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This week, I will publish my 3000th post. Back in 2016, when I published my 2000th, I gave you all the opportunity to ask me anything, and since one of you suggested we make that a regular event, I’ve decided to do it again. As long as the question isn’t too excruciatingly personal, or the reply too potentially libelous, I’ll answer it. See you in the comments.

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    DeDe
    19 Jun 2018
    12:37pm

    Do you in fact own three cars and no stereo?

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      DeDe
      19 Jun 2018
      8:37pm

      Ok here’s a real question: What’s the naughtiest thing any dog of yours has ever done?

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    themis
    19 Jun 2018
    1:13pm

    Which item that you, for whatever reason, talked yourself out of purchasing, do you regret missing out on the most? And what item that you surplussed from your closet, for whatever reason, do you miss the most?

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      AmyM
      20 Jun 2018
      10:25am

      Yes! I was going to ask this.

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    EW
    19 Jun 2018
    1:28pm

    What’s the most recent addition to your bucket list?

    What’s been on your bucket list the longest time?

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    Dusa
    19 Jun 2018
    1:32pm

    If you were a plant, what would you be?
    If you were a cocktail, what would you be?

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    Sara
    19 Jun 2018
    2:17pm

    What are your grand plans for Girl of a Certain Age? (Know you’ve got a new site coming, but curious about what’s beyond that.)

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    Elisa
    19 Jun 2018
    2:25pm

    How much money do you spend on clothes/shoes/accessories per month?

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    Sheila
    19 Jun 2018
    2:40pm

    what advice would you give to a woman in her late 30s?

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      Jennifer
      20 Jun 2018
      9:25am

      And can I piggyback and ask for advice for a woman who has just turned 40, if there is any variance in what you’d say?

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    Achariya
    19 Jun 2018
    3:03pm

    (Since I work in sports…) What’s the most interesting crossover from sports to fashion that you’ve seen, and vice-versa?

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    sc
    19 Jun 2018
    3:03pm

    What have you learned/ advice you’d give – that goes against what you were taught/ conventional wisdom?

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    Hillary
    19 Jun 2018
    3:12pm

    When did you start to feel confident in who you are? What happened (or didn’t happen) to invoke that confidence?

    What questions do you like to ask on a first date?

    Do you ever think about living somewhere other than NYC?

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    Emily TL
    19 Jun 2018
    4:02pm

    What did you want to be when you grew up?

    What do you miss about Sassy/ Lucky (aside from the wardrobe budget)?

    Who are your most important mentors?

    What do you consider your most significant professional “failure”?

    When do you know it is time to “retire” a trend or a particular piece.

    At what age did you really know your own style?

    What are you looking forward to/excited about?

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    Fawn Moscato
    19 Jun 2018
    4:11pm

    Which products are you using in your daily skincare and makeup routines?

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    Another Rebecca
    19 Jun 2018
    5:09pm

    Which items/brands (for both fashion and beauty) do you find seriously overrated?

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    CC
    19 Jun 2018
    5:15pm

    Have you ever dealt with a mean-spirited haidresssr/aesthetician as a GOACA, who critiqued your appearance in a way that wasn’t helpful or appropriate? If so, how did you handle it?

    (Looking for a graceful way to handle my discomfort with stylists who IMO make ten too many comments per appointment about my tragically dry hair or overgrown cuticles. So many service providers are straight-up dicks in search of the upsell and I want to see how a smart woman might tackle that in the moment.)

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    c.w.
    19 Jun 2018
    5:15pm

    @sevenlocalfilm/Seth Fein…new beau?

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      Mamavalveeta03
      23 Jun 2018
      8:31pm

      Whoa! What have I missed?!?

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    nora
    19 Jun 2018
    6:58pm

    When will your book be finished/published?

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    Darcy
    19 Jun 2018
    7:00pm

    What are your thoughts on “fast fashion”?

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    Lori
    19 Jun 2018
    7:36pm

    What advice do you have about dating in your 40s and 50s?

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    Elizabeth Kennedy
    19 Jun 2018
    7:48pm

    What advice would you give someone about to enter their 40s (read: me!)?
    What fashion trend do you wish would stay hidden in the back of the closet forever and ever?

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    catballouu
    19 Jun 2018
    7:56pm

    What’s your advice for staying stylish in your late 40s and beyond?
    How did you decide what to do post-Lucky?
    What is your personal advice on being older and dating? (Yes there’s a theme!)
    If you could go back and change one thing—do it over, make it different, say it differently— what would it be and why?

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    Lori in Toronto
    19 Jun 2018
    8:03pm

    What changes have you had to make (if any) to your lifestyle in general, but to your self-care in particular, after becoming a GOACA?

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    Gablesgirl
    19 Jun 2018
    8:13pm

    How is life after alcohol? What are the changes in your life that you didn’t expect/anticipate?

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    karen
    19 Jun 2018
    8:31pm

    if you could change one thing in your life; what would it be?

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    H
    19 Jun 2018
    9:06pm

    What are you most afraid of?

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    Mary
    19 Jun 2018
    9:29pm

    When should a woman stop wearing ripped jeans?

    What do you think of Levi’s 501 in white with a tapered leg….and some distressing. On a woman who’s almost fifty!

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    nanny
    19 Jun 2018
    10:12pm

    can you speak a little more about your sobriety? i’ve been a reader for many years but missed this one. what has been the most helpful to you? what’s the biggest challenge? thank you for being so open about it. and im looking forward to your book.

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    Meg
    19 Jun 2018
    10:27pm

    You know when you’re trying to fall asleep and all of a sudden your brain starts thinking of that time you did something horrible to someone else, did something really embarrassing, or just eff’d up?

    What story from your past keeps you up at night?

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    Natasha
    19 Jun 2018
    11:36pm

    How did you first know that you wanted to get divorced? Was it a difficult decision? Do you ever wonder what would happen if you didn’t?

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    Mamacita
    20 Jun 2018
    12:31am

    Are you really cool with Christina Kelly now? Is there anyone from your professional past that you’re not really cool with?

    Also, what ever happened to Karen Catchpole?

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    y.k.
    20 Jun 2018
    3:02am

    what is Emanuelle Alt really like?

    do you regret endorsing anything (fashion/ beauty) on GOACA?

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    Linda
    20 Jun 2018
    8:45am

    Ditto the questions on sobriety. I have 28 years under my belt, but would love to hear about your experience.

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    LisaC
    20 Jun 2018
    8:52am

    What is your writing process? Where do you write, when do you write (time of day), what inspires you? Do you keep lists of topics for posts or are you more in the moment? Who supports you, if anyone – researcher, editor, proofreader, etc?

    Do you have a motto that you live by?

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    Katie C
    20 Jun 2018
    9:10am

    It seems like most people with a platform weighed in on the recent suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain – I was wondering if you debated writing a post about it/depression or you just don’t think it is appropriate content for GOACA? Or had nothing to “add”? – Just curious in these sad times, it seems like you often hit on some of the heavier aspects of life – even if just in your links. (Or maybe you did address it and I missed it.)

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      Adrien
      28 Jun 2018
      10:03am

      This was what I was going to ask as well, especially about Kate Spade because I assumed you’d have met her at some point in your career. Too personal? Too sad? It really felt strange that it wasn’t mentioned or addressed.

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    Nancy
    20 Jun 2018
    9:17am

    How often do you purge your closet and how do you do it? Does it vary by clothes, shoes and bags? Thanks for sharing!

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    Stacey
    20 Jun 2018
    9:24am

    Can you tell us about your dogs? How do you manage them in a NYC apartment? Also, would you consider posting pictures of yourself wearing some of the clothing that you buy?

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    Rebecca
    20 Jun 2018
    9:38am

    This is a very Sassy-specific question: you got to meet a lot of famous/cool musicians during your time there. Which one was the most unexpectedly interesting/fun to talk to?

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    Cjay
    20 Jun 2018
    9:44am

    You made a comment about DVF and how you don’t show her clothes because your personal experience and her reputation in the business is as being mean and not supportive of other women. As much as I love gossip and hearing how evil some people can be, maybe tell us who is surprisingly nice and warm and supportive. With the immigrant children being torn from their parents I am searching for good in the world these days.

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    barb
    20 Jun 2018
    10:18am

    what do you think of Anthony Bourdain’s death…

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    Mimi
    20 Jun 2018
    10:25am

    What’s your advice re letting go of, selling or donating unwanted but good designer clothes? I’ve tried RealReal, but is there a way to digest getting pennies on the dollar with Zen acceptance?

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    HickfromStyx
    20 Jun 2018
    10:39am

    What is your bedtime routine for a refreshing sleep? Yes, I want to know if you soak in the tub with Epsom salts while gazing at lit candles, if you use an ambient noise machine, if you like cotton PJs and what kind of mattress and pillow work for you.

    These things become more important at a certain age. And while we’re at it, do the dogs jump up on your bed in the night?

    Sleep hygiene is the thing.

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    Nicole
    20 Jun 2018
    10:46am

    What did you once believe (about yourself, or anything else) that you no longer do?

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    Mdot
    20 Jun 2018
    10:49am

    How do you meet people to date?

    What do you appreciate about being a woman of a certain age and what do you miss about being a woman of a younger age?

    Botox? Yes or no? And at what age?

    What is your worst career mistake/regret?

    And how do you manage writer’s block?

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    Sarah
    20 Jun 2018
    10:54am

    After several heartbreaks, how have you continued to trust and to be open?

    Did you consider having children as a single parent? What was that thought process like?

    I realize these are both very perspnal–I only ask them because they are questions I think about often myself. I completely understand if you would prefer not to answer.

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    Ineke
    20 Jun 2018
    10:57am

    I’d like to know more about your dogs. What are their names and how old are they? What are their personalities? Was the little one happy when you adopted the big one? How are they getting along? I would love to see another post in the future about dog accessories.

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    LisaR
    20 Jun 2018
    12:16pm

    What’s it like to be famous? Is it fun when fans approach you or annoying? Do you feel pressure to dress or look a certain way because people know who you are?

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    mlinky
    20 Jun 2018
    12:42pm

    Have you ever reached a point when you realized you were old?

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    Kim T
    20 Jun 2018
    12:53pm

    What do you think about style “rules”? Should people be steered away from things that aren’t “age appropriate”, “plus size”, “off-trend”, etc?

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    Mary Alice
    20 Jun 2018
    12:59pm

    Probably been asked before, but do you have any interest in setting up any events in Los Angeles for us left-coast GOACA?

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    linda
    20 Jun 2018
    1:25pm

    I am a firm believer in natural fabrics, cotton, linen and silk. I like to feel cool. If I see the words viscose polyester,rayon etc. I won’t buy it unless it’s at least 50% cotton. Change my mind?

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    Wendela
    20 Jun 2018
    1:43pm

    Can there be a discussion about Botox, fillers, and all the rest? I’d like to know your thoughts but also those of your readers. What have people tried and abandoned, what do people do regularly and love, what age did y’all start these things, and will you do them forever or is there a point where one stops? Has anyone regretted using these measures? I haven’t done any of these things and am now wondering if it’s too late and also am trying to sort out what I think, what I would be comfortable with. I’m a bit afraid of all of it, but I have reached an age where I struggle more with my forehead than my hips, and that is saying something.

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    Amber
    20 Jun 2018
    1:45pm

    Aside from Maria Cornejo, are there any labels that you find to be consistently high quality (and stylish, obvs)? As I increasingly want fewer, better things, I am finding good quality construction hard to identify, especially online. Quality seems to be inconsistent even within a label.

    In a similar vein, do you have any thoughts about fashion companies that prioritize manufacturing in New York or the United States? Are there any benefits beyond sustainability? Do you think maintaining a manufacturing ‘center’ matters (in light of the de Blasio proposal to move it to Brooklyn)?

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    Christina
    20 Jun 2018
    2:41pm

    1. Will you please be my Auntie? (but seriously.)

    2. How did you learn to invest and/or about other financial security tactics? My salary is nowhere near your former paycheck (teacher), but I know there’s more I could be doing to make myself more financially secure. I just never know where to start, and the internet feels like drinking from a fire hose.

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    Caroline Binek-hamilton
    20 Jun 2018
    3:12pm

    Hi!! Love your blog! My daughter and I will be celebrating her 21st birthday in NYC in August. I know it will be stinking hot! We plan to walk a lot. What are the must haves to pack? I’m not a short/ sneakers kinda mom! Just need a few ideas. ❤️

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    Jennie
    20 Jun 2018
    4:29pm

    You get to partner with any designer you choose to create an 8 piece capsule collection of “Kim’s must haves”. Who do you partner with and what items are in the collection?

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      Mamavalveeta03
      24 Jun 2018
      12:53am

      Ooo! Good one, Jennie!

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    Glenda
    20 Jun 2018
    7:47pm

    After there any fashion blog sites you check out and would recommend to a GOACA if they need more reading material.

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    Mary
    20 Jun 2018
    7:59pm

    I would love to hear your thoughts on ripped jeans! Not completely ripped to shreds but some forced distressing around the knees. Levi’s 501 and the Wedgie are often ripped.

    Can’t makeup my mind if my 49.5 year old body is trying too hard to be hip and am slowly going crazy!

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      Mary
      20 Jun 2018
      8:00pm

      Actually, any denim advice whatsoever would be fantastic!

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    Kathy
    21 Jun 2018
    8:45am

    What are your days like, start to finish? Where does work fit in? Besides working on your computer, is there anything else you consider “work?” What do you do socially–or anti-socially!–for fun?

    Also, I’m interested in how you started GOACA. Is it 100% produced by you, or do you have someone to proofread, etc?

    I don’t know how many years it’s been since you and the other OGs left Lucky (before it folded), but I still have not recovered. Thank you for this blog–your contributions as well as the community of fabulous GOACAs you’ve cultivated. 🖤

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    Robin
    21 Jun 2018
    9:49am

    How many No.6 Clogs do you own? How many is too many for me to own??

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    Mary
    21 Jun 2018
    10:30am

    Perhaps a stupid question but I struggle with this one! Unless a shirt is really short, how do you know when to tuck one in?

    I’m not a fan of the tuck personally but also not a fan of cropped tops. At 5 foot five, I can’t seem to find many shirts to leave untucked.

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    Wendela
    21 Jun 2018
    10:53am

    Also! How often do you get rid of clothes (prune your wardrobe)? I have occasional cleaning binges but also have some clothes I’ve had for *years* and sometimes that makes me feel like a crazy person (some are well maintained basic pieces, and some are things I loved and had a hard time separating from). Do you have a one in—one out policy, or a regular seasonal purge? Or any system or set of rules to recommend? Are there certain types of clothes you would only hold on to for a short amount of time and other categories that you consider more timeless and would hold onto for longer (years, even)? Please help!

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    Jill
    21 Jun 2018
    11:59am

    I think I asked this the last time you did a Q&A, but would you ever consider providing (at a cost, of course) personal shopping services? There are plenty of us out here who are in need of a critical but knowledgeable and friendly eye whilst shopping. I feel like you have the credentials, connections, and experience with various labels to offer this as a service to GOACA. Is this something that you have thought of before?

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    Angela from East Bay
    21 Jun 2018
    12:28pm

    Hi Kim, I’m having some trouble finding balance in my life between a demanding job, newly dating after divorce, aging parents, spending time with friends, and trying to have enough down time for myself. I find the time for sleep suffers. Any advice and/or thoughts here on how you approach this greatly appreciated! Thank you very much.

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    Laurel
    21 Jun 2018
    7:38pm

    If you couldn’t live in New York, where would you live?

    Do you listen to the radio or podcasts?

    How do you get your news?

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    Tamara L.
    22 Jun 2018
    9:02am

    In your opinion, is it ok to keep a certain item of clothing in regular rotation in one’s wardrobe for 5 years? 10 years? 15 years? Assuming said item is clean and in good condition? I have a few things I love and I just feel like “me” wearing them, even though I acquired them in my early thirties and I’m now in my mid-forties. How do I know if I look dated and sad, or does that not matter if I still feel good wearing them?

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    Erika
    22 Jun 2018
    11:53am

    What are your thoughts on else? I am 48 and my midsection is not what it used to me. Do you think belts can help to make a mid-section look thinner even though that is not the case?

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      Erika
      22 Jun 2018
      12:00pm

      BELTS!!! That was supposed to say belts.

      Also any thoughts on what works best when your weight is fluctuating.

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    postaway
    23 Jun 2018
    5:53pm

    what question are you dreading someone will ask?

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    Mamavalveeta03
    24 Jun 2018
    1:01am

    Any regrets? If so, what?

    When Lucky was over for you, how long did it take you to figure out what to do next and what was your process? (I’m in the middle of a 3/4 life crisis.)

    What item of clothing in your closet is the quintessential Kim?

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    Beth
    25 Jun 2018
    10:33pm

    I need a new pan! I think you said you bought a GreenPan awhile ago? But I cannot for my life find the link. Which one/do you like it/anything better out there? Thanks!!!!!

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    Beth
    25 Jun 2018
    10:36pm

    Oh wait I need a cool shower curtain too. 🙏 taking any recommendations!

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    Mary
    26 Jun 2018
    9:52am

    I’m getting confused about what a Mom Jean actually is.

    High-rise, straight and cropped? I thought a straight-leg jean was a classic?

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    Adrien Arnold
    28 Jun 2018
    10:05am

    What is the best thing you’ve found about being the age you are? (For example, in my mid 40s I’m really starting to appreciate how much I don’t give a fuck about what people think about me anymore.)

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    Alix
    28 Jun 2018
    10:24am

    When will all our questions be answered? I’ll need to get a bowl of popcorn ready…

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I was born in Houston, Texas in 1964 and have lived in New York City since 1988. I had a long career in magazines, working at Sassy, Elle, New York, and Spin, and in 2000, I founded Lucky magazine, which I edited for ten years.

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