It’s time for another week of requests

152

Send me your best, people.

Share this post:

Comments

152 Thoughts on It’s time for another week of requests
    Meg Stewart
    10 Nov 2019
    3:00pm

    I know this is a late request, but I’d love to know where some of the outerwear worn by the characters of The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel come from. In particular, the cloak that Rose is wearing when she gets in a taxi in Paris on her way home with Abe.

    0

    0
    Mae
    7 Nov 2019
    11:03am

    I feel kinda juvenile asking this, but what are your (and all GOACAs) thoughts about buying something (I’M DYING FOR) a friend just bought? A rather expensive something, though understated (I’M DYING FOR IT). We see each other only 2-3 times a year (she’s employed; I’m not) for lunch and shopping, and I’d probably be conscious enough to not wear said item (I’M DYING FOR AND WOULD WEAR ALL THE TIME) when we get together, but would knowing she had it, too (SHE HAS EXCELLENT TASTE, OF COURSE WE LOVE THE SAME THINGS) ruin it for me? She wouldn’t know unless I told her. I’m hearing voices, I swear.

    1

    0
      E
      8 Nov 2019
      7:26pm

      Buy it!

      1

      0
    Patty
    4 Nov 2019
    9:25pm

    Combat boots that aren’t Docs and won’t break the bank. Good quality button-down shirts that aren’t frumpy but aren’t too grungy. You did a good sustainable brands post recently that was so useful. I’d love to know what other brands you’ve been liking. Thanks!

    4

    0
      Elizabeth
      4 Nov 2019
      9:58pm

      Not sure if you meant not Docs in the way that Docs look or something else, but have you looked into NPS and Solovair footwear? My shoe-loving partner pointed me to them. Made in the UK with Goodyear welted soles so they can be replaced if they ever wear out instead of thrown out (a lot of Docs and similar combat looking boots use glue these days–boo!).

      2

      0
    Maria
    4 Nov 2019
    10:48pm

    Outfit options for interviews where the interviewers could range from young to old.
    I’m looking to transition back into the workforce after a couple of years break, and honestly I struggle with picking an interview outfit that’s the right balance of professional but doesn’t veer either too stuffy or too casual.
    I don’t feel comfortable in blazers (I’m petite and round), though I’ve been wearing them unbuttoned, but I’d like to walk into an interview actually feeling comfortable and confident in my outfit. Preferably while either pulling from what I already own or not breaking the bank.

    9

    0
    Elizabeth
    4 Nov 2019
    9:51pm

    Hi – I’m in search of a nice, traditional button-down shirt that is slightly off white so I don’t look like a cadaver (I’m a natural ginger with pasty, near translucent skin). Long sleeves to accommodate long arms. Oh, and to add another level of difficult, I have upper arm tattoos that I’d like to have the shirt fabric thick enough to fully cover. Wow. Sorry for such a crazy laundry list of needs, but if anyone has suggestions or a place to point me to find this unicorn or a shirt, that’d be very much appreciated.

    2

    0
    Farah
    4 Nov 2019
    7:44am

    Midi skirts and sweater dresses that aren’t clingy, please!

    12

    0
      Michele
      4 Nov 2019
      2:24pm

      Ohhh! Especially pencil skirts that aren’t too, too corporate!

      3

      0
      Mamavalveeta03
      4 Nov 2019
      5:37pm

      I love the sweaterdress suggestion! All, grownup length, of course.

      2

      0
    Mouse
    4 Nov 2019
    7:15am

    Poncho-y things without turtlenecks. 🙂 Can be poncho-y sweaters or actual ponchos.

    9

    0
    Lola
    4 Nov 2019
    7:18am

    Petite winter coats and/or petite midi skirts. Please and thank you.

    9

    0
    Kim
    4 Nov 2019
    7:24am

    Vegan leather jackets, please.

    9

    0
    J Nell
    4 Nov 2019
    7:55am

    Winter boots that won’t make me look like an arctic explorer. Going to Paris for a week at Christmas and need something stylish and waterproof, that I can wear with pants and skirts. And oy, why is La Canadienne so expensive? And not even that cute….

    12

    0
      HT
      4 Nov 2019
      11:08am

      Have you checked out Blondo shoes? Lots of cute, walkable booties.

      4

      0
    Tammy
    4 Nov 2019
    7:46am

    What is your favorite single piece of clothing on your closet — old and new?

    A list of cool, chic blazers!

    What are your favorite items at Alex Mills NYC?

    16

    0
      Michele
      4 Nov 2019
      2:26pm

      And also, petite blazers! Or at least blazers without buttons on the sleeves so that it’s easier to have them taken up.

      3

      0
        gt
        4 Nov 2019
        4:49pm

        My taylor takes it up by chopping up in the middle of sleeves. I already had two of my blazer done that way and I love the way they look. It looks like part of design.

        2

        0
          aaryn b.
          4 Nov 2019
          5:58pm

          What do you mean? I want to see a photo. Sounds fab.

          1

          0
      Mamavalveeta03
      4 Nov 2019
      5:44pm

      Yes to blazers! This seems to be a particularly good blazer season (EVERYTHING, actually.)

      1

      0
    LisaC
    4 Nov 2019
    7:51am

    Classy holiday party suggestions

    13

    0
      Jax
      4 Nov 2019
      12:15pm

      Yes! Something that doesn’t look frumpy/middle-aged, which I find that sequins and velvet can easily do in certain cuts.

      4

      0
    JB
    5 Nov 2019
    5:48am

    Follow up post on things you bought and mentioned here (which means I usually bought too ☺️) and how you ended up styling. Real life photos perhaps?

    2

    0
    Arena
    5 Nov 2019
    1:16am

    How about a post for us “mature” post-punk rocker chicks? Chrissie Hynde, Kim Gordon, Patty Smith as fashion icons. What’s the secret to a rocker aging gracefully without losing her edge? Leather, velvet, cashmere, black denim, sterling silver, silk, eyeliner! Ideas for pieces and combinations that make a statement and are elegant, timeless, and flattering.

    20

    0
      Krista Campbell
      5 Nov 2019
      8:28am

      Have you checked out the book “The Cool Factor” by Andrea Linnet ( of ” I Want To Be Her” )…it’s a great style guide for women of ALL ages!

      2

      0
    Cara
    4 Nov 2019
    8:07am

    A review of the Muji skincare line, please,

    6

    0
    Bethany Ball
    4 Nov 2019
    8:12am

    Hair products for really fine hair, longer leather jackets, how to wear coats over longer dresses and skirts (is it okay to wear a coat that falls just below knees of skirt dress goes nearly to ankles??), what to wear for a photo shoot, what to wear for a public speaking appearance, please! Thank you!

    21

    0
      Bobby
      4 Nov 2019
      5:28pm

      Well personally, just to make life easier, I’ve decided that yes, it’s fine to wear shorter coats with longer skirts!

      3

      0
      Alexa
      5 Nov 2019
      8:00am

      Your packing lists are great. Keep them coming!
      Btw, I have a trip on the horizon myself ( mostly urban, late November). Maybe you can help me out? 🙂

      2

      0
    LisaR
    4 Nov 2019
    8:40am

    Colorful knits please!

    7

    0
    Cecilia
    11 Nov 2019
    1:32am

    I’m a teacher, so I’m on my feet all day. Sensible shoes that are also stylish! That is what I need so I’m not dying by the end of the day. Do you have suggestions?

    1

    0
    lisa t
    6 Nov 2019
    12:20am

    other websites for how to put pieces together? I have no idea what shoes to wear with my pants.

    1

    0
    Amber
    4 Nov 2019
    9:14am

    Not boring wool coats that aren’t crazy colors (e.g., I love yellow, but that doesn’t work with everything).

    2

    0
    Emily M.
    4 Nov 2019
    9:16am

    I would like some advice on pairing pants and boots.

    26

    0
      K
      5 Nov 2019
      6:24am

      Agree that this would be useful. I’ve spent years struggling to figure out what to wear on my feet for work in winter.

      2

      0
      Laura S.
      5 Nov 2019
      10:17am

      Agreed! I’m struggling to figure out optimal proportions of this seasons cropped/wider leg pants with boots of various heights.

      2

      0
      Lb
      6 Nov 2019
      11:16pm

      Yes! Especially with all the cropped pants.

      1

      0
    Clatie
    4 Nov 2019
    9:22am

    Dressy and sexy shoes that aren’t stilts.

    10

    0
    Caroline
    4 Nov 2019
    9:23am

    What jeans are in style this fall? My wide legs pairs aren’t so great with winter coats.
    Plus the cold goes right up them.brr..
    Also hair. Mine is permanently up. Boring..
    Please advise!!!:-)

    15

    0
    Candy
    4 Nov 2019
    9:30am

    1) One pair of pants styled three ways. 2) Capsule wardrobe for us gig economy workers toiling at home so we are comfortable but don’t look schlumpy, should we need to run out for lunch, meet a friend, run errands.

    37

    0
      Kimbersam
      4 Nov 2019
      11:00am

      WFH uniforms that aren’t yoga pants/jeans/band Tshirt/cashmere hoodie/fun sneakers. This has been my uni for the past 4 years and I am actively avoiding mirrors because I can’t stand myself! Oh and what’s a minimal makeup so I look OK rather than like an old, feral stray cat. Right now, I do a lippie and pressed powder and at 53, it is no longer enough.

      23

      0
      aaryn b.
      4 Nov 2019
      6:01pm

      This, this, this! I feel like I’ve lost the game since I started gigging full-time. Rarely do I feel comfortable and casual-chic enough to step out the door. Schlumpy is a real struggle.

      7

      0
    patricia blaettler
    4 Nov 2019
    9:32am

    Everlane reknit dayglove bootie is exactly what I’m looking for, but mine needs to be leather! I think it only exists in my imagination?

    2

    0
      Elanlo
      6 Nov 2019
      11:21pm

      There are leather day boots – am I misunderstanding your question?

      1

      0
    Betsy Palmer
    4 Nov 2019
    9:34am

    How about a post on styling some of the basics we all like, such as white shirts, floaty dresses, new wide leg pants, cropped jackets, oxford style shoes. I love most all the categories you post but sometimes don’t know what to do with basics to make them more current and less of a uniform.

    19

    0
    Corporate and cold
    4 Nov 2019
    10:13am

    I need a warm comfortable underlayer, preferably with a deep neck and without stretch (the Uniqlo heattech is good but the stretch gives me uniboob). Also, I’d like to see some
    Winter styling with comfortable boots and warm socks (so much winter styling features bare legs, sock less heels or even open toed sandals). A lot of styling features cool sneakers but that’s not realistic for those of us who work in more conservative offices.

    12

    0
      Daisy
      4 Nov 2019
      9:27pm

      Yes! Pants that cover our ankles, please!

      6

      0
      leah
      4 Nov 2019
      12:53pm

      Yes, I second this! The gap between cropped pants and booties just won’t work when it’s freezing, and my office is not casual enough for jeans tucked in to boots (plus that’s not really my style).

      6

      0
      Celia
      4 Nov 2019
      1:10pm

      Yes, to the sockless thing! Cropped pants and loafers or other flats (sneakers, too) but no socks… in January?? What’s a chilly but aspiring cool girl to do?

      9

      0
    Carrie
    4 Nov 2019
    10:32am

    Cardigans that aren’t dowdy.

    18

    0
    c.w.
    4 Nov 2019
    10:32am

    1) a criteria for choosing jewelry that is a little less boring, but will have the staying power of, say, small diamond studs. 2) Adding whimsey to a staid jeans and tee/sweater wardrobe without looking like the local cat lady or a scarily aged Carrie Bradshaw in a tutu (this is not a dish of Carrie Bradshaw’s wardrobe at all––I thought she looked amazing 90% of the time) 3) cool sneakers (although I understand since most readers live in places where this is not the season for sneakers this is more of a Spring question) And finally 4) anything you want to post on home items––those are always so good!

    14

    0
    D.Morgendorffer
    4 Nov 2019
    10:41am

    I bought a couple “vintage” items (made in the 90s) recently and was struck by the quality and condition. I thought about it and realized that, in the past, clothes were made with the implicit assumption that they would be passed down. So, I’m thinking a simple way for me to be a more responsible consumer is to try to get clothes that age well. (It can get overwhelming trying to consider all the angles of concern with being a more responsible consumer. I figured this simple approach is one I can stick to consistently.) What about a post on brands that age well?

    38

    0
      Gleaming the Cube
      4 Nov 2019
      1:12pm

      Agree that stuff in the 90s was much better made! I have some 90s and early 00s J. Crew that still looks perfect, while most everything I’ve purchased from the brand in the last 5 years looks like crap after a just few wears. I rarely buy anything from J.Crew anymore for that reason, and the loss of trust kind of annoys me even more than the decline in quality. I hate when good brands go bad (or mediocre).

      (In the spirit of airing of grievances) James Perse is another brand that has been disappointing me a lot lately (everything used to be made in the US, now a lot is either from China or Guatemala, and not just the outlet/seconds either), and I am really irritated because my closet used to be 50% Perse and none of the new stuff is holding up.

      11

      0
        Kimbersam
        4 Nov 2019
        3:27pm

        James Perse!!!! I was just looking at their sweaters thinking they want (mumble 300 bucks+) for THIS! Their clothing used to be of higher quality.

        6

        0
    susan
    4 Nov 2019
    10:51am

    I have an online business and work at home by myself. It’s not uncommon to get to the end of the day and wonder, “am I wearing pants?” Or “have I brushed my hair?” Sort of kidding, but sort of not. I’d like to dress for work even though I don’t have to. A casual-but-put-together uniform that is not yoga pants/t-shirt would be awesome. PS Thanks for all you do. Have been reading the site since early days.

    17

    0
    Shannon
    4 Nov 2019
    11:11am

    I would love to have some ideas about how to style various scarves. I live in them in the winter and get tired of my same old look. Thanks!

    9

    0
    Kat
    4 Nov 2019
    11:14am

    Winter coats (like NY/Chicago cold) to wear with long dresses. Gracias!

    4

    0
    Jen G
    4 Nov 2019
    11:17am

    Affordable brands
    Loving the recent post on longer length dresses but don’t have $500+ to spend on a single clothing item

    10

    0
    HickfromStyx
    4 Nov 2019
    11:26am

    Wide calf knee boots. Alternately, suggestions on how a shoemaker can work magic to give my boots an extra half inch in the calf. That’s all I need.

    9

    0
      Jax
      4 Nov 2019
      12:18pm

      Check Wardrobe Oxygen. She often writes about wide calf boots. I think Tamara Mellon just launched a wide calf line too.

      3

      0
      Mamavalveeta03
      4 Nov 2019
      5:58pm

      Wide-calf boots that are really and truly wide-calf boots.

      1

      0
    Viviana
    4 Nov 2019
    11:29am

    Two requests, please:
    First, please remember the short girls! I am 5’1″ and find most petite sizes ill-fitting (they are simply too short-waisted and miniaturized) and less interesting than regular sized clothing offered. Tailors can often but not always make dresses and slacks work, but coats and many dresses cannot be shortened in a workable way. Any guidance?
    Second, I always appreciate guidance for those of us who work mostly from home. I don’t want to look like I’m headed to the dog park but have little need for fancy casual these days. Something in between, perhaps?

    11

    0
      barb
      4 Nov 2019
      12:41pm

      OMG – I agree – petite sizes are ill-fitting – if you have are a woman of a certain size, Universal Standard carries petites.

      3

      0
        Michele
        4 Nov 2019
        2:36pm

        THEY DO?? I mean, oh, they do? And … oh, wow! They have petite high rise jeans. Does this mean I can actually find a high rise waist scaled for my torso? It won’t go up to my bra line? Eeee!

        2

        0
          Karen
          4 Nov 2019
          3:17pm

          Well maybe, Michele. I’m 5′ and just tried their high rise Sienna jeans, size 12P (they advised I go down from my usual 14P as the jeans are rather stretchy). The length was fine but the rise was still way too high for me. It measured 10″ and hit about an inch above my belly button so not a comfortable fit for me but hopefully you’ll have some luck with them.

          2

          0
    Robin Southern
    4 Nov 2019
    11:33am

    vegan option when you do a round up?

    4

    0
    Beth
    4 Nov 2019
    11:47am

    Slippers, both for warmth and entertaining.

    3

    0
    MaryAlice
    4 Nov 2019
    11:49am

    Don’t forget your party in a top post! I look forward to that every year!

    20

    0
      Kim France
      5 Nov 2019
      8:43am

      Don’t worry, I won’t!

      2

      0
    Kiko
    4 Nov 2019
    11:54am

    Trying to do my share for the environment. I’d love to see a post on vintage shopping (reuse) and DIY (repurpose).

    13

    0
    Joannawnyc
    4 Nov 2019
    11:58am

    Coordinating pillows/rugs/throws (soft furnishings in general)

    What do you wear when you’re tired of jeans? Not just moving from skinny to straight to wide-leg, but what about “dress pants?” It’s been something of a fringe trend for couple of seasons but it’s definitely on my radar now and I am actively searching for good examples.

    Also upgrading from “cool girl/borrowed from the boys” to maybe “dressed up cool girl who’s a little bit bourgeois”

    15

    0
    Jax
    4 Nov 2019
    11:59am

    I’m super intrigued by sling bags / fanny bags / belt bags right now, but I prefer to call them sling bags as I plan to wear them across my torso or as a shoulder bag.
    I saw this promising specimen from Bellroy (https://bellroy.com/products/sling-premium/nylon/black_sand), but would like to see more options (ones that skew more sophisticated, subtle, adult, perhaps, or just plain utilitarian chic like this CabinZero https://pin.it/66zhf6thzrk2dy. – Looking forward to seeing what you would come up with! There’s something smart and chic about certain sling bags right now. – Was at a wedding recently and saw the wedding planner wear a lovely and practical Chanel belt bag, which allowed her to carry her clipboard, etc.

    3

    0
      Mouse
      4 Nov 2019
      8:19pm

      Check out Rough and Tumble in Maine. I have a waxed canvas cross body; when I double the strap it slings across my chest. They’re a great company–local!

      2

      0
        Jax
        5 Nov 2019
        12:16am

        Thanks for the tip!

        1

        0
    Kathy O
    4 Nov 2019
    11:59am

    I enjoyed your posts where you would find stylish clothing from unstylish catalogs. Those posts were funny and practical for most of us who far away from big city shopping opportunities. I am a petite, so I order a lot clothes from Talbots, Boden, Eddie Bauer, and yes even Coldwater Creek. They have a wider range of sizes than most designers.

    30

    0
      CeeJay
      4 Nov 2019
      8:32pm

      I remember those posts – I think they were entitled “I can shop anywhere” or something like that. There was a particularly memorable catalog that had witchy/Stevie Nicks style clothing. Makes me chuckle … sometimes my sister and I will be at a very depressing mall near our parent’s summer place and we try to do the “I can shop anywhere” challenge and find a few acceptable items

      5

      0
    Stakra
    4 Nov 2019
    12:03pm

    How about a good old fashioned closet edit? Take us through the process of pulling everything out, vetting, and how you revisit items you’ve seen 100’s of times with fresh eyes to truly edit your closet and make sure you’re outfits haven’t aged out, whether with wear or style… it’s been a while and even mid season it can be a healthy and fun endeavor.

    26

    0
    Jax
    4 Nov 2019
    12:06pm

    I just posted a comment requesting adult, sophisticated but still utilitarian chic sling bags (belt/fanny bags/packs), but it seems to have disappeared.

    Also adding request for not overly warm/thick (reasonably proced)!100% merino wool (or silk!) sweaters and tops for warm offices and also warmer (California/Southwest) winter climes.

    3

    0
    Kimberly
    4 Nov 2019
    1:43pm

    Fun, comfortable, cool, but not ugly, Christmas sweaters!

    4

    0
    JD
    4 Nov 2019
    2:08pm

    Another vote for what to wear when working from home. I am currently in camo leggings, Everlane tee, Vermont-themed hoodie, and fuzzy slippers as I prep for a conference call with the C-suite team of a potential business partner. Yes, my laptop’s camera is covered in opaque black electrical tape lest I accidentally video-dial someday.

    6

    0
    Eileen
    4 Nov 2019
    2:09pm

    Chic rain boots for commuting to the office!

    4

    0
    AK
    4 Nov 2019
    2:22pm

    Tights that have been tested out! The Ordinary skincare products — which ones?! And suiting.

    9

    0
    EW
    4 Nov 2019
    12:34pm

    What’s the Minimum? I’m all about downsizing – especially in the closet- partly b/c I want to Marie Kondo my life, reduce environmental impact but also desire the simplicity. Think of highly optimized packing for a week+ trip but only for all the time. Challenge: what’s the minimum you can have and still have some options and feel stylish and put together for your lifestyle needs?

    13

    0
    Shelly Head
    4 Nov 2019
    12:42pm

    I ride mass transit daily and would like to see clothing, bags, computer bags etc. That are transit friendly. Especially if hands free.

    9

    0
    Nancy
    4 Nov 2019
    12:42pm

    I am allergic to wool and cashmere 😞. Please, please help me find comfy, cozy and chic sweaters! Cotton, silk, rayon…..

    5

    0
      Nancy
      4 Nov 2019
      12:43pm

      Oops, I forgot warm.

      2

      0
    Wendela
    4 Nov 2019
    12:51pm

    What to wear—not necessarily black and maybe even specifically not black—to a memorial service (giving the eulogy, so will be very visible and very sad). I think color may be welcome and appreciated (we will be remembering someone artistic who loved color), and something to make me look less drawn, haggard, and terribly distraught would be good because I’ll need all the help I can get.

    5

    0
      Kim France
      4 Nov 2019
      1:07pm

      So sorry to hear you’re grieving, Wendela. I’ll give some thought to this one.

      10

      0
      c.w.
      4 Nov 2019
      3:26pm

      Echoing Kim’s condolences, Wendela. My mother always told us that she did NOT want people to wear black to her funeral because it was supposed to be a celebration of life. I wore a sedate blue dress, but many of her friends wore bright florals (they were all quite elderly) and it was lovely to see so many bright colors at the reception after. If you feel you must wear something in a more somber vein you could always add a bright scarf or jacket (with pockets to hold a spare kleenex or hankie!). All the best.

      6

      0
      LMM
      5 Nov 2019
      1:33pm

      I have to do the same in a couple of weeks at my uncle’s service. I am so sorry for your loss, and sending you strength to get through the eulogy.

      2

      0
    Tamara
    4 Nov 2019
    12:53pm

    Sustainable fashion AND responsible textile/handbag/shoe disposal-donation for after we clean those closets!

    10

    0
    Megan
    4 Nov 2019
    12:56pm

    So boring, but so necessary — comfortable and stylish grown up black pants. I’m open to various lengths (cropped, ankle, full length) and materials (stretch v. non-stretch), but need to look like a grown up (no athleisure). I’ve relied on the Vince stitch front seam ponte pant for a while now, but the knees bag out over time and don’t look professional. Thanks!

    9

    0
      c.w.
      4 Nov 2019
      3:30pm

      I have two pair of Eileen Fisher black slacks that have done me good stead for years. They don’t bag out at the knees, can be washed and hung to dry and are very well made. The legs are tapered, but not tight. Just a thought…

      5

      0
      Amy
      12 Nov 2019
      9:00am

      Banana Republic has a large selection of fits – I’m petite so they’ve been my goto for this category – the Sloan fits me well, and the fabric is substantial; I find it does not bag out after multiple wears.

      0

      0
      Mouse
      4 Nov 2019
      8:22pm

      Everlane stretch ponte; side zip.

      3

      0
    kirstjen
    4 Nov 2019
    12:56pm

    TALL biker jackets. I prefer Euro moto to American-style. I don’t care if they are real or faux leather.

    Functional crossbody bags for all day use. I don’t want to carry a tote bag but need plenty of space.

    2

    0
    Alex
    4 Nov 2019
    1:01pm

    Comfortable but stylish shoes for those of us with bunions! 😢

    18

    0
      Michele
      4 Nov 2019
      5:11pm

      Oh my gawd, yes. I just replaced my Madewell ankle boots with a pair of Flexx Block Party and I. am. SO. happy. More options, please!

      2

      0
    Susann
    4 Nov 2019
    1:13pm

    I am going on a mid-winter vacation to Maui. I would love to see one piece flattering bathing suits that are not for the junior set. I am taller and often one pieces are too short in torso so I go with a tankini.

    5

    0
    Jan
    4 Nov 2019
    1:17pm

    More think pieces, less retail.

    17

    0
    Mae
    4 Nov 2019
    1:22pm

    I play “Who’s she and where is she going?” looking at the models in catalogs (I’m on every mailing list in the world). Would be fun to read your interpretations of what vibe they’re selling, Kim. What sucks you in? (Athleta owns my ass.)

    7

    0
    Jennie
    4 Nov 2019
    1:29pm

    Belts! I struggle to find good cool French editor belts. Thanks!

    9

    0
    Stephanie Rowe
    4 Nov 2019
    3:40pm

    Silk scarves — the beautiful, old fashioned, bougie kind. A woman in my office building often wears them and I’m always ogling her, trying to get to the bottom of how she pulls it off so magnificently. I’d love to see selections, styling strategies, and discussion of the aesthetic merits in general.

    5

    0
      Christine
      4 Nov 2019
      4:19pm

      The silk scarf being the cornerstone of a woman’s wardrobe is one of the greatest marketing schemes of all time, like the belted trench or the little black dress. I once owned three Hermes scarves and maybe wore each six times before selling them at a consignment shop. Not that you asked but I think the key is having the scarf match or complimenting your favorite coat and/or hair color and having a long enough neck or being 5’6 or taller, that something on your collarbone doesn’t cut your neck off. I’m a petite woman with a short or average neck, and look better with long rectangular scarves, and steer clear of the squares, unless it’s a thin silk that drapes in a less bougie, puffy way. And make sure the pattern looks good to you when the scarf is folded. If the scarf is only fabulous in its full unfolded glory and you can’t resist it, maybe think about turning it into a sofa cushion.

      2

      0
        Mary
        4 Nov 2019
        9:14pm

        I’d like to add the trench to that list. I love the way it looks but I never want to wear it! Too stiff, too fitted and too long and cumbersome. I’ve been on the hunt for a shorter, looser version but so far, no luck

        1

        0
    Chelene
    4 Nov 2019
    3:49pm

    Everyone above has made v good suggestions, but … so I just turned 50. I also realized that the fashion that I want to wear is not fashion that 50-year-old me SHOULD wear, and I’m having a bit of a crisis. Add to that I’m going through peri-menipause and can’t seem to shake these extra pounds and those slim, streamlined looks that I’m used to wearing just stare back at me in confusion from the mirror in the dressing room as if to say I should just turn it all in and head for the hills and never return. I can’t walk into a store without seeing women my age copying the exact same styles as their late-teen/early 20s daughters and a little piece of me dies every time I think about it. Older me still wants to look well-put together but younger me is still there, too, and wants some form of fashion concession to something I’m trying hard to put my finger on. I don’t want to look and dress like everyone, but it’s also what I like and I’m just trying to figure out what in the heck works and what the rules are going forward as I get older.

    Did I say I peri-menopausal? Just got my period. My body is growing older but my brain is still in her mid-20s, oy.

    19

    0
      aaryn b.
      4 Nov 2019
      6:11pm

      Grrrrrrrl.

      I spent Sat loitering at Pink, touching all the flannel pajama sets and waiting as my 14-year-old daughter tried stuff on and intermittently Facetimed me from the dressing room to let me see how it was going. Fortunately, I was stoned on an edible I’d eaten before leaving the house, so I didn’t have a panic attack about being the oldest woman in the joint. At 49, I feel every bit of what you posted. I see you, grrrrrl. I do.

      10

      0
    Jennifer
    4 Nov 2019
    3:19pm

    More personal perspectives on being in your 50’s. Your is the only blog out there where I “see” myself. So, would love more, please.

    35

    0
    shannon
    4 Nov 2019
    3:20pm

    comfortable shoes appropriate for a family wedding that are not high. i am tall and have decided to let comfort win over the last couple of years. i also plan on dancing my ass off.

    3

    0
      Robin
      4 Nov 2019
      8:10pm

      Here Here to dancing your ass off!!

      2

      0
    Sadie
    4 Nov 2019
    2:34pm

    What to wear for sleeping and other bedroom activities? I have a hard time finding anything in the sweet spot between clingy, vampy nightgowns and full-on plaid flannel pant sets. My partner couldn’t care less, so it’s really a question of dressing for myself to feel comfortable (and warm), but not mistake myself for a frumpy grandpa if I catch a glance in the mirror.

    7

    0
    Kathy O
    4 Nov 2019
    3:49pm

    One more — how to shop used clothing sites. The leather jacket post really inspired me to start shopping them.

    5

    0
      Dawn
      5 Nov 2019
      12:01am

      I would love to see this as a two-part piece on both buying and selling best practices for the re-sale sites.

      6

      0
    Diana
    5 Nov 2019
    11:16pm

    Hi longtime listener first time caller. I’ve been working from home full time for a few years and would appreciate outfit ideas that are casual but still look put together.

    2

    0
    Tammy
    5 Nov 2019
    9:23pm

    Fair isle sweaters and cool ways to wear them

    1

    0
    Becki Singer
    8 Nov 2019
    6:55pm

    Well, with the holidays looming, I’d love your take on how to dress up for a holiday event over 40 (especially when you don’t love heels). I can do formal, but it’s those mid-fancy “festive attire” cocktail parties, work parties and carol concerts that stress the bejeezus out of me. I’m not ready for Emily Gilmore’s “tweed jacket + sheath dress” quite yet, but a sequin mini is also entirely out of the question. Major SOS needed. (Also, hi!)

    1

    0
    Adriana
    4 Nov 2019
    8:57pm

    Maybe a post on style inspo/ideas for some of your current favorite stylish celebs/whoever? Example, I love Shiv’s style (from the tv show, Succession), especially Season 2. So I’d love some ideas on how to (realistically) recreate her style.

    5

    0
    Dawn
    4 Nov 2019
    8:02pm

    Black leather skirts (not mini), maybe pencil, without a lot of seams.

    2

    0
    Michele
    4 Nov 2019
    7:38pm

    More plus size options please!

    4

    0
    Lu-
    4 Nov 2019
    7:36pm

    This seems like such a tacky question, but – returns. How you do handle those? Obviously, if something doesn’t suit, it goes back…but what about:
    a) sweaters that pill on the third of fourth wearing?
    b) $50 tee shirts that “twist” after being washed?
    c) pricey serum that breaks out even dry-as-the-Sahara menopausal skin?
    I wind up just swallowing the costs because I have worn/used them, but it can turn me off a brand altogether. (The skincare I can at least pass on to someone braver than I!)

    6

    0
    Eloise
    4 Nov 2019
    6:41pm

    A few posts ago you said a puffer post was coning…..hope it doesn’t get buried in all these (great) requests. Thanks!

    3

    0
      Kim France
      5 Nov 2019
      8:48am

      Don’t worry, Eloise, it’s coming.

      2

      0
        Betsy Palmer
        5 Nov 2019
        11:29am

        Kim, you exposed me to the concept of the quilted liner jacket and now I really want one. Can you include in the puffer post? Can’t seem to find one locally out here in the fashion bush leagues.

        2

        0
    Mamavalveeta03
    4 Nov 2019
    6:09pm

    How about a fresh Makeup/Skincare/Beauty post using clean products? I’m always interested.

    7

    0
    Kate McCarthy
    4 Nov 2019
    6:18pm

    Amazing secondhand/consignment finds! I scored the most excellent Prada clogs at the midtown caravan store. $75!

    3

    0
    Aaryn Belfer
    4 Nov 2019
    5:55pm

    I hate to do this for those of you bracing for months of sleet and ice but…in SoCal we are vacillating between mid-70s and upper-80s summer temps with mornings and evenings dipping into the 50s. I’m not complaining but okay, fine, maybe I’m complaining just a little? Anyway, it’s hard to dress as a GOACA (if you KWIM (hello, hot flashes!)) and look put together. Suggestions for summer-in-winter attire would be aces. xo.

    8

    0
      gablesgirl
      4 Nov 2019
      8:03pm

      Same here in Miami. 94 degrees over the weekend. Need some flex options. Don’t need crazy high end fashion. I just ordered a pair of Kork Ease wedges.

      1

      0
    Kate
    4 Nov 2019
    5:55pm

    I’d love a roundup of scarves and wraps that you would recommend for decor – not warmth.

    1

    0
    stephanie
    4 Nov 2019
    5:22pm

    Two requests – What are the best investment pieces for a bag, coat, black pants, blazer or anything else you would consider worthwhile. Something you can have for the long haul and won’t regret buying. Also not sure if you did this before but a good pair of black flats?

    8

    0
    Mamavalveeta03
    4 Nov 2019
    5:35pm

    You seem to know what’s on my list, in an almost spooky way, Kim! Lol. (No. I’m not THAT crazy!) I think you’ve covered bags, black pants, cashmere pullovers, cardis, jeans, topcoats, and leather jackets all fairly recently, so…Silk button down shirts is on my list. Any good ones?

    1

    0
    Meg
    4 Nov 2019
    4:19pm

    I think it would be helpful to see a post on eco/vegan clothing, especially given what we now know to be the really worrying harm caused to the environment by fast fashion. Is it possible to look not like a frump while dressing with some social conscience?

    5

    0
    Jen
    4 Nov 2019
    4:18pm

    T shirts that are thick rather then tissue-thin so that a bra doesn’t shoe though. Bonus points for ones that are good for petite but with a serious cup size.

    8

    0
    D
    5 Nov 2019
    8:36pm

    I’d enjoy more information on fit. Also maybe a few posts where items go together. I tend to buy great single pieces, and then only wear them one way. So how to mix would be grear.

    1

    0
    Nan
    5 Nov 2019
    9:04pm

    Badass black boots that can be worn anywhere/everywhere. The Rag and Bone Newbury and Acne Pistol are so overplayed (though cool) – any other thoughts/ideas?

    1

    0
    Jessica Goodman
    5 Nov 2019
    5:11pm

    A round up of your favorite memoirs…while we wait for yours. 🙂

    2

    0
    Suzy
    5 Nov 2019
    4:40pm

    Shopping final sale items–yea or nay? Any success stories? Tips?

    1

    0
    Steph
    5 Nov 2019
    1:59pm

    What should newcomers to NYC wear so they don’t stand out too much? I am a newly arrived NYC resident and I feel like people can see through me for the ‘fresh off the turnip truck’ girl I am. I care more than I want to admit; I also don’t want to wear head-to-toe black. I’m job searching so it’s not like I have a workplace uniform to adhere to, and my previous job was mostly remote. So in a way it’s the perfect formula to start afresh. THANK YOU

    3

    0
    Debra G.
    5 Nov 2019
    1:30pm

    Can we please share our collective joy about Keanu Reeves seemingly finding love again with a Girl of Certain Age? Pleased as punch. Also, very empowering for me personally since I’ve been feeling very dried up old lady lately.

    8

    0
    Jenny
    5 Nov 2019
    12:39pm

    Simple washable simple blazers (along the lines of J.Crew going out blazer). Clothes for slim I-shaped bodies, so not so voluminous and unstructured. Boots for slim calves and shoes that are cool and edgy for skinny legs/think ankles.

    3

    0
    Cait
    5 Nov 2019
    12:27pm

    I don’t want to ask about money, but I am interested in numbers- about how many new pieces do you buy in a year? About how many do you get rid of (or what percentage)? How old is the oldest thing in your closet? What percent of your clothes are for spring/summer/fall/winter/vacation? Do you keep clothing that is too big/small in case of size fluctuations?
    How do you balance the number of amazing new things with all the excellent things you already have?

    10

    0
    Mimi
    5 Nov 2019
    10:30am

    I think what I what to learn is impossible: more about fabric blends. I was shocked at how many blazers in a recent blazer post weren’t wool. I know that polyester can range from good to ghastly, depending on the manufacturer. I avoid sweaters with a high acrylic content since buying some that turned out to be junky. But some other blends remain mysterious, so I stick as much as I can to cotton, linen, rayon and wool, except for workout clothes. I buy almost everything online, so I don’t get to conduct a how does it drape and feel test till the UPS fairy comes by.

    6

    0
      themis
      5 Nov 2019
      8:59pm

      Mimi, I’m with you. For summer I’m really only going to pay attention to linen – silk – bamboo tencel/modal; wool and cashmere for winter, or I really don’t want to risk it. I’m trying to get plastics out of my house, not buy more. I see the price tag on polyester and while I may go gaga over the print, I weigh the impact that process had on the planet, and it’s rarely worth it to me, anymore. And everything made of recycled soda bottles seems to make me sweat like I’m actually trapped inside of a soda bottle. Either the climate used to be more forgiving, or I finally got the scratch to hunt down comfortable fibers; either way I don’t feel like going backwards anymore.

      1

      0
    Krista Campbell
    5 Nov 2019
    9:11am

    How about some suggestions of websites/books you find inspiring fashion-wise? I don’t have Instagram and find it challenging to get inspiration…I have ferreted out some sites like Atelier Dore, The Flair Index, Man Repeller, I Want to Be Her, etc. but would love some more suggestions. There aren’t really any magazines that speak to me…I bought the September Vogue just for the hell of it and it there was nothing in there I could relate to at all. I look through old copies of Lucky ALL THE TIME!! So glad I saved some-they are truly timeless! I also have ALL the Lucky/ fashion books you did with Andrea-HEAVY rotation forever!

    6

    0
      Jax
      5 Nov 2019
      12:33pm

      Yes, I don’t buy fashion magazines regularly either. I buy the bi-annual Gentlewoman (great mix of inspirational high-end fashion and great feminist interviews with interesting women in different fields) religiously, and then the odd Red UK or Vogue every so often.
      Otherwise, it’s blogs — this one, Kim’s friend’s Andrea, That’s Not My Age, Go Fug Yourself, once in a while Domino / Refinery29 / Man Repeller. Also loving The Flair Index that Kim recommended.

      Would love to see Kim’s recs too!

      1

      0
    nicky
    5 Nov 2019
    9:15am

    drop crotch pants, please

    1

    0
    LMM
    5 Nov 2019
    8:55am

    Good looking athleisure. I just switched jobs from one with a business-casual-leaning-more-business dress code to one where running clothes are the usual. I’d love to see a few ways to fit in but still look nice (and I do still dress up when I have meetings!).

    Clothes/brands suitable for tall women. The importance of proportions (also could incorporate petites and plus in here) – actual tall pants have the knee placed differently so you don’t put a hole in your pants immediately; same with elbows and boob room in tall shirts. I’d love to hear from someone who knows a broad range of brands and styles and learn who does expanded sizes right.

    2

    0
    Emily
    5 Nov 2019
    7:55am

    Bike commuting options appropriate for a casual office. I have a rather short morning bike commute so I don’t need a full on rain suit or cycling kit. I do need weather appropriate pants and jackets that stretch but don’t look like work out gear. I’ve found a few things for women but feel like I’m missing something!

    3

    0
    Viajera
    6 Nov 2019
    12:32pm

    I can’t think of anything that hasn’t been named.

    You know what I would like though? (While we’re making requests …). I’d love it if all retailers would switch to using finished garment and body part measurements for all their sizing. I kind of think both are good. Bc they’ve seen these items on actual people, and I haven’t. (I prefer inches … but if in a pinch, I suppoooooose I can convert from metric.) And end to sizeism would be nice too.

    I would also love it if websites would stop showing me the same item 10 times in different colors. Who has time for this nonsense?

    Thanks I feel better now. ; )

    1

    0
    Julia
    6 Nov 2019
    8:51am

    I know we’ve been here before….but I see other women with those perfectly cropped, slightly bootleg black pants that I seriously cannot find! I am petite length..but still, just can’t put my finger on it….and then when I do find them, grown up sneakers that are neither too cute or too geriatric to wear with them?

    2

    0

Leave A Comment

Archives

About

Kim France

I was born in Houston, Texas in 1964 and have lived in New York City since 1988. I had a long career in magazines, working at Sassy, Elle, New York, and Spin, and in 2000, I founded Lucky magazine, which I edited for ten years.

Find Out More

Instagram

[wdi_feed id=”1″]

Join my newsletter! The latest fashion, beauty and inspiration for all the girls of a certain age.