How are we doing?

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I’m pretty much fine. Climbing the walls, but fine. To stay sane, I’ve been FaceTiming not only the people I’m closest to, but also friends and family I haven’t seen or spoken to in a while, either because they live elsewhere or because that’s just how life goes, and that’s been helping a lot. I’ve also been listening to a ton of music, and that has made a huge difference in my mood. And I’ve taken a stab at unsnarling the necklace tangle above, with limited success (helpful hints appreciated). What have you been doing to keep your spirits up? Please share in the comments—about that or anything else.

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    suz
    20 Mar 2020
    4:45pm

    Tangle – straight pin or a safety pin and good luck. That is the mother of all tangles – I am pretty impressed. Also I am in love with the ten thousand things necklace, I visit it online often and hopefully will aquire at some point.

    Mood is anxious though walking the dog and talking to the other neighborhood dog people from a distance is helping. We have all decided to text to meet up from 6ft apart when we can.

    My parents are both in lockdown at a nursing facility in NY 3,000 miles away and I have not been able to reach them. My Dad currently has pneumonia and has parkinsons and will be 80 in a few weeks ….and I am worried I will never see them again. So. A mixed bag of anxiety

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      Mamavalveeta03
      20 Mar 2020
      7:35pm

      Sending positive thoughts to you and your parents. ❤️

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    Nancy
    20 Mar 2020
    7:15pm

    I would love some good recommendations on how NOT to have a tangle of chains, especially when you want to carry several in your purse/suitcase.

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      Julia
      21 Mar 2020
      11:07am

      Wear them when you travel!

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      Alysa
      20 Mar 2020
      7:39pm

      Nancy, loop one end through a plastic drinking straw and then close the clasp. It works.

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      Amy
      2 Apr 2020
      10:37am

      Thread each necklace through a plastic straw and hook the ends together. Store in a pencil case for travel

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    Hannah Dusto
    20 Mar 2020
    7:33pm

    Highly recommend baby or cooking oil and two pins. And patience.
    I’m knitting and quilting for charity. At least something good can come out of this craziness!

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    ab
    20 Mar 2020
    3:47pm

    I would love a crack at this mess! No one has mentioned clasps. I have never had this bad of a tangle before, but I suspect that undoing any clasps that are together is a bad idea; it could double your tangle. Also, “clasp” is a weird word. Good luck!

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      Suzanne
      20 Mar 2020
      5:11pm

      I am a master of tangles and always undo the clasps. I use two paper clips with one end straightened on each. I try to put the necklaces on some sort of “blank slate” surface and the first thing I do is just try to loosen everything up, gently pulling with both paper clips, opening up the compactness of the tangle. Then I usually go in one section at a time, manually undoing the twists of the chains. If things tighten up again, I pull apart it with the paper clips. You can really get into an individual knot with the paper clips as well. Patience is key…good luck!

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        Mamavalveeta03
        20 Mar 2020
        7:40pm

        Would you please be my mother? She has the patience to tackle all of the tough jobs. I do not.

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        AnnieA
        22 Mar 2020
        1:38pm

        @S, we have very similar techniques! I would add that using a firm, flat pillow helps, and that I have a slight preference for straight pins. If it’s really intractable I will literally put a pin in it, ie the centre of the mess, and then start gently untangling from the outside.

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        suz
        20 Mar 2020
        7:06pm

        I oddly enjoyed reading your process and think you should do untangling professionally. You sound super calm and methodical and it seems so do-able now. Am totally sincere. 🙂

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          Bex
          20 Mar 2020
          11:03pm

          Working like crazy during this mess and avoiding upcoming painful work I will have to do when this is over (face to face employee reviews-ugh). I cannot abide by necklace tangles-I will be late for work to untangle if I find one. I use a needle and loosen everything up as i can and find the easiest to untangle and keep going a bit at a time. Good luck.

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    Kate
    20 Mar 2020
    4:22pm

    Kim, I hope all the tips help you get through this tangle. There are some really tantalizing items in that pile! 🙂

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    Caryn
    20 Mar 2020
    4:24pm

    We are getting along ok here in Detroit. I work for a global retail chain that shut down its North American and European stores on Monday, with no word for a date to reopen. Thankfully, we are all being paid (for now), but there is no “work from home” to keep me busy. Walking my dogs several times a day has been therapeutic, and I had happy hour with some friends via Zoom the other night that was wonderful.

    I find tweezers and bright light helpful to untangle chains!

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      Dana
      23 Mar 2020
      1:08pm

      I work for a retail chain too and after the 2 weeks we are closed the plan is to do “outreach” to clients for 3 hours a day from home to try to get sales and see if we can get unemployment for the remaining hours in the day.

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    Liz
    20 Mar 2020
    10:27am

    Every single complaint I’ve had since this virus just makes me realize how damn privileged I am. I mean, here they are: I can’t dye my hair and holy crap, the grays are coming in fast. Why can’t I find a grocery delivery service that isn’t booked up? Why, when I go for a run, do I have to zigzag constantly to maintain an appropriate distance from others? Why, when I send my husband to the grocery store, is he so bad at it? I mean, he comes home with things that aren’t real food (protein bars and smoothie powders) and buys random shit like a can of tomato sauce but literally nothing else, including pasta, to make with it. Argh…

    All this to say, I’m doing pretty well. I don’t even have kids to worry about. I am stressed for my friends who have lost their jobs, and for my mom, who still volunteers at the food bank despite having health conditions that put her at higher risk. She promises she’ll stop, but we’ll see.

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      Mindy
      20 Mar 2020
      10:55am

      Yep. While I validate and agree with my kids that this sucks and worrisome, I also remind them that it’s much worse for others. We have friends who are restaurateurs and we worry for them that they won’t be able to recover. Kids who rely on free breakfast and lunches through school (though many people are volunteering to help with this, but I’m sure that there are still kids going hungry). We have friends who are doctors and nurses who are not only working in the “hot zone” with schedules stretched to the max, but are struggling with child care since schools and day cares are closed. We are in a college town and hotels just took another hit with graduation ceremonies being cancelled. I showed my kids the headline about Salt Lake City losing power with the earthquake this week and said, “See, that just made their situation worse than what we are dealing with.” Teaching them these things also keeps my pity party in check. The list goes on for those who have it worse than we do.

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      Kimbersam
      20 Mar 2020
      12:03pm

      I swear that men are intentionally bad at “domestic” chores so they won’t have to perform them again.

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    Mae
    21 Mar 2020
    11:46am

    Today, I’m going from gray hair to Pandemic Blonde!!!!!!

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    ES
    21 Mar 2020
    11:16am

    My office in Meatpacking went to 100% WFH this week and tech systems globally stumble to deal with the increased online traffic. I worked in finance through Dot Com and 2008 and this stress/volatility isn’t like anything I’ve experienced…perhaps because it is compounded by have two teen daughters at home (one HS senior who may be missing her graduation/prom/etc FWP) and TP/canned foods/rice/flour are generally sold out in Fairfield county CT. People are still kind to one another but who knew we had so many hoarders?! It is lovely seeing so many people out walking! Best part has been playing board games at night with my kids because we’re so tired of screen time and craving social time together. Must remember to breathe through this all!!

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    Lee Hunt
    20 Mar 2020
    1:05pm

    A safety pin works great for untangling that lovely bunch of necklaces.

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      Random Design
      20 Mar 2020
      1:10pm

      I use a big darning needle. Set ’em all down on a nice, firm contrasting surface with very good light. Chase one out of the tangle and the others shall follow…

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    Mindy
    20 Mar 2020
    8:04am

    I had an internal mini-meltdown yesterday, but I managed to right the ship in the evening. I have three kids at home and it feels like that week between Christmas and New Year’s where everything is loosey goosey and you don’t know the day of the week. BUT, I finally managed to sit down and put together a weekday schedule for all of us, in order to have more structure for the day. While this may not happen (and I hope not!), I am working on the presumption that school may get canceled through the end of the school year. So, the sooner I can get us into a manageable routine that covers school and my work, the saner we will all be. Now, I am going to set up my slow cooker and dinner will be done.

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      Mindy
      20 Mar 2020
      8:05am

      Oh, and I find that using toothpicks helps untangle my necklaces.

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        Gemma
        20 Mar 2020
        8:31am

        Or straight pins…

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          Maggie
          20 Mar 2020
          9:07am

          Or an unbent paper clip, along with good light, a place to spread out all of the strands and patience. (Admittedly, the magpie in me got excited when I saw that tangle. I like a jumble of different chains/pendants.)

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            Tahe Z
            20 Mar 2020
            10:38am

            Maggie, me, too!! It looks like something magical belonging to a mermaid.

            Kim, send it to me and I’ll untangle it for you. I get such satisfaction from doing that kind of thing!

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              Jaimie
              20 Mar 2020
              1:10pm

              Me too! Untangling necklaces is my superpower!

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            AnneP
            20 Mar 2020
            10:18am

            Thank you! I just freed a cloisonné fish pendant from its knotted chain. A very satisfying accomplishment this morning.

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            Jan W
            20 Mar 2020
            12:21pm

            Same here! I saw that tangle and thought “Send it to me! I love that stuff!” Patience is the main ingredient. I never used straight pins, yet tweezers work also. Lift up the sections a bit and let gravity help sort it out.

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          Jennifer
          20 Mar 2020
          9:14am

          Definitely straight pins!

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            Melissa Kuperminc
            20 Mar 2020
            11:55am

            I second the straight pins. You need great light, and I find a dark piece of cloth (contrasts with the chains and in a good light it is easier to identify which particular chains are knotted or tangled.) Have your straight pins at hand to work on individual tangles. Be patient and work for relatively short amounts for time and revisit.

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          c.w.
          20 Mar 2020
          9:48am

          dittoing the straight pins (I don’t always have straight pins so use safety pins that I’ve straightened out a bit.

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            Briana
            20 Mar 2020
            12:14pm

            Straight pins are a great idea! Tweezers are my secret weapon for these tangles. So satisfying to get them apart.

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        Dana D
        20 Mar 2020
        11:23am

        I’ve heard that several drops of oil helps everything come apart while you use the pins or needles…

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          Cathleen
          20 Mar 2020
          12:06pm

          Hi, I’ve heard to generously douse the chains with talcum powder and sort of work it though them. It acts as a lubricant and you can pretty much blow the chains clean after.

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      Seneca Doane
      20 Mar 2020
      9:50am

      I have heard rubbing the chain with bar soap is helpful.

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    DC Jnell
    20 Mar 2020
    8:12am

    Yes, I second Minday…a pin (safety or straight) might work. A Rubic’s Cube for the fashionable.

    I’m OK. Travel journo lucky enough to have a desk job (from home these days). But corona and travel is my current beat, so I’ve been abjectly terrified for two months, thinking, “it’s coming, it’s coming.” And now that it’s here, I have no predictions. Just sitting here working, not cleaning my house and eating a lot of ice cream. Trying to get used to online sober support meetings instead of in-person ones, and being glad I have never two years sober because being quarantined newly sober would SUCK. Oh, and on the up side, doing a lot of yoga, trying to figure out how to help many friends in small businesses survive and planning a big flower-arranging party with myself this afternoon. (Local flower wholesaler still open and I can pick up flowers with no touch in my car). Surviving.

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      marjorie
      22 Mar 2020
      9:48pm

      i LOVE the gold shark tooth!

      i like looking at pretty things right now. feels healing. and also like a promise that someday we’ll get dolled up to be out in the world again.

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      Heather
      20 Mar 2020
      8:57am

      Congratulations on two years sober. That’s a huge accomplishment.

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        dcjnell
        20 Mar 2020
        2:22pm

        Thanks Heather!

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      LisaC
      20 Mar 2020
      9:03am

      Sober two years is a huge accomplishment. Bravo!

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      Tanya Hahni
      20 Mar 2020
      6:20pm

      You’re the first person I’ve heard bring up that they are not cleaning their house either! Every day I look around and think about what I could be cleaning and how there are only positive outcomes if I actually did clean, but day after day no cleaning is getting done…

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    LisaC
    20 Mar 2020
    9:15am

    Such a gorgeous tangle! I’ll echo what everyone else says – a safety pin and patience work. Plus, focus on untangling one at a time. I’ve been watching too much MSNBC and stewing in the news. Taking the dog out several times a day helps, and I’m going to start running again after doing short sprints with her. I have free weights in the basement from many years ago, so I can formulate a routine to complement the walks. I have stacks of unread books to plow through and my office could use a good organizing. Debating whether to make a PetSmart run or use Chewy.com to stock up on pet supplies. Time to focus on the things I can do rather than bemoaning the things I can’t.

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      Joan
      20 Mar 2020
      9:08pm

      If you are going to order Chewy, order way before you run out. My 2 day delivery order took almost 2 weeks. I was cooking more for my two dogs then I was for my husband and myself. I even bought a big package of chicken thighs that I am going to slo-cook this weekend as we aren’t allowed out

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      Shannon
      20 Mar 2020
      9:59am

      Yes. Just work on one necklace at a time. Like much of life, focusing on the entire tangle makes you jump from one thing to the other, never really fixing anything. I’m working from home, embracing my introverted nature, reading, baking and thinking about cleaning out closets. I’m trying to make the most of this forced quiet time. Good luck to you all!

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    MKW
    20 Mar 2020
    8:45am

    Three of us (plus a sassy min pin) housed here which includes daughter home from college. Good-bye empty nest. Iowa still operational but I predict that to end next week. Nearly melted down last night when hubby said he has no idea where his pocket hand sanitizer is located…“I guess in a pocket somewhere.” People, we have only three pocket-sized sanitizers! And he’s the one in the public. There’s advantages to low population density in Iowa… but it seems people are neglecting to read the coronovirus memos. Though they’ve wiped out stores of bread, toilet paper, eggs, canned goods and milk. What? Lots of fresh veggies and fruit yet. I guess there’s more of a taste for canned chili than fresh carrots!

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      dkl
      20 Mar 2020
      2:35pm

      Also in Iowa (Ames, where HyVee is pretty well stocked), this introvert is sewing like crazy. Staying in isn’t hard for me, but I worry about my anxious daughter, 8 months into a difficult pregnancy, who won’t be allowed visitors (even her daughter; even ME!) when she gives birth. Also, you know, the world. But that’s too much, so I go back to my sewing.

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      Leah
      20 Mar 2020
      11:00am

      The stores in St. Louis are exactly the same. I echo the comment about low population densities, it’s been a real advantage in the Midwest. I can go for a long walk with my dog around the neighborhood and see very few people.

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      Kathi
      20 Mar 2020
      10:10am

      I also live in Iowa (Cedar Rapids area) and ditto on what is missing in stores!!

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        MKW
        20 Mar 2020
        11:58am

        Hi! North Iowa. Near Mason City

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    20 Mar 2020
    8:51am

    Meeting new dogs in the neighborhood when I’m out walking mine! I know that sounds kind of lame but I feel comfort meeting new neighbors (from a distance!) and even just seeing all the people and their little ones out walking around throughout the day… it’s hard to articulate but there IS a sense of ‘we’re all in this together’ that is calming to me.

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    melsybelsy
    20 Mar 2020
    8:55am

    Yes! We should start a quarantine playlist. I find myself listening to a lot of Leonard Cohen and 40’s big band music. It would be nice to create one together. I’m lucky because I’ve been too busy to think about things – work has become surprisingly creative and innovative (NYC Teacher) in getting things online and (I teach visual art and media). I usually write really detailed travel journals when my family goes on trips. Now, I’m writing a COVID-19 journal. I want to mark this time in history for sure. The biggest hurdle is managing the balance of hyper-anxious spouse and making sure my tween/teen kids move a little during the day. I desperately need to exercise as when I stop moving I start hurting – my joints are stinky basically. We paid our cleaning lady for the next 2 months and told her we’ll be in touch when this blows over – so I guess housecleaning will become a new part of my exercise routine.

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      Mamavalveeta03
      20 Mar 2020
      7:51pm

      Bless you for taking care of your housekeeper.

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    CC
    20 Mar 2020
    8:57am

    I’m sort of ok and not. My husband (working from home since last Tuesday) and kindergartener and I haven’t melted down over being self-quarantined in our NYC apartment. I think feeling on the edge of doom has put us askew. When I’ve shopped for bread, groceries – just essentials – no one in Brooklyn seems to try to maintain the appropriate distance. Same when my child and husband go for a walk. I don’t know what to do – by definition I can’t do it alone, I need others to take this seriously. Should I not shop? I don’t know.

    The news about the stock sell-offs by senators who were briefed on the imminent crisis and who then repeatedly LIED to the country about how all was being done to keep us safe made me wish a certain 18th century punishment could be deployed with a quickness. I follow politics. I’ve never felt this before despite being left-leaning. I’ve grown to see as inevitable the lack of humanity to others abroad, and to the poorest and less visible here. This shit? This is, “anyone who isn’t my spouse or donor literally isn’t human.”

    I hope it’s ok I let that ^ out.

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      CC
      20 Mar 2020
      9:05am

      ^^ I tried to put in spaces and indentations! I’m sorry for the Wall of Text (of doom)!

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      y.k.
      20 Mar 2020
      9:10am

      Totally agree – those POS senators should be whipped & made to wear something like a scarlet letter “C” for corrupt- reading that a little while ago enraged me, but then i saw that photo above of kim’ s necklace tangle & laughed because i untangled my own mess last night.

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      Viajera
      20 Mar 2020
      2:51pm

      First of all, in general, if someone has a complaint … come sit by me! Second I totally feel for you about the whole human nature thing. It’s not going away, folks. I hope though that we will avoid the worst, and hang onto our souls as a nation. I think there’s a decent shot at it. (It helps that I don’t watch tv news…) I for one don’t mind though that you shared these thoughts, I have them too.

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      Mindy
      20 Mar 2020
      11:16am

      I feel your concerns. As an aside for you, national treasure (as far as I’m concerned), Mo Willems (brilliant author/illustrator of the Gerald & Piggie and Pigeon series, among others) started a “Lunch Doodle” series every day at 1:00 EST to connect with kids during this crisis and just doodle. He has a very calming personality.

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    Heather
    20 Mar 2020
    9:00am

    I’m extremely fortunate that i can work from home without significant disruption (uni professor). Yesterday I played hooky to hike with a friend, maintaining 6′ distance. Thank you, National Park Service for keeping trails open. Came home to news that my yoga studio had closed, which is perhaps for the best, but still sad. I worry about how this will impact women-owned businesses in particular.

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      Shannon
      20 Mar 2020
      11:24am

      Lots of yoga studios taking their schedules online. Hope that happens with your local!

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        Heather
        20 Mar 2020
        2:06pm

        I agree! She is going to put some classes on Youtube, but I hope she’ll also do the livestream thing that many studios are doing, so she could have some revenue coming in. Those of us who can afford to, would be glad to pay for these.

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    Jasmine
    20 Mar 2020
    9:27am

    I’m doing mat pilates workouts via IG and FB live every other day. The studio I usually go to is now doing mat classes via Zoom. Doing my first one tomorrow morning. I feel like this is something I’m clinging to in this crazy time.

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    Lennox
    20 Mar 2020
    9:28am

    I just received notification that I’ll be furloughed 2 weeks starting Monday. *Sigh* I know it’s a lot worse for artists and bartenders/baristas/waitstaff, but somehow I think it will be longer than 2 weeks. I’d like to go visit my parents, but traveling from DC to the rural area where they leave would be irresponsible and potentially deadly. My mom has begged me to come, but my dad is particularly vulnerable to COVID and I can’t risk it. Anyhow, I’ll be cooped up here, stress-cooking, toying with water colors, maybe writing a little. If any of you know of any volunteer organizations that need some remote help (happy to do the most monotonous tasks for a good cause) let me know!

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    Kimbersam
    20 Mar 2020
    1:40pm

    Still working a project. Standing up a website and a few months of newsletters, social, webinar content, etc. Roommate(s) (Actual roommate, her BF and the person she invited to live with us for free) continue not to clean, wash hands or wipe common surfaces. I’ve cooked dinner for them all a few times. Sourced and paid for the groceries and cleaned up after. I didn’t get so much as a thank you or offer to lift a finger. Are all 20 somethings like this when their parents aren’t around????? I’m utterly gobsmacked at the rudeness and selfishness of the three of them. We’ve got 2 dogs, 2 cats, 2 guinea pigs, 2 rats, and one chinchilla. So there is much cleaning and animal upkeep.

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      Viajera
      20 Mar 2020
      2:55pm

      Oh dear, that does sound like a lot to deal with. I will also say, at that age I was probably the same or worse. … If it were me, I’d just try to get them to do the handwashing thing. Btw it is turning out to be a myth that youngsters can’t die from it… in case that gets through at all. Be safe!

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        Kimbersam
        21 Mar 2020
        12:43pm

        Thank you! You too!

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    Jaimie
    20 Mar 2020
    1:25pm

    A few weeks ago (wow – a different time!) I pulled out a similar tangle of necklaces and just wore them like that. I thought it looked cool

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    Tahe Z
    20 Mar 2020
    10:48am

    I’m usually so laid back about stuff, but I’ve been feeling this low grade stress weighing on me over the last few days. When I got home I forced my 14yo son to go for a short walk and that time together was so good even though it was no more than 20 minutes. FaceTimed with my mom and her partner this morning. Its a great idea to reach out to those people that you love esp those who you haven’t spoken to in a while. That’s going to be my weekend task. I have to say that I feel like I’m in a bit of a vortex and not sure what to focus on or prioritize. Distracted by the news and every single Instagram post now more than ever. If you don’t follow @tonybakercomedy, now is the time to start for a much needed laugh.

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      Amy
      20 Mar 2020
      2:15pm

      Tony Baker is so funny. And nicely easy on the eyes 🙂

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    Pia
    20 Mar 2020
    11:05am

    Everyday I journal, mostly to document this craziness that I’m sure someone will want to turn into a movie : ) And I make sure to write a few things I’m grateful for, like the sun, my kids playing together, etc. Then I often take a hit off my vape pen and drift away.

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      Jen
      20 Mar 2020
      8:18pm

      Funny – I am actually writing a script based on the Diamond Princess, the ship that was quarantined off the coast of Japan. And I’m sure I’m not the only one!

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    MiMi
    20 Mar 2020
    11:13am

    I’d love to untangle that “mess” too. This is scary, anytime you feel you have no control it’s frightening. We will see our true measure as humans through this. Try to remember it’s a moment in time, not forever. Maybe take a cue from Italy and Spain and sing on our balconies!

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    Suzanne Mercier
    20 Mar 2020
    11:15am

    A sprinkle of baby powder works wonders to provide some extra slip. Then have at it with a straight pin/safety pin.

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    Suzanne Ryals
    20 Mar 2020
    11:16am

    Straight pins, a flat surface, good light, and patience. It’s like a puzzle. Work for a while, go away, come back. That way you don’t get frustrated. My experience at least.

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    Elizabeth
    20 Mar 2020
    11:27am

    As a bit of a young’un (32 and counting), I find myself in the odd position of being the village nag, chastising both my older friends and younger pals to “STAY THE F AT HOME.” That said, I am privileged to have books, food, and competent local officials (I live in Denver). I am also grateful for Arnold Schwarzenegger’s Twitter account, which is not something I ever thought I would say.

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      Jan W
      20 Mar 2020
      12:32pm

      Arnold! I thought the same thing. His video with the donkey and mini horse was so cute! What a nice side of him for us to view. I never ever thought I would say that after living in CA and having him as my governor.

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    Joannawnyc
    20 Mar 2020
    11:27am

    My library is closed, as well as the building it’s in, but we are all still coming in (mostly) as well as experimenting with working from home. The students were just informed that instruction will be online for the rest of the year and commencement is canceled. I am struggling to write an email to the 11 students who work for me, some of whom I will probably not see again as they are graduating in May. A friend set up a Discord server for writing sessions and even though there isn’t much chitchat it’s oddly soothing to feel like we’re working together on different things.

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    Shannon
    20 Mar 2020
    11:35am

    So far so good here in Dallas, though the numbers jump dramatically daily. Husband already works from home, and I teach yoga privately, so we’re in a rhythm that’s not too different from what we already do. No kids. This week being Spring Break, I was prepared to be slow. Next week I’ll start to teach classes and privates remotely via Zoom or Skype or something, and deciding whether to continue seeing any of my private students in person. Trying to support our local restaurants by ordering takeout more often than we would normally, and we’re still able to walk to the Trader Joe’s and pick up what we need for the day or the weekend. Writing, cleaning, cooking and thinking about a meditation/yoga/psychology & creative/collage workshop I’ve had on the drawing board for a few months now…Family is all well, though my nurse sister in DC is concerned about the extreme rationing of protective gear for her, her colleagues and patients. I’m anxious about the open-endedness of this. It’s only been a week 🙁

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    Kim
    21 Mar 2020
    6:56am

    I work in a pediatric ER but have been out with my kids on spring break this week. Also waiting to get my test result after developing a cough so I know if I can go back to work as scheduled. Have not felt too bad so assuming it’s the usual viral crud, although part of me hoping test is positive so I’ve had corona and can go back to work less worried about getting it. I live in an area of the Midwest where we haven’t been hit hard yet, but my colleagues in adult EDs say they’re seeing increasing numbers. At my hospital we are altering schedules, figuring out new processes to minimize risk, and talking about how to conserve PPE. Am reading multiple emails daily with ever-changing recommendations and listening in on ED town hall meetings. Will be going back to a whole new world on Monday. I am lucky to be taking care of kids, who generally don’t get as sick with this, but worried for my colleagues who have risk factors for severe illness and for those in private practice dealing with severe PPE shortages. Supposed to be working fewer shifts b/c of a just-awarded research grant but feeling guilty about that and don’t think it will be do-able for at least the next couple months given our increasing clinical load. Not sure how well I could focus on that work from home anyway with all of us cooped up together and my general anxiety level. On the plus side, am doing Zoom get togethers with friends, getting outside each day, just bought yarn for a virtual KAL, and have been doing puzzles with my kids.

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    Jamie
    22 Mar 2020
    11:57am

    I’m reminded of this song, because this whole thing is making me think of the things we consistently take for granted during ‘normal’ life:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iNEt60MoK_I

    As for what we’re doing around here to stave off the Jack Nicholson crazy: I’m trying to make at least one piece of art per day, and yesterday, started an installation piece on our front tree, so people going by will have something beautiful and inspiring (hopefully) to see on their daily (social distancing) walks.

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    Tanya Hahni
    20 Mar 2020
    6:42pm

    In Los Angeles, a shelter in place (aka “Safer at Home”) ordinance was put into effect last night which spiked my anxiety. It doesn’t change the day to day for me as I was already switched over to online university classes but I find myself being emotionally exhausted when I think of people who are 1) in dire situations financially and 2) those who live in homes where domestic violence is present. I have a very positive environment at home which I couldn’t be more grateful for.

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    LeighTX
    20 Mar 2020
    9:59am

    I’m able to work from home but the home is getting crowded: husband is also working from home, younger daughter is a senior in high school (so that brings added sadness, that she’s missing so much), and older daughter is heading home from her college apartment today (along with her cat, who will join the three dogs and three cats we already have). I’m trying to focus on gratitude, and ways to help others, and not worry about what might happen–but that is easier said than done. It is very hard to focus on work 8 hours a day with everything else going on!

    Oh, and I downloaded the Les Mills On Demand app so I can sort of keep up with my fitness classes–it’s free for two weeks and so far it’s been helpful for me.

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    Kathy O
    20 Mar 2020
    10:06am

    I had my first Zoom call with my brother in Singapore yesterday. It feels more in person than a phone call. What is your set up? Do you use a webcam? A stand for your phone? Sit at your desk or move around? I am going to set up coffee times or happy hours with my friends here and yonder.

    Oh, and a request — nicer working/hanging out at home clothing.

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    Mimsy B
    20 Mar 2020
    10:10am

    For the tangle, try pointy tweezers (best with two pairs, or tweezers and pin) and think it as unweaving, not unknotting. I work jewelry retail and we all fight over the untangling jobs, you really can get into a Zen state doing it! Right now my shop is closed and we’ve all been laid off indefinitely, so I’m working on my unemployment application and wishing I had a project like your tangle to work on!

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    Vbr
    20 Mar 2020
    10:08am

    Wow it felt so much better reading these comments and to know I’m not the only one going up and down by the hour or minute. Trying to shift thinking to gratitude and then sinking over one little thing. My pups are my sanity- and also tackling organizational areas- and office, a cupboard. Any small sense of control.

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    Kirstjen Lorenz
    20 Mar 2020
    10:16am

    To loosen tangles in jewelry, very gently rub the tangle between your thumb and forefinger. Once it loosens a little bit, you can pick it apart with a toothpick or safety pin or similar. Just be very gentle and slow at first.

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    c.w.
    20 Mar 2020
    10:19am

    As I said on the “home office” post, I woke up this morning, looked around and realized I needed to reset beginning with my home office (which is in a walk-in closet). I had my first bags of groceries delivered yesterday which was weird. One of those things that is important to do in regards to social distancing, but one is giving up a lot of control to trust someone else to select ones apples and avocados! My daughter is now officially “unemployed” so she can collect unemployment insurance. My son has garnered a few bits of recognition for setting up a GoFundMe site for the ten employees he had to lay off (his restaurant in Portland is only doing curbside service), but he is so stressed about laying them off he hasn’t slept well in days and days. I’m staying sane by walking Betty, reading, some mat pilates and connecting with friends via e-mail, text and FaceTime and, of course, reading this blog! This morning as Betty and I were coming back into the building after her before breakfast constitutional we ran into one of our neighbors who was taking his dog out for a walk. He stopped and looked at me and said, “I want to know how you’re doing.” I can’t tell you how much that touched me. People really DO care about each other. And I told him I was fine and thanked him for asking and we laughed about how neither of us ever thought walking our dogs would be one thing that would keep us grounded and sane because who among us could’ve ever imagined a future quite like this.

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    Jenny
    20 Mar 2020
    9:51am

    Nice to see so many DC folks on the list. My mood changes, radically, hourly. Yesterday was a meltdown. But I get out every day for a walk, (trying to contain my frustration at my fellow trail users who don’t know what 6 feet is –I don’t know either, but it’s more than they think!), do yoga streaming online, text with friends, and watch British crime shows with my boyfriend at a distance (we count down and hit play at the same time, and text our commentary). Right now my creativity and imagination are really at an ebb. I need them to come back, and come back strong, so I can figure out a more secure economic future. Until they do, I’m trying to stave off panic and not cry in front of my teenager.

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      Lennox
      20 Mar 2020
      9:56am

      Love your MO for watching British crime shows together / apart! And daily walks at dawn have been so important for keeping some shred of my sanity. DC solidarity.

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      Jenny
      20 Mar 2020
      9:53am

      Forgot to add — for really intransigent knots, use a drop or two of cooking oil, in addition to a safety pin. The cooking oil helps the links slide over each other.

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    Jan
    20 Mar 2020
    9:38am

    My oldest begins a 3-day trip in a loaded Uhaul, from Boulder back home (DC) this morning — so my heart and head will be with him until he lands on my doorstep Sunday night. Younger son splitting his time between my ex’s home and mine, and is cheerful and engaged — grateful to have young adults, and thinking a lot about those with young children and the challenge of close quarters. Concerned about a good friend who has come down with what she is positive is the virus, and is awaiting diagnosis. Concerned for several friends who are self-supporting sole practitioners, and what this means for their futures. Convinced there is a special place in hell for the POS senators, and the current administration…

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    Cl
    20 Mar 2020
    11:51am

    Front line ICU nurse, first day off this week. It is worse than you can imagine with no supplies, extremely ill patients and health care providers getting sick now too. We are exhausted, sad and have to keep showing up and helping. No visitors allowed- trying to show love and compassion in the midst of sorrow and tragedy, really hard.
    Slept till 10 am , first time in a decade. Getting ready to take my sweet senior citizen dog for a little hike. Grateful, blessed.
    Flowers on doorstep and kind text that a parking spot is street saved for me last nite (took 1 hr 15 min to find parking nite before- post a 12 hr shift).
    I am loved and people are kind.
    I know times are stressful for everyone. Please show extra kindness and love to any healthcare worker/MTA employee / first responder/door man/your bodega shop person- we would love to be home and stir crazy.

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      Kim
      20 Mar 2020
      2:53pm

      Thank you for what you are doing, CI!

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      Kim France
      20 Mar 2020
      1:21pm

      Stay strong, CI. You’re doing such important work.

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      MKW
      20 Mar 2020
      12:05pm

      So many prayers for you all on the front lines. Thank you.

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      Candy
      20 Mar 2020
      12:11pm

      Bless you for all you’re doing to care for people and keep us all safe. Take care of yourself !

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      Jennyg
      20 Mar 2020
      1:01pm

      Thank you for sharing. What an amazing friend to save a parking space. And thank you for all you are doing. My sister in law is an ER nurse in Chicago. So scared for her with 2 littles at home. I’m in oak park just outside of Chicago and we are in lockdown as of today. I’m so thankful for my dog and my introverted kids who are not really phased by this. Going on long walks has helped a lot and lots of cooking. The Daily podcast today was heartbreaking today about life in New York. This is the only news I can handle right now. I feel like my chest is on fire from the anxiety and stress. Today is the first day I feel lighter. Thanks Kim for this outlet. You are a gem!! Xo

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    Jane
    20 Mar 2020
    11:56am

    Things have been really rough. My family has suffered an untimely, unexpected and sudden death last week. This would be difficult enough, but with COVID-19, we cannot have a funeral. We cannot even mourn together. This is so hard. And as the virus spreads, so many other families around the world will feel this pain and my heart aches for them.

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      Christine
      22 Mar 2020
      1:26pm

      I’m so sorry, Jane. I know it’s not the same, but perhaps planning a memorial service to be held at a later date will help with the feeling of helplessness and make you feel that you are doing something concrete to honor the one you lost.

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    MaryAlice
    20 Mar 2020
    12:31pm

    The single thing that’s helped me is the hour long walk with the dogs that I take every afternoon. It lifts my spirits so much. Fresh air and exercise do wonders!

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    Robin
    20 Mar 2020
    12:39pm

    baby oil and a thinly tined fork can work wonders on a tangle of necklaces! good luck and stay well. i am trying to balance working from home, interning from home and actually doing something for myself–it’s way too easy to justs tay working…

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    Kathy
    24 Mar 2020
    12:14am

    Agree with everyone re: using two pins. In addition, I usually choose one of the finer chains—unclasped—and stay focused on freeing it from the others. Unwrapping it from the others is like a miniature version of some of the physical challenges on Survivor. 😹

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    Tina
    24 Mar 2020
    3:54pm

    Use two pins, as others have suggested. Also, place a small drop of oil on the tangle or knot to make sliding everything apart easier.

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