Let’s talk gratitude

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Have a lovely Thanksgiving, ladies, and I hope your day is exceedingly nice: full of good food, decent people, and a minimum of family drama. I’ll be spending the day uptown at my mom’s place, with a relatively small group of individuals I love, and with whom I agree about all or most of the important matters of the day that families traditionally argue about at the Thanksgiving table, and I’m grateful for that. I’m also feeling grateful for the blue wave in Congress; my health and the health of those I care about; the love of a good man; my sweet dogs; my excellent family and friends; and the fact that a few days ago, I found my blue Celine sunglasses in a handbag I hadn’t carried in a while. I’m also desperately grateful for all of you, as you keep things so pleasant and lively here. OK, now I want to hear what you’re doing, and what you’re feeling especially thankful for. Please do share. I’ll be taking tomorrow off, but  don’t forget to visit the day after that, for my rundown of the best of Black Friday.

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    Debra K
    21 Nov 2018
    2:05pm

    I live in LA but visiting my chosen family in SF right now – grateful for rain but my heart goes out to everyone who lost their homes and loved ones. Grateful for health after a cancer scare, my wonderful son, and the love of a good man who still thinks I’m the best thing that ever happened to him (I feel the same about him). Looking forward to a lovely meal tomorrow with friends I have known for 30 years who are my true family and have kept me sane through good times and hard times. We’ll drink too much, eat too much, tell stories about our debauched youth that will make our kids roll their eyes, make plans for the future and look past our grey hair, bifocals, the wrinkles and aching bones to see each other as if not a day has passed since we were in out 20’s.

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      Linda Boardman Kerr
      21 Nov 2018
      7:45pm

      Thank you!

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    Linda B Kerr
    21 Nov 2018
    8:26am

    My sons are both overseas, stepkids far-flung as well, so we (who live outside Chicago) are heading up to beautiful Door County in Wisconsin to take advantage of my brother’s time-share, and the beauty of the area. We’ll spend lots of time in front of the fire, I will hike and investigate the local shops, and we will most definitely take the scenic way home so I can visit an alpaca farm or two and commune with these lovely animals and buy some of their soft yarn.

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      Cedar
      21 Nov 2018
      9:37am

      If you will accept llamas instead of alpacas check out Bahr Creek Llamas and fiber studio (it should be right on your way – about 2 minutes off I43) – the yarn store is delightful and the owner spins the yarn herself. My family is from nearby and I never go home without visit and building up my stash.

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        Linda Boardman Kerr
        21 Nov 2018
        7:45pm

        Thank you!

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    melsybelsy
    21 Nov 2018
    8:43am

    Yes, such a reflective time of year! I’m thankful for my husband, my rock and my two 9 and 12 year old children who are currently fighting like a stag and a mule but give the best cuddles when they get along. I’m especially thankful for taking this day, Wednesday off to relax, get a check up, and hit the stores before the madness. Another year went by with healthy family and, lastly, I don’t have to watch what I eat tomorrow which is a blessing to this chronic dieter.

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    AK
    21 Nov 2018
    8:45am

    Small Thanksgiving here in Paris, where it’s business as usual for everybody else, and our cooking tastes just not quite the same as it used to but I’m not complaining! Grateful there’s still half a country left back home that upholds morality, dignity, and the best of what it is to be human.

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    Heather
    21 Nov 2018
    9:15am

    I’m especially thankful that I have the able body and leisure time to be able to spend significant amounts of time on trails, that I have an active hiking club with some great people, and we can do stuff like go backpacking in Colorado. As much as my family can make me insane, I’m thankful for them, and that we’ve healed some rifts this year. I’m thankful that this year I was able to buy the house I’ve been renting, which comes with two basement rental apartments and some steady rental income.

    Kim, I’m so glad to hear that you have the love of a good man. One sucky thing is that, about a year ago, I started dating a man I’d been friends with for a long time, and that turned out to be a huge disappointment — he’s supposedly sober but a textbook case of a dry drunk. I’m trying not to feel too deflated by that, and be thankful for the other things, but it still sucks.

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    Joannawnyc
    21 Nov 2018
    9:28am

    I am working on my gratitude practice (I can ALWAYS think of why things aren’t great) so here goes: thankful for a successful transition to our new locale, thankful for an old friend who showed up in the right place at the right time, thankful for my job even though it’s not perfect, thankful for my adult son who is showing signs of growing up at last.

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    Jenny
    21 Nov 2018
    9:29am

    I am in a terrible limbo before announcing a divorce, so I am grateful for very very very patient friends, a good therapist, parents who can provide extra financial support without drama or judgment (well, they judge but they keep it to themselves) and a resilient child. Also grateful to know that “the love of a good man” is possible for people starting again in their (very) late 40s, because it’s been missing from my life for so long. Grateful for good tea, bicycles, warm socks, library books, dark chocolate, bright lipstick, Bitmoji, craft beer, the view from my office window, Weleda skin food to keep my hands from cracking, Netflix, yoga, a strong core.

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    Cheryl
    21 Nov 2018
    9:30am

    Thanksgiving in Westchester with a friend’s family. Grateful for the medical team overseeing my dad’s healthcare. Grateful to be 57 and still have my dad.

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    Amy C
    21 Nov 2018
    9:39am

    Such a lovely reflective post of gratitude. Thanks for sharing. It truly warms my heart to read that you have found love! I am thankful for my husband, my health, my friends and my family…..especially my 5 nieces and nephews. Grateful for a recently repaired rift with my sister that was brokered by my brother who generally tries to stay above the fray and away from the drama. I am grateful for the wisdom and growth that has come with age. I’m thankful for online communities like this one you created with so many wonderful like-minded women who I will never meet, but who enrich my daily life. Happy Thanksgiving!

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    Cedar
    21 Nov 2018
    9:46am

    I’m grateful that I have the day off to grade, deal with a backlog of emails, cook, and pack for travel tomorrow. And that those things are being facilitated by very hardworking people who are currently cleaning my little apartment and a delivery service bringing groceries pretty soon.
    I’m grateful for my husband who emptied the dishwasher while I lounged around last night, for a family who is not giving me guilt for going to my in-laws instead of them for the holiday, and for the health to make all of this happen.

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    Alexa
    21 Nov 2018
    9:48am

    Kim, I enjoyed meeting you last week. That was a nice event : )
    I’m in a transitional phase right now in my marriage (Should I stay or should I go?) and am tremendously grateful for the friends in my life. They listen to me vent, and make me laugh like nothing else. That’s huge.
    I’m grateful too for the stability I do have: decent health, a house in my name, and my own money. Most importantly, my about-to-be-teenage daughter. She is healthy, bright, driven in ways I never was, and she keeps me on my toes.
    Happy Thanksgiving!

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    Trina
    21 Nov 2018
    9:56am

    Am grateful for the extra grading time today and the rest of the weekend. This year I’m not attending a family get-together by choice. I fretted for days before announcing this, but am grateful I did it. This is going to sound ridiculous, but I’m grateful my 24-yr-old daughter’s tumor is an “easy one” (according to the neurosurgeon). I’m grateful my 9-yr-old only has strep. And I’m grateful my cat and dog are healthy and love each other. Mostly. Thank you for asking Kim. We are all lucky you’re here.

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    Shannon Hsu
    21 Nov 2018
    10:19am

    I am grateful for my health, my husband, and our ability to travel the world. I’ll be spending Thanksgiving with my family. Although we disagree on a great many things, we love each other and that rises to the top. Enjoy your holiday and thank you for making my world a more lovely, creative and thoughtful place.

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    c.w.
    21 Nov 2018
    10:31am

    Grateful to you, Kim, for establishing this wonderful community. Grateful for my health, my kids, my beau. I hope everyone is able to indulge in their favorite foods, laughter and love.

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    Bex
    21 Nov 2018
    10:42am

    This Saturday marks the 20th anniversary of my dad’s triple bypass, so I’m really grateful that he’s still around, kicking butt and taking names, although he is slowing down a bit now that he’s in his 80s and has had both knees replaced. 😉

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    Adrienne
    21 Nov 2018
    10:42am

    Hi, Kim, and Happy Thanksgiving. I’m grateful to have my soon-to-be 86 year old mom still with us. She’s still taking 5 fitness classes a week and her cardiologist told her she has the heart of a 60 year old! Of course I sent a birthday card to her heart that she proudly showed off in her gym. Thankful to have her wisdom and advice (whether or not it’s asked for 😉

    I appreciate your writing and your blog and the fact that you are size inclusive. I also enjoy your links which I bookmark relentlessly. Hope you and your family have a lovely holiday

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    maryse
    21 Nov 2018
    10:43am

    i am grateful for being able to finally feel gratitude. Happy Thanksgiving to all.

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    Candy
    21 Nov 2018
    10:45am

    I’m grateful for all of you reminding me to find the things to feel positive and grateful about as we spend yet another Thanksgiving by ourselves because kids don’t want to travel, friends have own families to be with, etc. etc. I’m trying not to whine and instead look at all I do have, and your lovely, insightful comments are showing me how.

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    Mimi
    21 Nov 2018
    10:45am

    I returned last week from a long planned visit to Los Angeles, where the smoky skies and constant news coverage of the fires reminded me of when I lost my home in Malibu in a similar disaster 25 years ago. I am grateful that I had resources then, both human and financial, and feel desperately sorry for the many people who lost so much recently who don’r have support. I’ve had triumphs and challenges in the years since the fire, so this Thanksgiving I am grateful, as I was then, for the love and support of my friends and family and, if I may pat myself on the back a bit, for my ability to cope with what life, fate, whatever, throws at us. Happy Thanksgiving to all in this special community of women.

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    Liz
    21 Nov 2018
    10:45am

    Happy Thanksgiving! Your post reminded me that the one time my family ever argued over politics at Thanksgiving was during the Presidential primaries when it was Bernie vs. Hillary. And for that, I am thankful.

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    Jana
    21 Nov 2018
    11:28am

    So happy to hear you have the “love of a good man,” Kim. I don’t even know you, but that makes me smile. Yay for you!

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      Cheryl
      21 Nov 2018
      3:58pm

      You caught me by surprise with your “love of a good man” Kim. This pleases me. Say no more, keep it close.

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    Viajera
    21 Nov 2018
    11:37am

    Wow, people, it sounds like peace is breaking out all over!! I am thankful for that. More, please.

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      Viajera
      21 Nov 2018
      11:43am

      Oh also. I am almost sorry to get a little bit, possibly political … but I wish more people got at least a half-day on Thanksgiving. I really think it’s important. This holiday is different, it’s for everyone, and, for one day, I think we could all not shop for things. This would probably need legislation.

      As for food, markets could close at noon or 1, couldn’t they? And after that, we could maybe talk to a neighbor? Of course some people have to work, and those people have to be fed, too. Just my two cents.

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        Jenny
        21 Nov 2018
        11:58am

        Trader Joe’s closes all day on Thanksgiving, which I think is awesome. (Also, I am not cooking on Thanksgiving, so won’t need to make any last-second grocery runs).

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        Heather
        22 Nov 2018
        11:48am

        And remember that Friday is #optoutside! Please consider going outside, in whatever way is accessible to you. REI gives its employees the day off.

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    Holly
    21 Nov 2018
    11:44am

    Kim, thanks for giving us the opportunity to say what we are grateful for. I do my best to remind myself every day to have gratitude but Thanksgiving can be such a powerful moment to really try to LIVE it. So, I’m grateful for – in no particular order: the Blue Wave, which has restored some of my lost faith in humanity, my beloved family and friends, my dogs, my good job, my home that is my haven. I’m hosting Thanksgiving tomorrow and this reminds me to be grateful for that too (because while I mostly love doing it, it can also make me a little crabby). And thank you, too, for everyone in this lovely community.

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    Tamara
    21 Nov 2018
    11:54am

    Hosting for a crowd of 21, family and friends who have become family. Grateful that I woke up this morning and my parts all function optimally. Grateful for my work and my clients. I can’t think of a word that expresses how grateful I am for the 3 men and the puppy that I call home. Happy thanksgiving 💕💕💕

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    MaryAlice
    21 Nov 2018
    11:57am

    I love this part of Thanksgiving! I am so grateful for my kind and patient husband, my beautiful, accomplished, funny, loving daughters. I am grateful that my sister is cancer-free and as feisty as ever, that my brother is happy and healthy and able to dote on his granddaughter, for my wonderful in-laws, my amazing gaggle of nieces and nephews, for having a roof over my head and cute shoes to wear, and for all my girlfriends, who support and love and drink together. Happy Thanksgiving!

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    Kirstjen
    21 Nov 2018
    12:14pm

    I’m staying home (downtown Chicago) with my partner. I love how the city quiets down on big holidays when many of my neighbors leave town, and I feel like I’ve got the entire neighborhood to myself.

    This year, I’m grateful for having enough, for the blue wave in the House of Representatives making me hopeful for the future, for the prediction of a mild winter, and for a partner who makes the holidays come alive like they never have before.

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    Lisa
    21 Nov 2018
    1:19pm

    Pretty much grateful for my whole life. Especially when I remember to step back and consider and it’s raining and our air is finally clear.

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    Anne
    21 Nov 2018
    1:31pm

    I’m grateful for the rain that started this morning here – first rain of the season which will make the drive to my brother’s place a little worse this afternoon, but we really need it to clear the air here in Northern California so I will not complain. Otherwise, like so many of you have already said, I’m grateful for an awful lot, you all have done a good job of listing things, so I’ll just tag along to your lists.

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      Doyenne
      21 Nov 2018
      3:59pm

      Third! I’m about to pack up at the office for a nice, lazy four-day weekend and everyone’s posts are making me misty. Extra thanks to Kim for facilitating such a warm, lovely, funny posse of GOACA. Hugs to all!

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    EmilyTL
    21 Nov 2018
    3:05pm

    Tomorrow morning my husband and I will take an early morning hike at the magical Red Rocks outside of Denver– a newer tradition of ours — before hosting my parents for a traditional turkey dinner that we are making ourselves. I am grateful for our small celebration of people (and two cats) I love more than I could ever express, and that my mother’s cochlear implant surgery was a success last month so she may be able to understand and participate in our discussions (which are politically aligned, thank goodness). Friday night after work we will head to Friendsgiving where our godkids are at the adult table now and add lots of fun. I am grateful to be able to be grateful as I have been “going dark” of late. Tis the season to be reminded of the people who aren’t at the table, including the children we lost. I am grateful to have a good job despite working tomorrow, Friday and this weekend on an unexpected deadline. I am grateful for the grace others give me when I don’t deserve it and need it the most. I am grateful for my health and the fact that I feel younger in my 40’s than I did in for all of my 30s. Despite chronic pain issues, I still sometimes forget I have been close to losing my life on more than a couple occasions. I am grateful to have people here to remind me that I have more to look forward to and to see hope not as a liability but the gift it is.

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    Anna Gregory
    21 Nov 2018
    5:22pm

    Happy Thanksgiving, Kim, and thank you for another year of your perspective, for making my world just a little bit better every day, and for inspiring my curiosity in big and small ways. (I have to believe there may be times when you don’t feel like this work, so please know how much it is appreciated).
    I’m grateful for my stellar family and my true friends. For my adventures and my opportunities. As much as there are events in the world that dismay me, I find I am becoming more and more enchanted by the belief in goodness. We shall prevail!
    Enjoy your holiday everyone. We are so lucky.
    (I am running around like a mad woman today, but very much wanted to say thanks).

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    Kimberly
    21 Nov 2018
    6:47pm

    As the wife of a high school teacher I smiled at the couple people who were grateful for extra grading time. I’m grateful for all the teachers who give so much every day, work nights and weekends, and are now expected to lay their lives on the line for their students. Thanks for all you do!

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    karen
    21 Nov 2018
    6:47pm

    i am grateful that i am that i have no children, something that i never, ever thought i would say. But honestly, i can not imagine what i would say to them about the state of America today and they lousy world that i would be leaving them to clean up….sorry if that’s depressing….

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    Gablesgirl
    21 Nov 2018
    7:05pm

    Grateful for health and emotional well-being. I’l be turkey trotting at 5k in the morning and then husband and I and a friend having stone crabs instead of bird. Blessings.

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    y.k.
    21 Nov 2018
    8:25pm

    o thanks for this post – i’ve been feeling put upon & cranky, in between raging @ the latest developments w/ the orange one, i’m helping my parents w/ their various and boring aging related affairs- i so often forget how lucky i am – let’s see… my boys are healthy, my parents are healthy, not always sane, but physically ok, i can afford to travel to my parents on the other side of the world, my husband is amazing, and thanks to intermittent fasting for the past few months i can fit comfortably into all my smaller jeans (it hasn’t always been so). thank you everyone for your posts, i need this.

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    Caroline
    22 Nov 2018
    3:32pm

    Yes, its cliche but..
    I am truly thankful for my family and friends.
    Thankful for the delicious turkey in my oven and thankful for my kids and husband arguing upstairs.
    Thankful for my memories of thanksgivings past. The family who I wish were still here to argue at my table..
    Thankful for this wonderful blog that I have my morning tea with.
    Happy Thanksgiving Kim and all of you!

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    Erin
    22 Nov 2018
    6:34pm

    I’m fortunate to have more blessings than I can count— but I’m also thankful to you for this place where all these beautiful people come every day to be reminded of everything that is good in this world. Truly. ❤️

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    Lindee C Levicke
    23 Nov 2018
    10:13pm

    While I have been miserably sick with a chest cold since last Sat that has caused me to miss two really good shopping events, I am grateful for: my sweet husband; our 3 cats and 1 dog; my lovely friends; 9 years being cancer free; that our house is not in an area of California that is in danger of burning. I think everybody in California that has a roof over their head that isn’t in danger of burning or being taken out in a mudslide is grateful. So this year, I’m cutting back on gift giving so I can give more to my fellow Californians that have nothing left.

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