Grey does not have to be impossible

“Who does grey look good on anyway?” my sister in law Shirim asked me this morning, echoing the sentiments of many, and possibly you. For years I too was convinced it was a color that made me look like death, but then I realized that all you need is a nice bold lip to counteract the washing-out effect it can have. Also, I follow the advice of former Sassy fashion editor, Mary Clarke, who once told me that if there’s a color you love that doesn’t exactly suit you, just make certain you’ve got another, more flattering hue closest to your face.

I still haven’t gotten myself a  is velvet blazer—I’ve been coveting one for over a year now—and this one is very nearly perfect.

Light grey pants can be unflattering if you’ve got hips—or at least that is the fear—but these are not only excellently cut, they’re satisfyingly dark.

This fine-striped tee would be excellent for layering.

The dog chewed my perfect grey suede Vans (which were limited-edition and no longer available, of course)  so I’m thinking of getting these as a substitute.

I love the faded-out look here, and I usually dislike when clothes are pre-faded or distressed.

I looked at a few V-neck sweaters for this post, and this is the one I liked best: nice and roomy and slouchy.

Just a super-cute star tee.

This cardigan has such a great live-in-it-always feel.

And from Kara: this streamlined backpack.

I love the idea of a grey suede boot, and these are pretty much exactly right.

Top 5 of the week: Earrings

I’ve got four pierces in my left ear and two on my right, and I wear the same earrings every day—eensy gold hoops that I never take out. This, alas, is beginning to bore me, so I’ve been thinking about subbing out the bottom hoops with something a bit prettier or more interesting. This extra-splurgetastic Ted Meuhling pair is so gorgeous, and—for now—just a dream.

I don’t think there are many things sexier than an oversized pair of hoops.

These star studs are from the collection I designed for Iconery, and I must say they turned out pretty cute.

This Ten Thousand Things pair is so pretty and sculptural.

And finally: these are small, but definitely statement-making.

What throw pillows have to do with my love life

Recently, my friend Will told me that my apartment doesn’t feel like the person who’s living there is very settled. Mostly he’s referring to my supernatural ability to attract clutter, and my extra bedroom, which basically functions as a storage facility. His theory is that this puts guys off when I bring them home, a topic we were on because I was somewhat recently dumped by a man I had only been seeing briefly but liked a lot, and was entirely mystified as to why. I’m pretty much over the getting dumped part, but Will’s criticism stuck: I love and feel perfectly settled in my place, but the truth is that it is absent some of the kind of finishing touches that make a house feel like a home, like say throw pillows for the sofa. So I’ve been looking for some nice bright ones, cause my sectional is a lovely but somewhat boring grey. This one is from Liberty—it’s their Ianthe print, which is one of my favorites, and I think the colors are fantastic.

This is kind of retroish and cute.

Another rather retroish choice: it reminds me of the kitchen in the house where I spent my early childhood.

I like the geometric print here, and the unexpected mix of colors.

This one is so damn cheery.

Just a lot of nice reds.

I’m really digging the combination of army green and pink here, and of course it’s hard for me to resist including a leopard print.

A pricey but oh-so-beautiful choice from Missoni.

And here’s a not-especially-bright but very fun Marimekko print.

And finally: this is just lunacy, but I love it so much.

It’s the little things—a few things

I had so much fun on Monday getting to know loyal commenters (and delightful people) C.W. and Mamavalveeta during a mini-meetup we had out in Amagansett. After a nice long visit, we concluded affairs the way all GOACA meetups should end: with shopping. How cute is my new hat?

Here’s a cheaper-but-similar version.

I surprise myself by liking this peplum blouse. It’s more girly than I usually go, but I’m thinking the tiniest bit of waist definition isn’t the worst thing.

One of my yoga teachers, the peerless Joanna Ross-Tash, forgot her sunglasses on our recent retreat to Italy. So—as I never travel without an extra pair because I’m so paranoid about my light sensitivity—I lent her my spare: a pair of blue ones from Celine that are in extra high rotation. I told her to guard them with her life and give them back once we got home. Alas, she lost them and felt terrible and sent me this link to the very pair, and cheaper than I paid for them. I told her not to worry about the glasses—because Lord knows I have plenty—and we agreed to call it even in exchange for dinner and a private, so really I’m thinking I come out ahead on account of the fact that Joanna is great. But I’m so pleased to have discovered Smart Buy Glasses, the resource she linked me to, because it’s a fantastic resource for cheaper (as in: still not cheap) out-of-season fancy sunglasses.

Friend breakups: Discuss

Friend breakups can be as painful and mysterious as romantic breakups, I think—Lord knows enough has been written about them. I’ve had a couple over the decades, and they’re brought their own unique pain, torture, and—in one case—relief. I’m curious how many of you have had a friendship hit the skids, and eager to know how you dealt with it. Did you mourn endlessly, move on quickly, or—as was the case recently with me—come back together after a certain amount of time?

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