.

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      Mamavalveeta03
      28 Feb 2018
      1:58am

      My daughter’s boyfriend is Venezuelan/Syrian, so I fear there is no coming to the United States as long as the current administration and anti-immigration feelings prevail. She’s coming back this fall (Maybe) from Colombia, where she met him, after her Peace Corps stint is done.

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    kimberly
    26 Feb 2018
    3:52pm

    This seems trivial, but I discovered the podcast “Guys We F***ed”, and as an instruction follower I’m starting all the way back at the beginning (2014). It’s made me think so differently about a lot of things, and had really opened my mind about sexuality in so many ways.
    I’m now on the episodes in 2015, and am thrilled I have so many more to listen to. Can’t wait to hear what happens when they get to the election year….

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    rita
    26 Feb 2018
    5:02pm

    Feel better, Kim! My husband and I have yet to pull the trigger, but I think this evening we will buy tickets to go to Amsterdam for a few days next month (and to avoid being in the house for 10 whole days with my in-laws during my kids’ spring break. My in-laws are lovely and I adore them, but I…just can’t do that again so soon after the 10-day visit from them at Thanksgiving).

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    Valleyoftheshoes
    26 Feb 2018
    7:09pm

    Ringing in 2018 on our first family vacation in Turks and Caicos with my husband and our daughter (she turned ten months old that week). We were so relieved that our baby girl travels like a champ on airplanes, etc. and rather tickled she took to resort life so quickly.

    Second most exciting was attending the Super Bowl game in Minneapolis and watching the Eagles beat the Patriots in dramatic fashion. The whole experience was electrifying and attending the victory parade in Philadelphia was the cherry on top.

    Feel better soon, Kim. If you want total nasal passage relief, have some bubbling hot Korean soft tofu stew or soondubu jigae (as spicy hot as you can stand). K-town should have a restaurant that serves it.

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    Gables girl
    26 Feb 2018
    7:46pm

    Booking a trip as we speak for southern Spain in May. Went back on Weight Watchers and already lots the seven pounds I gained at Christmas. Still pissed by gun violence but will join a local march next month.

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    Sue
    27 Feb 2018
    12:24am

    My husband and I took our fourth trip to the US (we live in Australia) in Jan/Feb. We visited San Diego, Austin, New Orleans, St Louis and LA, all for the first time. We enjoyed it immensely but I must say I’ve never been so cold in my whole life as I was in St Louis! We Aussies just don’t know what it’s like to live in a cold climate. We’re already planning for next years trip which will kick off in Tampa (due to my husbands work).

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    Sammy
    27 Feb 2018
    10:27am

    I discovered the head-saving magic that is medical marijuana. My migraine instances have gone from 3-4 a month to once a month and I am in less pain and nausea has diminished. It’s such a relief!

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    chelene
    27 Feb 2018
    2:31pm

    I’ve contributed here before, Kim, and this story involves puking, as did a previous one. Please don’t think I make it a habit. I have no idea what this says about me.

    My video team and I wanted to get in-action video of our C-level execs doing what they love to do so we could do something still tbd with it. The CFO has his own plane and hangar, and we found time during the work week where it was sunny, clear and cold, perfect flying conditions. The plan was for 2 of us to go up in his plane, get pics, video, etc, and another video guy up in another plane, for plane-to-plane photography and video. Cool right? Well, this CFO decided to “show off” by doing g-force flying, which this is a 4-seater Piper, so it’s TINY, and we managed to also hit turbulence over some mountains. I’m not a great flyer under the best conditions, but hell if I’m going to stay on the ground while my coworkers are flying around and having a great time. Long story short, I puked up my lunch in the back seat of my CFO’s plane. I’d warned him on the headset, but he thought I was joking. Fortunately I had several doggy bags stashed in my coat pocket and tidily puked into them, so no grossness anywhere on the plane or camera equipment. Just the smell.

    Thus concludes the beginning of 2018.

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    Amy in StL
    27 Feb 2018
    3:20pm

    I was asked out NYE, by someone who is friend-adjacent. We’ve been dating ever since and he rides a motorcycle. So we’ve found a couple days to armor up and ride and it turns out it’s lots of fun. It also will mean I need to buy new shoes, pants, jacket, maybe other clothes. It’s a whole new realm of shopping for me.

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    Mimi
    27 Feb 2018
    10:46pm

    Feel better, Kim. Pneumonia demands to be taken seriously. Rest, rest, rest.
    So today was my most exciting day of 2018. On a guided excursion into Yellowstone this gorgeous, sunny day, we back country skied among the geysers, waved at elk, bison and swans, and just loved being surrounded by unspoiled natural beauty. My happy place is covered with snow.

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      Mamavalveeta03
      28 Feb 2018
      2:04am

      That sounds glorious, Mimi!

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    Robyn
    27 Feb 2018
    11:03pm

    I *made* my most exciting thing happen: I just completed my 200-hour yoga teacher training – at age 48. I don’t necessarily want to teach, but I have been hugely drawn to yoga for the last couple of years and just wanted to expand my knowledge and deepen my own practice. It’s been more rewarding – in unexpected ways – than I had imagined, and most of all, I’m just really proud of myself.

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    Mamavalveeta03
    28 Feb 2018
    1:41am

    Not too much. I returned from a trip to visit my parents and took a side trip to see the grandkids in Chicago.

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