How was your weekend?

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All in all, my weekend was fine. I hit a bit of a wall Saturday—as did a lot of people I know, for some reason. Just thinking about what a drag it is to be cut off from seeing people, and how scary this all is, and wondering when life will return to normal, and what that normal will look like. I realized that it’s probably not super-safe to be walking the dogs alone after dark anymore, and that bummed me out too. But I’m trying to accept the situation for what it is, and to be grateful for everything I have to be grateful for, and to do what I can to improve my personal circumstances. Which is really all you can do. Please let me know in the comments how you’re doing, and what you’re doing/reading/thinking to stay positive. We will get through this, people.

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    Heather
    23 Mar 2020
    7:41am

    My hiking group is no longer doing organized hikes, but we are still getting out in self-organized groups, 2-5 people, no carpooling, maintaining distance. Did a glorious 20-miler on Saturday. On Sunday the National Park Service announced closure of all campgrounds and facilities (not sure if this is national or just at the parks I frequent). The trails remain open for now, but facilities closure makes it more challenging. Hiking is my only social connection right now. I am getting my garden and yard ready for spring, tho, which is a good outlet for my physical restlessness. Hope others are coping ok.

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    Patricia Thornton
    23 Mar 2020
    11:15pm

    Many of us are still working at home via tele-communications. I’m a psychologist and using teletherapy. We need to still look presentable to our clients via our video links, yet it’s been awhile since we could get a good haircut and color, and our makeup is running low. Can you suggest products that are available and any links that can instruct us on how we might color/cut our own hair since all the salons are closed?

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    Kathy
    23 Mar 2020
    11:38pm

    Trying to keep it together here. I am a state employee—a week ago people in my division were made to sign documents designating us as emergency essential employees. Then to reduce the # of people on our floor, they had some of us “telework” Thursday and Friday without laptops or work. I did some cleaning and some pantry purging—found a boxed rice side dish that expired in…2009! Today we were all back in the office working 3’-4’ apart, each in our own cubicles as usual. I spent most of the day breathing shallowly when I wasn’t holding my breath. My husband’s company may be designated non-essential, so my meager entry-level salary might be our only income. On the plus side, we do have state benefits—so, good health insurance! My college daughter is finishing the semester online, and next semester will also be online.

    I’m worried about my mom, as she has COPD and a husband who loves to go to local stores and bring back germs.

    I’m going to try out baking bread if I can find yeast somewhere!

    This blog, as well as some great podcasts (EIF! The Office Ladies! Gaslit Nation! Al Franken! Boob Sweat! Call Your Girlfriend!) get me through when I start thinking too much.

    We have to hold each other up through this. Virtually, anyway.

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    Noeleen McIlvenna
    23 Mar 2020
    10:32pm

    I’m one of the lucky ones. Can work remotely so no loss of income and no small children to drive me nuts. 😉 So I’ll acknowledge that it’s easier for me to be upbeat than most. I’m always an optimist, though, so I have been happily amazed at what the world has done in the last two weeks, despite leadership like trump and Boris Johnson. Everything shut down— business, sports, travel, cinemas, restaurants etc. Student debt and mortgage payments suspended! Who would have believed a month ago we could pull that off? We are flattening the curve, people! And we have internet and Netflix and plenty of food. And daffodils are blooming of their own accord.
    So don’t sweat the few who are standing close to others; many are out walking with their own household members. And the rest will learn when you model for them. Remember the President and top doctor stand within inches of each other and 6 other people at the daily press conferences, so it will take some time for everyone to grasp that that is important.
    You are doing the right thing. The world recovers after such stresses. ❤️

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    D.Morgendorffer
    23 Mar 2020
    10:50pm

    Actually had a pleasant Saturday celebrating my husband’s birthday, but I went down with a tension headache today. That’s a normal part of my life, due to TMJ stuff. Thank goodness for meds, Badedas shower gel scented baths, and my blessed bite guard. Anyway, as I was feeling better, I came across an entry on my oldest friend’s Facebook page featuring unusual, rarely used words. Anyway, one word caught my eye that y’all might appreciate right now. Filipendulous: suspended by a thread.

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    Jane
    23 Mar 2020
    9:05pm

    This is a strange time for sure.
    This weekend my OCD kicked in and I made a list of every room in my house and detailed what to clean in them. Got all my kitchen cupboards done on Sunday and now I’m concerned I’m going through too many wipes and paper towels. Sigh.
    We live on Lake Michigan so I’ve been taking beach walks daily with the dog and picking up trash that’s washed up. It’s amazing how much junk washes up and who the hell uses those white plastic cigarette holders?? So many of those and Mylar balloons!
    We own a (non essential) clothing retail store, that in the interest of health, we closed on Saturday. I’m worried for our business and our employees. I’m worried for our daughter who lives in LA and is a sales rep for a denim company that has no stores open to sell to. I’m worried for my son who has an autoimmune disease. He works for an ice cream manufacturer and they are considered essential, because heaven knows, we need ice cream right now!
    Bottom line, the best thing I can do is try to laugh and find joy in the little things, exercise for my mental and physical wellbeing, stay positive, read all the books I never have time for and stay connected to friends and family.
    Thanks Kim for being a long distance friend via this blog and your podcast!

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    Dawn
    23 Mar 2020
    4:18pm

    Sat. was great. Reading in the warm sun in my backyard with my daughter. Three hour phone call with my two friends of over 40 yrs. Cooking, baking. Sunday not so great. I learned that I should not watch the news. Sticking with my NY Times app for necessary info. I recommend astronaut Scott Kelly’s piece https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/21/opinion/scott-kelly-coronavirus-isolation.html . Kim, thanks for the loungewear post. I’m excited to read it later…must get back to work now lol.

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    Francine
    23 Mar 2020
    4:24pm

    Kim, as usual, your threads are always spot on.
    Ok, so where do I start? I’ve been working from home for a gazillion years, so my day-to-day hasn’t changed all that much. I’m a consultant/writer. My 3 school age kids are home, but my high-schooler started online classes last week. He’s very self-sufficient, just bored and on his phone when class ends at 3. The other two kids start distance learning tomorrow. We live in Southern CA and so they are outside a lot (6 feet distance from other kids). So overall, it doesn’t sound terrible. BUT, I’m a nervous wreck about work. My husband is a SAHD (not by choice!) so I’m the breadwinner. Unfortunately, I think my main client (30 hours a week!) may shut me down. There’s more. I just bought a business a few months ago (franchise boutique fitness called AKT Fitness). We bought THREE licenses and are literally in lease negotiations and loan approvals for one in Newport Beach. I’m petrified. In this world today, there’s no way I can move forward My job is on the edge. I’m a basket of worry but can’t show it to ANYONE. If any of you has any contract copywriting work you can toss my way, I’m in!

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      Jenny
      23 Mar 2020
      8:45pm

      I wish I could send solutions — or cash! All I’ve got is sympathy. I’m in a similar situation of extreme economic anxiety and a feeling, like yours, that there is no way I can move forward. You are not alone.

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    Mamavalveeta03
    23 Mar 2020
    4:32pm

    Doing fine, just the “b” word (bored – not bitchy, although I could slide into bitchy pretty easily). I’m trying to practice what I preached with my kids when they were little, “If you’re bored, I’ll find something for you to clean around here!” Cooking a lot of savory stews and chowders. More baking = fatter hips. But it’s pandemic fat, which I may have to live off of for awhile, so thanks brownies. 😉

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    Jeanne
    23 Mar 2020
    5:15pm

    I’m doing okay. Last week was crazier for us as we were trying to get my son home from university in Colorado. He left his expensive snow boots out there because he thought he would be going back to school at some point (shakes head). Those will be loved by whoever cleans the place out. I’m an introvert so my problem is more about getting a bit of solitude around the house. My husband is watching too much news and the financial situation is making him go all Chicken Little. I have it easier because I don’t have young children to entertain. They’re pretty much entertaining themselves. One weird thing during all this is that my sleeping patterns have been all over the place. I’ve been going to be really late and awaking sometimes at 11! I got over chastising myself when I realized there’s no where to go and nothing to do. So I’m letting that extra long sleep be part of my personal health. Hang in there everyone and thank you for letting us report Kim.

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    Emily TL
    23 Mar 2020
    2:41pm

    Definitely hit a wall this weekend. I work for a hospital in a non-clinical capacity, yet considered to be essential because my group generates revenue. Fighting to get to work from home which should be a no-brainer as we have all the technology and access to do so. And work is crazy because all of our projects with live meetings, conferences, etc forums have to be rescheduled or converted to virtual. I have to keep my job if I can, as my husband’s industry is being decimated, but I am pissed to have to fight for our right to work safely. My parents in their 80s are my chief concern. In a karmic twist of fate, I am driving them crazy with orders to stay in. Although they are near me, I don’t know when I will see them again for fear of infecting them. I can bring them supplies and leave at their door but that feels like all I kind do as bringing them to my house doesn’t suit their needs. Sleep is hard. I am too, worried about what is on the horizon. I don’t think we have gotten to the really hard part yet. I appreciate getting to check in with you all. I wish you all health.

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    EW
    23 Mar 2020
    2:46pm

    I crashed yesterday morning. I am normally a rather optimistic person but as I started reading the paper..looking at online headlines..so much death, misery, helplessness..the tears fell like rain..Everything I go to for relief feels pointless. Talking to my mom and my oldest bestest friend helped some but then I started thinking what if it got them?(Mom’s is vulnerable population, best friend works in clinical healthcare)..
    I am not a ‘religious’ person, but my birthday was over the weekend and my bday wish was a prayer for the world.

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      Dawn
      23 Mar 2020
      3:48pm

      Happy Birthday EW!

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    TradyA
    23 Mar 2020
    1:58pm

    I had this random thought. Everyone’s dogs must be thinking they have hit the jackpot. They are getting all this attention, so many walks every day, the kids are home to hang out with them…they are probably texting each other Gary Larson style, saying “I know, I can’t believe it, they are home every day, I’ve been on like six walks today, it’s awesome! I bet the cats are digging it too, except for the introverts who are saying “ OMG, are my people ever going to leave? I’ve been walking around with this hairball I need to throw up on the carpet and I can’t do it while they’re watching me…”

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      Rita
      23 Mar 2020
      11:31pm

      Omg, I totally thought this today while out on my (dogless thanks to husband allergies) walk. I’m glad this awfulness is bringing something good to *someone*.

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      Kim France
      23 Mar 2020
      3:38pm

      The dogs truly are the clear winners here, it’s true.

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        Teresa
        23 Mar 2020
        5:13pm

        My dog is ecstatic! And extram demanding right now. He’s nudging us and giving us meaningful looks as if to sau, “If you humans are gonna be home all day, then you need to be playing with me all.the.time.”

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      Mouse
      24 Mar 2020
      10:08am

      Yes yes. We had to put our cat down in early Feb and it was really tough. Now I’ve stopped crying, but I’m constantly thinking about how much she would have loved it right now, with both of us home at the same time all the time……

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    Jax
    23 Mar 2020
    2:25pm

    Have had a semi-tough couple weeks. After already practicing self-isolation and aggressive social distancing for about a week (and being lucky enough to be encouraged and able to work from home), my husband started exhibiting symptoms of COVID-19. And it seems the rest of the family most likely has it too, but with milder symptoms. We’ve had phone consultations with our physician, but per current CDC guidelines (and current test kit constraints), we’re unable to get tested. Fortunately (knock on wood), it’s been pretty mild so far, but I will let you know, it feels like no flu we’ve ever had before. This is quite different.
    Hoping that we continue to be on the mend. We only wish we could be tested (maybe an antibody test later), so that if we’ve had it, perhaps, we’re immune now and could help the community instead of being shut in.
    In the meantime, continuing our self-quarantine and taking it easy. If you get it, make sure you get lots of sleep and rest. Don’t overdo it, because it’ll bite you.
    Life is surreal, living in an apartment building with 3 other units — wearing mask and gloves whenever in the common areas to get deliveries, deep cleaning our shared laundry facilities after every touch. Not a time to be green either — we’re tying up and tossing all our compost in garbage to avoid infecting a neighbor or city garbage workers. Tying up all our garbage in general.
    We count ourselves as fortunate so far. My parents are on top of it and staying home, except for weekly grocery runs. One main concern is about the rise in racist attacks against Asian Americans right now.
    https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/23/us/chinese-coronavirus-racist-attacks.html

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      Carrie
      23 Mar 2020
      5:57pm

      I’m so sorry and sending you all my best wishes

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      Kim France
      23 Mar 2020
      3:40pm

      Sending you my love, Jax. Keep us posted.

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      c.w.
      23 Mar 2020
      2:31pm

      So sorry. Healing vibes.

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    Joannawnyc
    23 Mar 2020
    2:36pm

    I have panic attacks every time I have to go somewhere–grocery, dentist, pharmacy just today–and it’s really exhausting. Last night I watched “Dark Phoenix” on HBO in hpes of a distraction but instead it was really depressing. I am supposed to be working from home but they updated and reset all the computers on campus over the weekend so of course nobody could log on this morning. Also, it is snowing. I have a zoom happy hour scheduled for tonight, though.

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    Lisa B
    23 Mar 2020
    1:30pm

    I go back and forth between being fine and not fine. My kids are being much more resilient than I expected. I FaceTimed my mom and asked for advice as she was a child in WWII Europe and faced more adversity than I will likely ever see. She is in one of the highest risk groups for the virus, so has been self-isolating on her own for several weeks already. I thought that her response might be spiritual, but she was very matter of fact. She said we can’t change these circumstances, but we can control what we do and what we think. She said just do your best each day, some days will be better than others and stay determined, especially when you don’t feel like it.

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    Kathi
    23 Mar 2020
    1:31pm

    I live alone and I am doing okay as I try to go out for a drive each morning, stopping at convenience store for a soda while social distancing. My guy came in yesterday (lives on a farm 30 miles away) & had to go to grocery store to quickly stock up for this week. I was aghast at how many people seemed to be totally oblivious to the other people around them & not keeping their distance! I kept scurrying away and keeping my guy moving through the store in order to get the hell out it there. It was stressful and ramped up my already high level of anxiety. And when I am anxious I usually bake up a storm & give away to friends, but that’s not really ideal right now – and I certainly don’t want the yummies in my house while cooped up!! My hair gal called me Saturday to advise she has to close her small salon for a couple weeks ergo my roots will be pretty rooty by the time she reopens. Cool by me as I want her & her family to stay safe & healthy. My flooring install for this Wednesday is on track, I will be hiding out in my basement while they are here, not out of concern for contact but just to stay out of their way. This project has been keeping me sane and somewhat busy at home as I have been moving small furniture, breakables, do-dads to the basement. Kim, your fantastic blog is also keeping me sane as it is a bit of normal and delight in these abnormal times. We will get through this GOACAs, keep strong and wash those hands. 😘

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    Ann
    23 Mar 2020
    1:40pm

    Hit my wall yesterday. I’m on the East Coast helping my parents, who are in their 80s. Been here 3 weeks, was supposed to stay one week; now here indefinitely.

    There IS NO FREAKING SUN IN PHILADELPHIA. I miss my husband and my teenage daughters and my nut-job cat. My sister lives at home, still, at 60, and she’s a full-on but pretend hypochondriac. Strategic coughing is my only entertainment.

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    SC
    23 Mar 2020
    1:26pm

    I am sograteful. People have been through way worse – Civil War, Spanish Flu (no respirators!), WW I, WW II, families in Refugee camps now – my situation is CUSH by comparison.

    We get everything on demand (entertainment, food, shopping) – and so little is usually asked of us (beyond shopping) – but maybe it’s time we pulled together for the collective good?

    Yes – attempting to work from home and home school 2 kids (7 and 11) is a shit show. But also hilarious. And we are all healthy (!) – if not very productive ; )

    Face time/ Zoom happy hour w/ friends helps. For the kids and their friends. And for me and my friends. And my husband and his friends.

    And lots of walks.

    I don’t dismiss real mental health issues, loneliness, economic anxiety for all of us –

    But I feel fortified knowing my ancestors have been through (much) worse. We can do this. Though I’m curious if it fundamentally changes us a society-

    Like, when it’s over do we now revert to being socially distant? Avoiding concerts, restaurants, etc? Or are we all so starved, that the minute we get a vaccine, we are all naked in the dessert, high on x, hugging each other for hours to bad DJ music…

    I’m curious.

    Fun science fact: a 30 second hug releases an endorphin rush. Humans are meant to touch.

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    Remy
    23 Mar 2020
    12:59pm

    The spread of the disease coincided exactly with coming along with my husband on his job assignment that is supposed to go on for 5 more weeks. So I´ve been holed up in a hotel room in a suburb of Phoenix. Grateful for the shelter, but I know nothing about Phoenix, don´t want us to get sick in this hotel room, and want to us to go home a.s.a.p. He goes to work six days a week in a non-essential industry that is sure to not shut down until they are made to do so. There was an ambulance and fire truck in the hotel parking lot last night and when I called the front desk to inquire they said that ¨someone fell sick¨. Oy vey.. I have been obsessed with keeping things as clean as possible in here but there is carpet and I feel grossed out by it and a communal laundry room that I feel equally freaked out by. Itś hard to keep things sanitary in general in here. To keep down on foot traffic, I´ve declined housekeeping coming in and am being sent supplies to clean the room myself once a week. I am going for walks where I try to focus on the cool desert plants and not the strip mall ugliness. Not many people on the sidewalks here, thatś a plus! I have been generally very stressed but I´ve got good support over the phone. I did hit a wall last night where I felt like I was getting sick and I have decided to massively curtail my news and doomsday intake. My friend sent me a Marianne Williamson video about how to handle things right now, choosing love over fear, that kind of thing.. Although I scoffed at her as a presidential candidate and I know she is veers into the dangerous and irresponsible re: disability, vaccinations, etc, I felt so peaceful for the first time in a few weeks after watching it. So this week I´ve decided that I need to calm the fuck down lest I make myself sick. Going to be very selective about my news and online intake this week to keep it on the positive and supportive vibe. My husband wrote his boss last night to request that he get sent home. Hopefully it won´t lead to any shenanigans where he won´t be paid or be eligible for unemployment. We do have some savings so that is good. My mental, physical, spiritual health is most important.

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      Tanya Hahni
      23 Mar 2020
      9:12pm

      That’s a weird situation, I hope you can go home soon. I must say I am with you on limiting my news intake, it does nothing positive for me. Last week I decided that I would not look at anything COVID-19 related including any social media until 7 p.m. By then I’ve had a reasonably productive and mentally relaxing day. Knowing more is not going to change anything I do or don’t do in a day so it’s a strategy that is working well for me. Hang in there, we’ll get through this.

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    Eloise
    23 Mar 2020
    12:40pm

    Not going to sugarcoat this one: Having a very hard time. My marriage has been in bad shape for awhile (been trying to save money so that I can afford to get out) and being shut up in a very small house with someone whose true colors show more and more each day isn’t good at all.

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      c.w.
      23 Mar 2020
      2:36pm

      Headphones really do help––puts you in your own little world. Also, time outside. Even if it’s just sitting in the yard or walking around the block.

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      Rebecca Too
      23 Mar 2020
      1:45pm

      So sorry Eloise! Headphones and podcasts. Become a smooth surface that his shit doesn’t stick to…this moment is about surviving… Fingers crossed you can be free and happy soon! Sending love…

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      Mamavalveeta03
      23 Mar 2020
      12:55pm

      Can’t “like” this one. Please stay safe, Eloise. ❤️

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        HickfromStyx
        23 Mar 2020
        1:20pm

        I see it as a heart, not necessarily a like.

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      Mindy
      23 Mar 2020
      12:58pm

      I’m so sorry this is your situation right now. I’m sending you an online, socially distanced bear hug right now.

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      Kim France
      23 Mar 2020
      1:02pm

      That sucks, Eloise. So sorry. You’re in my thoughts.

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    HickfromStyx
    23 Mar 2020
    12:51pm

    Two things that might help, from the internet.

    1. How long was Ann Frank in the attic?

    2. “Stay home unless you want to be intubated by a gynecologist.”

    We don’t know hardship. Staying home is not hardship. Hardship comes later, if we don’t stay home.

    Here we have a personal shopper for groceries to be picked up by us without leaving the vehicle (shopping fee waived during the pandemic), and soon we will experience home delivery for the first time. In case we want wine with our cheese, there’s home delivery for that, too, even though the liquor store is closed. We also qualify for pre-opening shopping at the pharmacy due to our age, and they sell basic groceries like bread, milk and eggs. I feel old.

    The pet food store has closed, but another one of their outlets is taking phone orders for curbside pickup. We might like some of these services enough to use them when this is over.

    C’est la vie. It will all be worth it if this thing can be fought sooner rather than later. Thank goodness we didn’t cancel the cable as planned.

    What about all those people do who have lost their jobs because of this?

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    Liz
    23 Mar 2020
    12:01pm

    I can’t lie, I’m loving quarantine. My situation is so much less stressful than a lot of people’s: easy going, non-annoying husband, no kids, two young, playful and cuddly cats, and a rented townhouse in Seattle. Plus, I’m a homebody introvert who loves home time, anyway.

    So we ordered delivery from a specialty Italian grocery store and I made rigatoni bolognese Friday. We sat on the porch and had happy hour while people watching. We played a fun X-Box quiz game (You Don’t Know Jack), and then watched Devs, which is better than the reviews suggest, and Shrill, which he likes more than I do. Saturday, I read more of the two books I’m reading (Salvage the Bones and Drinking: A Love Story). We went for a run and found a nice, less traveled route than our normal. At night, we smoked some pot and watched Train to Busan (definitely the worst of Yeon Sang-ho’s films), then watched lots of KEXP live in studio performances and found the most hilariously awful band from Iceland whose name I wish I could remember, but it was long. They clearly wanted to be Roxy Music crossed with Joy Division, and the results were ridiculous. And Sunday, I texted lots of friends, spoke to my mom, read more, my husband and I did a surprisingly hard home workout from some app, played more quiz games, I made the New York Times turkey chili recipe with a number of alterations, which made it delicious, and at night, we watched more Devs and the Simpsons & Bob’s Burgers. I mean, I guess I can see this eventually getting old, but it’s only been a week for us (we were in Mexico until last Monday), and so far, it’s been fun.

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      Tanya Hahni
      23 Mar 2020
      9:20pm

      I appreciate your honesty! I think there are a few critical factors in how all this goes down. Geography, kids or no kids, existence and/or quality of a partner, financial issues. Like you, I have a very fortunate set of circumstances: LA, no kids, great husband, no real financial pressure so the last week has been overall quite pleasant. I do need to avoid the news for the most part because once I start getting informed on more than the basics I get super anxious. Hopefully our calm, positive energy can help others who are struggling a bit more.

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    Kay Erikson
    23 Mar 2020
    12:15pm

    Saturday was bad, despite starting the day with Yoga. I can’t seem to pull myself away from the news, which seems to fuel fear and anxiety. Sadly, part of those fears stem from not knowing if I will be laid off, so shopping online is out. Sigh…that sale over at Nili Lotan is killing me! I did pull the trigger on a whole bunch of essential oils from C.O. Bigelow. Kim, how a bout a post on Diffusers? The one you recommended ages ago was sold out. Would also love to see a post about things that help with anxiety. Cooking and baking is helping me to stay distracted. I felt a twinge of guilt at the number of eggs the lemon tart recipe called for, but made it anyway. (eggs, like TP seem to be in short supply around here). My family is eating well. We vowed to clean out the freezer during this shelter in place. My two teenage boys are staying connected to friends through the x-box, (thank god we have two), I have stopped trying to limit their screentime, probably from the sadness I feel from all that my senior in High school is currently missing out on. But we are safe, and together. And if I sell enough stuff on ebay this week, those leopard sweats are mine! Anyone interested in two pairs of Nili Lotan Paris pants, size 10? I recently lost 25lbs and they are too big. A little bright spot.

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      HickfromStyx
      23 Mar 2020
      1:17pm

      My spawn has gone through disasters twice now. One was a megaflood during departmental exams, which were intially scheduled to go ahead, despite people being evacuated from their homes in the middle of the night, families split up and sent to various college dorms and community halls across the city, electricity shut off and school and city buses unable to traverse the roads that were flooded and bridges that were closed. Traffic mayhem, too, as few seem to understand four-way stops when the traffic lights are out. Tap water was running brown, so school fountains were shut down permanently after that, and replaced. Students had been told to bring bottled water to exams. They waited until the very last moment to cancel, which had us all worried.

      Now it’s remote lectures and exams at university, after a panicky evacuation from the student residence. Term papers are due soon, but all libraries are closed, so they will be as good as they are now.

      Watch your teenagers for anxiety. It didn’t happen immediately, but many young people from the flood disaster have had long-term impacts, including those who did not lose everything. They had friends who did. The effect of this pandemic on young people is concerning, especially for those who went through trauma earlier in their lives.

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    Debra K
    23 Mar 2020
    12:02pm

    Night sweats: Menopause or Covid-19? Three months late on my period my body decided I needed something else to worry about at 3am last night. I don’t have any other symptoms of the virus but none of it is helping my state of mind right now.

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      Tanya Hahni
      23 Mar 2020
      9:27pm

      Ugh, hang in there! I haven’t had the pleasure of hot flashes yet but at 48 my cycle has been very irregular over the last year and I just finished a 23 day situation. I am grateful that there is nothing COVID-19 related to that but enough already. Thankfully I think it’s come to the end. I hope you find some good coping mechanisms.

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      Liz
      23 Mar 2020
      1:18pm

      Oh my god, I had the same issue. My face has been flushed and warm for weeks, but no Covid symptoms, and I’ve taken my temperature a million times, but it’s normal. I’m almost positive it’s just peri-menopause, but we’re all understandably so aware and paranoid regarding our health now.

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      Mindy
      23 Mar 2020
      12:54pm

      My guess is hot flashes. Watch the caffeine and alcohol consumption, as those can be triggers – I found I can drink wine, but not beer. When I was young and naive, I thought “How bad can hot flashes be?” and then I had a solid month with them happening about a dozen times a day. Then I answered my own question with “They suck.”

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        Carrie
        23 Mar 2020
        1:50pm

        Totally Suck! I remember I used to roll my eyes listening to my sister-in-laws complain endlessly 🤣

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        liz
        23 Mar 2020
        1:43pm

        I started with them about a year ago. They have mostly subsided. I actually did not know about the effect of caffeine.

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      liz
      23 Mar 2020
      12:46pm

      Sounds like hot flashes. They are not fun. Be well.

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    MaryAlice
    23 Mar 2020
    12:04pm

    Today is my birthday. I am not allowing myself to think about what we don’t have, or what I was doing this time last year (Vegas to see Cher!) but what we do: my family is healthy, we don’t have to worry about a roof over our heads or food to eat. Long walks with the dogs, gardening, and tackling projects around the house are keeping me sane. Sending love out to everyone.

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      Viajera
      23 Mar 2020
      4:15pm

      Happy Birthday MaryAlice!!!

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      c.w.
      23 Mar 2020
      2:40pm

      Happy B-Day!

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      Carrie
      23 Mar 2020
      1:51pm

      Happy Birthday !!

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      Mamavalveeta03
      23 Mar 2020
      1:02pm

      Happy Birthday, MaryAlice!

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      Mindy
      23 Mar 2020
      12:20pm

      Happy birthday! Mine (48) was last week and my daughter made me a cake. My youngest turned 10 last week and while it was a disappointing she couldn’t celebrate with her friends, every single neighborhood kid made her a birthday card. She loved it! 😊 And her sister made another cake for her.

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      Kim France
      23 Mar 2020
      12:20pm

      Happy birthday, Mary Alice!

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    Tsampamama
    23 Mar 2020
    11:55am

    Last week was a bit of a $hit show. Trying to work from home full time with 2 kids (6 & 10) out of school, worrying about their activities so they don’t go stir crazy or just spend all day on screens, 3 meals a day + snacks, outdoor time and trying to eke out some self-care time is no joke. Found myself spiraling a time or two – and I didn’t notice it. It was my husband who noticed it, and insisted I take some self care time. Thank goodness for him. I work for a charity and keeping up with community needs, trying to check-in with donors, and fundraising to support those who need it most has been non-stop. There’s a lot of conversation around emergency packages for businesses. I hope that the governments around the world are also considering supporting the social infrastructure that our communities rely on. I also hope the public realize how much we need this social infrastructure and dig deep to help support each other. On the bright side though, a kid on our street had his birthday yesterday – we all came out onto our porches at 2 PM to help him celebrate as his parents walked him up and down the street. Just realized we have a professional tenor on the street and some mean musicians!

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    Rita
    23 Mar 2020
    11:39am

    Saturday was bad for me too—had a relapse of the earlier-in-the-week sickness, and while there has been no fever and no respiratory issues at all associated with it, it’s impossible not to be paranoid. My siblings and I also blew up at each other in our group text, and it sent me spiraling down. I ended up spending the entire day in bed.

    Sunday was better. Had sun in the morning, went out for a hike with my family, did NOT run into hordes on the trail we hiked (which would have sent me into a tailspin), finished reading the fourth Harry Potter to my 8-year-old. Today is our first day with everyone working from home—kids have been home schooling for a week now and me with them, but my husband was still in the office (classifed as essential services). He’s home today, so…hopefully that goes OK.

    My best going out to all of you—hope you can stay safe!

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      Tanya Hahni
      23 Mar 2020
      9:31pm

      It’s interesting how no one talks about tension with family right now. My sister and I have had a challenging relationship over the years even though our family is very small and quite close. The increased level of interaction now is a bit exhausting to be honest.

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    Jennifer
    23 Mar 2020
    11:14am

    Also hit a wall on Saturday, despite seeing two friends in my neighborhood that morning during a walk. I live alone, and am really missing personal contact, especially hugs hello and goodbye. I didn’t realize how much I was missing this until I saw a meme on Instagram about hugging once this is all over and burst into tears (ugh). Video calls with family and friends yesterday helped, and I’ve discovered that cooking new recipes has been a source of distraction and satisfaction. Doing workouts by video and knowing I’ll be able to improve my performance over the coming weeks is also something I’m using to keep my motivation up. Sending solidarity to all!

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    Janet
    23 Mar 2020
    11:23am

    Our dog was in the hospital all weekend with pneumonia, adding to our sadness/anxiety but – miracle! – he is coming home today. I hope that’s a good omen. Walking everywhere – Brooklyn is awesome when there’s no one on the streets – and taking photos of the new reality… and doing a lot of writing. it helps to have something else to focus on.

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    Pia
    23 Mar 2020
    10:59am

    Saturday: not good. PMSy, irritable, short with my kids.
    Sunday: good. Sunny out, did yoga, did my hair.

    Carry on ladies. Day by day.

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    c.w.
    23 Mar 2020
    10:54am

    Amy Klobuchar just announced on Instagram that her husband has the virus. She can’t be with him.

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    Elizabeth
    23 Mar 2020
    10:07am

    Facetimed with a lot of babies (and their parents) this weekend. A good reminder that perseverance is important and that what we do now will be the stories for the next generation. Also re-reading “Hissing Cousins” about Eleanor and Alice Roosevelt, which always makes me feel better about families.

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      MKW
      23 Mar 2020
      10:42pm

      Oh… this is going on my book list. Just finished “Alice” by Cordery and “American Princess” by Thornton. Both about Alice Roosevelt. First is biographical and the second historical fiction. Read both at nearly the same time. Second book helped me move more quickly through the first book. If that makes any sense…

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      Viajera
      23 Mar 2020
      4:18pm

      Oooh that sounds like a goooood book. Thanks! “Come sit by me…” is maybe my favorite quote evah.

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    lc
    23 Mar 2020
    9:45am

    Yoga, eating healthy, continuing w/ intermittent fasting, aka skipping breakfast. (I started in January and am not sure how much weight I’ve lost, but guessing at least 10 lbs just based on clothing fit.) Online (news, Reddit) too much, but it’s a window (or a prism, maybe) of what’s going on in the world/in people’s heads. I don’t feel ready to dive in to my many projects; still getting a grasp on what’s happening.
    My brain is spinning wildly, not just with the pandemic, but what comes after. Activism is more important now than ever and it will need to come in new forms. When this crisis passes, the world will look very different; what happens now can steer that towards solutions that work for everyone, not just corporations and the wealthy.
    I’ve also been focused on more immediate concerns, i.e. what’s the absolute minimum number of squares of tp one can manage after a pee? (Answer: two, but three is much better)

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      MKW
      23 Mar 2020
      10:57pm

      Good for you on the good food choices! I was doing so well with intermittent fasting. Then a pandemic happened…. I decided I wasn’t going to be stressed and hungry! On another note… Tonight at dinner I announced to my family that I read online two squares of toilet paper get the job done. So…from now on, because I’m in-charge of toilet paper acquisition, I would hold the toilet paper throughout the day and they must come and request three squares (because I’m generous) before each trip. You should have seen their faces before I burst out laughing!

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      Stephanie
      23 Mar 2020
      5:55pm

      Really?!? I’ve been fasting from 8 pm to noon the next day for three weeks and nada. Lost 2 pounds the first three days, and have been bouncing up and down within those same 2 pounds ever since. On the verge of giving up. Damn.

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        lc
        23 Mar 2020
        7:10pm

        Stephanie, No, just keep it up — and stay away from that scale, it’s too easy to get obsessed with that number! When my scale broke a couple of years ago, I decided not to replace it. I just go by how I feel and how clothes fit. I feel a lot more sane w/ this approach and can quickly tell if I’m getting too ploofy. If I may offer some encouragement/suggestions, just focus on eating healthy foods (and maybe some vitamins) to get good nutrition/roughage during that 8-hour eating window, avoid sugary things and excess carbs, and get some exercise every day. Maybe just check that scale once a month — or not at all. It’s about how you look and feel, not any specific number. Wishing you all the best.

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      HickfromStyx
      23 Mar 2020
      1:27pm

      Haha! Single ply bad. Triple ply good.

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      Carrie
      23 Mar 2020
      10:03am

      Yes, you are spot on w tp 😂. My husband “lived like a rat” for many years as a student and claims coffee filters work good.

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    Jenny
    23 Mar 2020
    9:45am

    Sunday I took a trail walk with my teen, and we started a new family tradition of chastising people for keeping insufficient social distance — not loud enough so that they could hear us, but it made us feel better. And we found righteous solidarity with other aggressive social distancers, shouting encouragement from 8-10 feet away. I made banana bread with the dying bananas, desiccated brown sugar, margarine that was inexplicably in my freezer, and a chocolate bar from who knows when. It turned out better than expected. But a very dark time Saturday night, making myself crazy trying to do laundry safely in a laundry room that’s used by the other 250 inhabitants of this building. Every day, even every hour, is different, and I try to be patient with myself when things look bleak. The NY Times story about Seattle ended with a quote from a woman who was a teenager in Bosnia in the 90s when the war started. That put it into much needed perspective for me: however bad this is, it’s not Bosnia, it’s not Syria. There is a normal on the other side.

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      Elle
      23 Mar 2020
      10:14am

      Read that as well. Good reminder.

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        Cedar
        23 Mar 2020
        1:29pm

        I have an amazing friend who was in Bosnia with an NGO during the war. We were checking in during a meeting last week about how everyone was doing and she said, “I’ve been through long-term lockdowns before. It’s so great to be doing this one with heat, electricity, running water, enough food, functioning communications systems and no bombs falling!”
        Yeah. Hard to complain after that.

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    Mindy
    23 Mar 2020
    9:38am

    My weekend was good considering the circumstances. I’m going to express extreme gratitude to my kids (15, 13 and 10), who have stepped up this past 1 1/2 weeks. They’ve shown more patience and ability to get along with each other more than I have seen in the past year. I know meltdowns are coming…but, we had a family meeting and expressed that at any time during this isolation, 1 of the 5 of us will hit the wall and lose our s**t. If you are the “eruptor,” try to keep it short and go outside to cool off. If you are getting erupted at, try not to take it personally and walk away.

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      HickfromStyx
      23 Mar 2020
      8:35pm

      I swear that stepping into the bathroom, turning the fan on and swearing a blue streak is a completely normal thing to do right now.

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    Carrie
    23 Mar 2020
    9:42am

    I cooked and baked and spent a lot of time emailing and on FaceTime. I also spent too much time reading the news and thinking dark thoughts which led to anxiety. My husband is my rock. We are both more than fine with staying home together as necessary since we are both homebodies, no kids, no pets, and honestly this is really our lifestyle. We take walks, read, work-out, work from home, chill, etc. But… I’m scared. Very scared. Such a grim situation that seems to get worse each day. Today I’m putting together a what to do plan in case one of us gets sick. How and where will we self-isolate? I’m literally putting together a suitcase for each of us with the necessary linens, clothing, toiletries, meds, etc., along with printed safety guidelines for each of us to follow worse case scenario. This process will actually calm me and make me feel just a wee bit in control. Next I will encourage my sister and brother to do the same. More complex for both of them: sis living with young adult children and bro w my elderly parents and 5 dogs between them. I am doing my best to take one day at a time but I’m very pessimistic. Which is totally not me. Never has been. So yeah I’m scared. I keep telling myself every day to keep my chin up and have faith. Kim, thanks for this wonderful opportunity to write that out and share with this incredible community you have created. I know it’s a safe place and it’s so comforting. I’m praying my ass of for so many but especially for a swift end to this nightmare. Please take care ladies and stay safe!

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    MKW
    23 Mar 2020
    9:35am

    Saturday: Not so good. Big private cry. Sunday: We slipped down to the university campus very early in the morning to move all daughter’s items from dorm. Only one other family moving at that early hour from another part of the building. It was nice to be driving down the interstate for hours (without listening to radio) and chatting with our young adult like “no crisis exists.” So sweet of daughter’s friend to ask her, “How is your Mom doing?” (When we look like we have it together, I, at least, feel like I’m unraveling inside.) Now: We move ahead into the unchartered new week. I keep saying I wish this were all behind us and then I think, “But what will we be like? Who will we have lost?” Our God is with us during all times. That’s been my anchor. Wash your hands. That’s been my mantra that’s elicited countless eye rolls from other two in my household! Pray.

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    Nik
    23 Mar 2020
    9:24am

    Walking the dog has been a great stress reducer, also trying out new ways to stay active through online classes. Ryan Heffington has been hosting a daily Insta Live dance class which is beyond fun and totally uplifting. Also on Insta, @dnice’s DJ sets are drawing over 100k who want to dance/sing/ shake it through this. Lastly, afternoon happy hour dates with friends via FaceTime have been so nice.

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      Elle
      23 Mar 2020
      10:13am

      I am doing all of these! Thanks

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    Kimbersam
    23 Mar 2020
    9:17am

    Not much positive–California Governor making (possibly) hysterical closure announcements every 5 hours or so. The beaches and parks will be next to close as too many people were there over the weekend. It reminds me of when I was a kid and my parents kept updating my punishments to be more extreme, “you are punished for two weeks….no wait for the entire marking period…we’ve discussed it, and you’ll have to drop out of your (lead role) in the school play, drop out of all your after school activities, and you are punished until the summer…” I really really really really (x 10 to the 10th power) hate this. Saturday, I checked in w/ my mail carrier and UPS guy and they are fine and astonishingly upbeat. Sunday, I walked around checking on our two local homeless. One looked fine, was lucid and seemed healthy. The other was stoned out of his mind (can’t blame him) so I kept my interaction brief and from a safe distance. The only positives I can come up with is friendly encounters (from a safe distance) with almost every other person walking a dog.

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      Viajera
      23 Mar 2020
      4:30pm

      Interesting debate. I don’t have an opinion bc I don’t listen to or watch telly news. I prefer to read the paper. (If something is really important I will hear it on the radio or from someone.) If I did have an opinion, it would probably be that we should doooo maybe a bit more than we think is needed (when possible), but remain as calm as we can. I don’t agree with closing parks but I do think it is fine for the police to nail, ahem, I mean, give *warnings* to people who stand too close to strangers. That has to stop. … People need to be able to get outside though. Mental health matters too. … I give the governor about a B so far. I want hand san like New Yorkers are getting. And other forms of sanitizer too. It is not acceptable to not have these things, and our leaders are the ones who will get the blame for it. Who else is there? As a person, I like him okay though. … The whole small/big town dilemma is very interesting too. I think I tend to sympathize more with the big city folk trying to escape – I just think that is a very human reaction. If people had wanted to block airbnb, they had that chance and didn’t. People can and should stay 6 feet away just as well in a small place. As for the medical facilities, we may all just basically be bleeped about that. Except … I think we will hack this ventilator problem. In fact, although it will be stressful and not at all fun, I think we humans will beat this thing. I do. And, I’m not usually an optimist.

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      kb
      23 Mar 2020
      1:15pm

      Respectfully, Gov. Newsom (CA) and other state leaders are not making hysterical decisions, just making up for a total lack of leadership at the federal level. We have no choice in our populated and economically-critical state but to do everything we can to flatten the curve. Just finished reading A Bookshop in Berlin (circa 1920-1943), which puts our current predicament into perspective. Pay housekeepers not to work if you can; order gift cards from local & beloved businesses if you can; feel pride and solidarity as you shelter in place with everyone else trying to get by. My father is 94 — his life depends on people doing the right thing. Thank you for so compassionately taking the time to check up on the homeless. Stay well!

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        Kimbersam
        23 Mar 2020
        3:09pm

        As much as we don’t agree about Gov Newsome’s decisions we are absolutely on the same page as to the lack of leadership on the Federal-level.

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        Liz
        23 Mar 2020
        1:25pm

        Amen. My cousin lives in Joshua Tree, and he’s freaking out over all the people from LA escaping the city and flooding the park, increasing the risk for people in their town. I had an argument with my husband who wanted to go surfing in a remote beach town, because locals in these places are put at risk when city people who are at increased risk of being asymptomatic carriers travel to their communities because of all these articles encouraging people to go hiking and to beaches. Luckily it became a moot point because the beach closed. I’m glad Newsom stepped up.

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    Betsy Palmer
    23 Mar 2020
    9:13am

    I am an extrovert so I made a pledge to myself to talk to people everyday on the phone. hearing voices helps me so much. Doing much needed yard work (Spring is here in VA), walking, working and thinking about how good it will be to have all the chores done once we are able to get out again, Stay well ladies.

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    Mouse
    23 Mar 2020
    8:35am

    I live in rural Maine so I walked in the woods a lot. And then spent hours trying to figure out how to use technology to teach voice lessons for the foreseeable future. This is not a kind of teaching that works well online, but we are doing it and I hope it will keep the students feeling connected to their daily musical lives. Or just for support in this crazy time. Began Richard Powers’ The Overstory which seems like it will be a good entrance into another world, something we all might want to feel right now. Another rec for that is Ian Pears’ Arcadia and Amor Towles A Gentleman in Moscow. None of them new books, but perhaps good for these times…..
    I also experienced spiking anxiety which I am trying to keep under control. One day at a time……

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      Stephanie
      23 Mar 2020
      6:07pm

      The Overstory is on the list of all-time favorites for me now. I’ve sort of accidentally fallen into a new role as wildlife activist, and find myself pushing forward on efforts to make changes for them in my city even when it feels completely insane or futile, and the characters in Overstory are with me all the time. *** Really loved A Gentleman in Moscow, too — a wonderful choice for sheltering-in-place.

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      Jeanne
      23 Mar 2020
      5:07pm

      A Gentleman in Moscow is a perfect choice, particularly because the main character is under house arrest for his lifetime. It was slow to start but now that we are in isolation, I realize it reflects the pace of this type of life.

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    Tally
    23 Mar 2020
    8:02am

    They announced yesterday the schools won’t go back until May 1st, if that. I can’t even wrap my head around it. The only way I am keeping sane is to not think too far ahead, where there are so many unknowns, but to just think day by day. And if I stretch it, what will this week look like. Also, I think I’m going to knit a sweater.

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      Mindy
      23 Mar 2020
      9:27am

      Honestly, I’m preparing (mentally and otherwise) for schools to be closed for the rest of the school year. That’s the vibe I’m getting.

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        Mindy
        23 Mar 2020
        4:29pm

        And….Virginia just closed K-12 through the academic year. Yep. Deep breath.

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    c.w.
    23 Mar 2020
    8:12am

    My favorite weekend park for Betty walks was overwhelmed with families and largish groups of people this weekend NONE of them maintaining any sort of distance and taking up so much space on the walkway that Betty and I were forced to walk off into the damp/super wet grass and mud to keep the recommended distance. I was a tad horrified. We’ll keep to the one off-leash trail where folks have been more respectful of the situation and the deserted downtown streets from here on out. Otherwise, working out on my own to get the endorphins going although Ballet Austin is putting on a youtube channel of various instructors doing various types of workouts from mat pilates to hip hop so I’m looking forward to that. And I’m keeping in FaceTime contact with my daughter who is dog training via Skype and FaceTime while she is upstate with her Dad and Stepmom and safely out of Brooklyn. This morning I ordered some art supplies from a local source because all of mine are either on the east coast or in storage and I feel a strong urge to do something physically creative. Our building took further steps on Friday to maintain safety which I appreciate even though it’s a pain in the rear to wait for an empty elevator. I use the tip end of my car key to press elevator buttons or my elbow, have had my groceries delivered and finished binge watching Bordertown on Netflix which I can recommend. I’m also deep sighing frequently. Thank you for helping us keep our sanity, Kim. #clean hand, full hearts, we’ll survive

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      VBR
      23 Mar 2020
      9:16am

      Closed all the beaches and parks where i live too- apparently 8400 plus visited tods point saturday. A few ruin it for all- i wish they would let us go early in the morn to exercise. Teens won’t want to eat up that early. And, Kim- i think the rollercoaster of what this is needs to be acknowledged and accepted. It is happening to all of us. I am trying to at least realize my temper is sharper than ever. I’m painting small scenes of spring and sending them to everyone i can think of. Baking too much, knitting, organizing spaces- how did i have so much expired food in my pantry?!?!? There have been some hilarious insta people- I’ll find the user name- she is the mother of the account :jolenethejollydoodle. Ok here she is: peachesanddiesel104. She was shoveling the walkway in her wedding dress that was duct taped shut on the sides cus guess what it didnt fit….also delivering cocktails and Lysol whipes to other house bound friends…i also am calling every elderly relative and friend i can think of. Keep your posts coming Kim- we love them- and we love that podcast- woah Nellie was anger one ever appropriate about now……xx

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        c.w.
        23 Mar 2020
        10:52am

        ocpilatesmama is a great instagram to follow because she does reformer exercises with her dog “riding” the reformer. Adorable.

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    Gemma
    23 Mar 2020
    7:58am

    I started a 30 day yoga challenge with my cousins. We had a call together, and several of us said we were most worried about getting enough exercise and staving off depression during isolation. It’s been really nice to have a reason to check in with each other every day.

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    Heidi
    24 Mar 2020
    10:40am

    I hit a wall Saturday too. It’s not just that we’re having to isolate from other people. It’s also that my schedule has changed and the way I do things has changed. I’m working from home now on a different schedule and having to cook all meals, when we used to get takeout here and there. Even taking walks or going to the park has had to change as I can’t get close to neighbors and there just aren’t as many people outside. Planning meals and buying groceries has changed. I think people don’t realize this–it’s not just the isolation. It’s having to change all the little things you do.

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